Bartender at Wetherspoons

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I have been thinking about asking one of the bartender out at Whetherspoons, i go in there for lunch and i am not sure but she seems that she might be interested. I asked her where she was from and did some small talk. I am not sure if i should ask her out for coffee, should i ask her if she likes coffee first as apart of a conversation? I've been reading up on a lot people say never ask bartender out as they never give out numbers because they get asked all the time. When i go in its usually quiet and i try make small talk. I still don't know her name so that's probably next question to ask, she is from italy but speaks great english and seems realy pleasant.

 

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I always struggle in the way to frame the discussion with giving my number out like that

just don't tell her what you think of gays and other races

I would never discuss those opinions in public especially not with a girl i am trying to speak to. oh and i don't have opinions on other races wtf ?

 

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I have never tipped. So that's a good sign. She is very friendly so it is difficult to say whether she is interested or not.

Thanks burnsy if i thought anything of your opinion then that might actually be offensive

 

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I don't think you can tip like that at whetherspoon as you pay when you order at the bar. I was thinking of just asking her out for coffee, but that seems like stupid thing to say.

 

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If you hold opinions so repellent that they should not be discussed in public, perhaps it would be best to revise them.

It is not that they are "repellent" is just that most people don't like talking about politics or such issues all the time. I will only discuss my opinions about such subjects if the topic comes up in discussion and people want to hear my opinion about it. Otherwise i risk coming across as some over zealous dogmatic loud mouth who no one would want to be around.

It just so happens that this forum often discusses such topics and i am quite opinionated otherwise if you met me you would never know that i am anti feminist anarcho capitalist etc.

 

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freefaller, see my other response above.

Its more about what to say or what angle to take to be successful. I don't lack confidence in general, i am just rubbish at putting those sorts of conversations together. Some people are realy natural about it and i just not. Otherwise i am quite confident its messed up. I guess ill have to just try and make small talk and that casually just ask her out for coffee some time and see what she says. Ill try next time i go in there.

 

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Not happy with the OP's use of Bartender to describe a Barmaid!

Serious? I even goggled it and came across a yahoo answers that said that bartender was the correct term as barmaid was dated. lol i was going to use "bar lady", how about the girl behind the bar at whetherspoon who makes drinks and takes orders.

 

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OP didn't progress with the Pret A Manger girl even with excellent guidance from myself and others. I expect nothing more to come of this one either.

e: wait, OP is groen, right?

e2: aha! another lucky groen lady venture

e3: Which makes post #18 in this thread all the more magnificent. Groenception, burnsy. Bravo!

Thanks for the encouragement magnolia and burnsey. Ill try deliver this time. Last time they moved the pret girl to another branch just as i was going to ask her out.

 

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thanks for the tips. I think ill try speak to her a bit more every time i go in there, probably better than asking right away as that just seems dumb.