Awkward Situation at work.......help

King85 · 3 Apr 2013 at 09:48

TriedandTested said:
Should have just said no, flat out - and gave the reasons you did in your OP here. You started off well with your text but weakened by the end!

You're not an employee of theirs.

This really. Claiming you're not ready to do this yet leaves the door open for the future where a firm no would have closed it.

To those claiming he's been done a favour and now owes one it sound more like they're doing each other a favour as he claims it is mutually beneficial for him to be there and I'd assume this means he's sorting out work for them in return.

Tachyon · 3 Apr 2013 at 10:45

Efour said:
Does your camera have one of those out of focus buttons on it that makes food blurry ?

Lol, not sure if you're winding him up here or not but it gave me a laugh. You sure it's not a blender you're thinking of.

Westyfield2 · 3 Apr 2013 at 11:29

Whilst I agree with the whole "not training up your replacement unless you're being paid extra" thing... if he really has done you a favour with the premises and discount rent, don't you then owe him a favour back?

mmj_uk · 3 Apr 2013 at 12:02

Westyfield2 said:
if he really has done you a favour with the premises and discount rent, don't you then owe him a favour back?

This is my view, whether or not he intends to replace you refusing to do him a favour isn't going to help matters either way. He could just be contingency planning fearing that you might eventually leave.

Six6siX · 3 Apr 2013 at 12:04

OP has said that the relationship is already mutually beneficial. This is over and above whatever that may be.

Zogger · 3 Apr 2013 at 12:09

4T5 said:
Sleep with his wife, That usually solves any minor issues.

Sounds like a consolidated loan.
Why have ten small issues when you could consolidate them all into one easy to manage big issue, with a simple repayment plan!

oulton · 3 Apr 2013 at 12:16

Surely if you have spent so many years developing these techniques you are being a bit paranoid about the guy learning them in a bit of shadowing!

s0ck · 3 Apr 2013 at 12:26

Antony101 said:
Or just let him shadow you and teach him a load of old ****e.

BunnyKillBot said:
That is a terribly selfish, egotistical, paranoid and delusional world perspective. My skills, my precious. Are you Gollum?

He may have a point! You know you're awesome when you share everything you have and still no one can touch you. Remember Thresh from Q2? I remember looking at his config thinking *WTF* - the answer to demi-god quake leetness is in here somewhere...

BunnyKillBot said:
Altruism is the path to success.

I saw on discovery the other day that altruism is nothing more than a genetically coded survival instinct, proven by some uber formula, which is kind of where the OP is coming from with his initial post. Two sides of the same coin?

wingman · 3 Apr 2013 at 12:29

Ultimately it depends on the nature of his brother. If he genuinely wants to learn, you could use this and work him hard, potentially getting him to do the leg work whilst you don't have to.

If he's not prepared to learn and blatantly doesn't care about being there, that will show very obviously also, and then you can have a word about just why he is there.

I predict the former, and if he does want to learn, he could prove to be a free, valuable asset to you.

CaptainRAVE · 3 Apr 2013 at 13:40

[TW]Fox;24051898 said:
So this guy is giving you help by giving you great rates and a place to start your business.

I can see why you wouldn't want to do him any favours. Best keep those super rare secrets to yourself.

This tbh (also made me lol

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Resident · 3 Apr 2013 at 13:45

BunnyKillBot said:
Even the manager of a McDonalds wont know whats in the special sauce.

Except there is no 'special' sauce and what sauces they do use have the ingredients list on the packaging. So not only do the managers know but so do the low level employees.

OT: I'd go with what the majority have said and politely decline

wildman · 3 Apr 2013 at 14:07

{SAS}TB said:
And finish him off in the store room ?

with a carbon fibre manfrotto up the bottom ?..................

BunnyKillBot · 3 Apr 2013 at 14:39

Resident said:
Except there is no 'special' sauce and what sauces they do use have the ingredients list on the packaging. So not only do the managers know but so do the low level employees.

OT: I'd go with what the majority have said and politely decline

Metaphor is a colloquailism... Overthink a simple thing and you will end up with your head in a bucket.

Combat squirrel · 3 Apr 2013 at 14:50

Thread got out of hand somewhat! lol all points noted -_- lol