Back with an EX

Going back more than a decade now to early days out of school but... I'd broke up with a girl after nearly 2 years together. It was an amicable breakup as we agreed we were just moving in different directions. About 9 months (and a couple of flings) later we got back together but it wasn't working out for me - unfortunately she didn't agree and this separation was ugly. Wish I hadn't gone back with her because it ended up ruining the friendship we'd maintained from the first break up.
 
Update

We spoke tonight for a good hr and we both felt that the relationship didn't need to end. However she is going to work through it and agreed not to suffocate me so to speak and i needed to talk to her instead of just bottling it up.

The relationship is ok but we will both be taking it slow :)
 
Depends on the circumstances.

I broke up with a girl because she was out of the country for a year. Following a series of encounters (some sweet, some bitter), we are back together and have been happy for 5 months. :cool:
 
been there, done that....it still didnt work.

i say if you had reason enough to break up in the first place, move onto someone better.
 
broke up year later got back lasted a month didnt talk for a year started talkin she had a bf, started to see each other for meals nothin special and every time i saw her i kept on realising why we broke up may not work for me or the other man in the street its all depending on the people and enviroment
 
I don't think your situation is the same that most people would refer to as getting back with an ex if you've only been apart 3 days! It sounds to me more like an argument gone wrong, where you didn't really want to split up but decided to say so in the heat of the moment. Now that you've had time to calm down, you've started to realise this may have been a bad idea.

You really need to sit down and talk to her about the problems you were having while you're both calm. Some people react very badly to stress, I know I had an awful time when my boyfriend was having problems with work. You need to find a way to help her relax and totally take her mind off it, it really can make a difference.

For what it's worth, I've done the whole getting back with an ex thing, and the biggest factor in if it will work again is the reason you broke up. If it's something that can't change or you've already tried working on it and failed, then it's unlikely the relationship will work.
I broke up with my boyfriend after a month, then we got back together a year later. We've been together almost 4 years now and are very happy. The break up wasn't anything to do with how we got on or our feelings for each other though, and the reasons were gone by the time we got back together.
 
I KNOW NOTHING . . .

but I know that all women are MAD as fruit cakes.

mmmmmmm fruit cakes . . .

So when they are moaning at you and having a go - taking it all out on you - take no notice - keep calm - its nothing to do with you (generally speaking) - just say yes dear and bow your head in shame.

Menstrual Chaos is the key here - thats what they have to put up with - as for us - we also have to deal with MC (someone else's which is obviously 10 x worse) + our own stuff + they are mad + they are a completely different species that communicates in a random, illogical fashion - there is absolutely no logic to their behaviour and mindset - so what chance do we have?!?!?!?

LOL

Dont sweat the small stuff . . . . EVERYTHING is small stuff!

khushy
 
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