Bad friends...

M0T · 22 Aug 2006 at 03:01

I was doing some thinking earlier about my state of mind during the past year and thinking through why I got so depressed I ended up posting everything bad in my life on an internet forum. The disturbing conclusion I reached was that none of my 'friends' would talk to me when I tried to speak to them.

It became so bad that at one point none of my close friends would do anything with me because I 'brought the mood down without saying anything' which obviously made me worse because my friends deserted me. Obviously all I needed was someone to talk to because someone I hadn't spoken to in ages got in contact and I spent a week with her and was all better

On finding this out all my other friends got jealous and suddenly I was in demand again :confused:

This has got me a tad annoyed since I thought friends were supposed to stick with you through thick and thin and I can only really think of 2 people that have done that, and most of the year one of those is halfway up the country.

So I obviously am thinking that these people arn't as good friends as I used to think they were, so how do I find more. Where do people make new friends?

Insanity · 22 Aug 2006 at 03:03

M0T said:
Where do people make new friends?

The internet.

Van Hellseek · 22 Aug 2006 at 03:04

M0T said:
Where do people make new friends?

You think new friends will be any different?

Justintime · 22 Aug 2006 at 03:04

Yea they suck, i got some mates who stick with me through thick and thin and make sure to call me up and see if i'm ok almost everyday, got some medical issues and they've helped me tons.

M0T · 22 Aug 2006 at 03:05

seek said:
You think new friends will be any different?

Well I have 2 decent friends, theres gotta be more out there!

I think a lot of it is to do with the fact that these 2 people have been through some pretty serious stuff themselves and realise how much you can need someone.

Nikias · 22 Aug 2006 at 03:13

Clubs and societies might be a good start; there's a common interest to start with at least.

The Pat · 22 Aug 2006 at 03:15

Crispy Pigeon said:
Clubs and societies might be a good start; there's a common interest to start with at least.

Yea just go to places you like and generally you'll meet someone who you get along with.

banja · 22 Aug 2006 at 03:16

This idea that people have 'loads' of friends is absolute rubbish. If they believe that then they have't got any real friends at all. I think a person is lucky if they have five REAL friends in the world.

Mates yes, acquaintances yes, colleagues, buddies, chums etc. Yeah.

But real friends are the ones you KNOW will get out of bed at 4am to help you, give you all their money to help you out of a jam. Let you stay at their house indefinitely if you need to. And more than this, you might have friends who would do this for you, but you might not want to ask.

The real friend is the one you know you can ask.

Don't stress about what people think of you. As people fall asleep at night, they aren't thinking of you and your feelings.

Justintime · 22 Aug 2006 at 03:18

banja said:
This idea that people have 'loads' of friends is absolute rubbish. If they believe that then they have't got any real friends at all. I think a person is lucky if they have five REAL friends in the world.

Mates yes, acquaintances yes, colleagues, buddies, chums etc. Yeah.

But real friends are the ones you KNOW will get out of bed at 4am to help you, give you all their money to help you out of a jam. Let you stay at their house indefinitely if you need to. And more than this, you might have friends who would do this for you, but you might not want to ask.

The real friend is the one you know you can ask.

Don't stress about what people think of you. As people fall asleep at night, they aren't thinking of you and your feelings.

Got 4 like that.

banja · 22 Aug 2006 at 03:22

Two here.

Used to be four. But they got married.

Justintime · 22 Aug 2006 at 03:23

Yea had a few really good mates, minute they got girlfriends or married i totally lost contact

banja · 22 Aug 2006 at 03:25

Like a shadow of their formers selves? Slipping gingerly into the shadow or marital security??

Justintime · 22 Aug 2006 at 03:26

banja said:
Like a shadow of their formers selves? Slipping gingerly into the shadow or marital security??

summin like that aye

The Pat · 22 Aug 2006 at 03:57

banja said:
Like a shadow of their formers selves? Slipping gingerly into the shadow or marital security??

Lost one of mine like that and I'm only 18 and so is he. He's not married but he is a shadow of his former self. I'm wondering if succubus' are real.

banja · 22 Aug 2006 at 04:03

My enemy's friend is my friend.

Succubus is friends with men's spinelessness.

daveyj27 · 22 Aug 2006 at 12:25

M0T said:
Obviously all I needed was someone to talk to because someone I hadn't spoken to in ages got in contact and I spent a week with her and was all better

Is this "someone" the girl who was walking all over you a few weeks back?

iCraig · 22 Aug 2006 at 12:28

M0T said:
Where do people make new friends?

Anywhere and everywhere. There is no set place.

karoshi · 22 Aug 2006 at 12:32

so how do I find more. Where do people make new friends?

if you find the answer to that one please let me know.. until this morning i had four really close friends.. i think i'm down to three now.. possibly down to two.

nothing in my power that i could do really about the situation but i'm going to end up being the "illegitamate child" on this one

ho hum, in response to the o/p if they deserted you they weren't real friends i'd say.

B@Th*nG · 22 Aug 2006 at 12:33

banja said:
Two here.

Used to be four. But they got married.

a-men brotha!

B@Th*nG

kitten_caboodle · 22 Aug 2006 at 13:09

B@Th*nG said:
a-men brotha!

B@Th*nG

funny that. Happened to two of my closest female friends too. Another has been married the longest and it doesn't seem to have affected her friendships or that of her husbands. Guess some people get what they want out of their partner and don't need their friends anymore. Or their partner doesn't approve