cleanbluesky said:
You're 18, you've just become a 'young adult' - how do you see fit to pass judgement on others whose ages mean that they have experienced things you have not?
You surely must consider yourself 'adult'?
I am adult in mind and in the way I think, my emotional maturity is that of a teenager.
I certainly do not act my age, but when I get pushed to far I certainly do in the emotional side of things, I take offence more easily than someone older than myself and am more self concious however I certainly do not act like your stereotypical 18 year old.
I see it fit to pass judgement on others when I have seen their actions and the consequences first hand from people twice my age, yet they are actions I would never even consider doing due to how much hurt they could cause.
I will pass judgement on anyone who shows enough of their true character to be judged. I certainly do not show an awful lot of 'me' in my posts as I have an internet persona of sorts.
I do not think you can consider yourself 'adult' or not, personally I still think and act the way I did when I was 15 and nothing has changed, I have a lot more backbone and things people say do not spark anything near the reaction they used to. I believe that you are an adult when the people who know you well consider you to be an adult, before then you are still a child as after all being an adult is only a concept we have in our heads.
Life experience is great and it really does have the potential to make you a better person, with bad experiences it is not that they have happened but how we pick ourselves up after them which defines who we are. Life experiences without maturity on all accounts is useless, reacting to things in an adult way has no relevance to age.
A three year old can share, yet you can have a thirty year old who never does. Which of the two is more adult in their actions?
Emotionally the three year old is not even worth comparing to the thirty year old, however by the actions which is ultimately what you see the three year old is more 'adult'.
I hope you get what I am trying to say, it is rather hard for me to explain how I perceive what being an 'adult' is. I firmly categorise myself as being a teenager, however I can be as adult as my 50 year old parents 24/7 until you throw something like a pregnant Girlfriend at me. At that point emotional maturity sets in and I am likely to react a lot worse than my parents would in the same situation.