Being 'on a break' in a relationship..

Fairly sure the answer is no said:
funny everyone says on a break means it's over, when imo on a break means a very short term emotional spaz where the girl feels unloved and wants you to prove your love so "leaves" you and waits to see what you do next.

i'm shocked at how quickly the op suggested looking for the next girl as well. even if i've just had 3/4 dates with a girl and decide it's not working, i'm not instantly thinking ok next girl.

everyone seems to be ****ging the girl off but from what you've put i'd say you're the one making all the mistakes here, and you're 5 years older.
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lol

She is 18, 3 months and they are on a break. It's not working.

You sure you're male?
 
Being on a break means one or both of you don't want to work through the issues you're faced with. This means you should sever and date other people.

Also, you don't have a relationship with an 18 year old. You pretend to care about her trivial, empty teen issues whilst being outwardly smug about banging an 18 year old.
 
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Fairly sure the answer is no said:
funny everyone says on a break means it's over, when imo on a break means a very short term emotional spaz where the girl feels unloved and wants you to prove your love so "leaves" you and waits to see what you do next.
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If that's the case then even more reason to break up. That attitude would just be incredibly emotionally immature, although perfectly in line with what most 18 year old girls would be like.

OP: It's clearly not working. Unless you're mad about her, which I suspect isn't the case from what you've said, be the better person, break up with her and move on.
 
Defy Belief said:
we are now 'on a break' from each other
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Defy Belief said:
I'm 23 and she's 18.
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Fairly sure the answer is no said:
funny everyone says on a break means it's over, when imo on a break means a very short term emotional spaz where the girl feels unloved and wants you to prove your love so "leaves" you and waits to see what you do next.

i'm shocked at how quickly the op suggested looking for the next girl as well. even if i've just had 3/4 dates with a girl and decide it's not working, i'm not instantly thinking ok next girl.

everyone seems to be ****ging the girl off but from what you've put i'd say you're the one making all the mistakes here, and you're 5 years older.
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After only 3 months the OP would be slightly nuts to think anything else. Don't hate on him for being sensible.
 
Fairly sure the answer is no said:
funny everyone says on a break means it's over, when imo on a break means a very short term emotional spaz where the girl feels unloved and wants you to prove your love so "leaves" you and waits to see what you do next.

i'm shocked at how quickly the op suggested looking for the next girl as well. even if i've just had 3/4 dates with a girl and decide it's not working, i'm not instantly thinking ok next girl.

everyone seems to be ****ging the girl off but from what you've put i'd say you're the one making all the mistakes here, and you're 5 years older.
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I'm not doing that for nobody, if they aren't happy with how i've been then tough, don't need to prove myself to her.

It's not been a long time, yeah I care about her, but 2 weeks of arguing and drama leads your mind elsewhere. Seems like you get tied up all too easily..

You say I'm 5 years older, as if i'm not acting maturely about the situation, I was the one that would have rather done it face to face to either solve it/end it and know what's going on.
 
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Gilly said:
I'm older now than the last time I was with one, but I'm sure they haven't changed much. Fun to be around in a... less than intellectual way.

Grating after a while though.
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I can't tell if you are on about a female or a kitchen utensil...
 
Aint they both the same James ;)

I got with my girlfriend at 16, Im now 19 and shes 20 .. Been with her almost 4 years :') I couldn't see myself messing around with other teenage lasses if we broke up id leave it for a while and just take stuff home on nights out to kill the time. Lasses around my age are pathetic
 
Somthing Else said:
Guarantee she has been getting a right good rodding from another guy who is "just a friend"
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That is what they say.

Here's some advice from another forum:

Your girlfriend asked for a break.

90% of the time in which a woman asks her boyfriend for a break, it's because there is another guy chasing her. This doesn't mean she is dating this other guy, but it's very probable that she is very interested in this other person.

Women are like Tarzan. They don't let go of one branch until they have hold of another. Therefore, if things are fine with your girlfriend and then she says "she's confused", it's probably because she has another guy in her view (DO NOT ask her because she will deny it).

Clearly, she is very calm because she knows that you are likely in love with her and when she wants to return, she will, because you will be in your bed, crying over her. Knowing this, she has complete control to try out this new
relationship, while knowing that she still has her other option (YOU!).

Surely, since she told you she is "confused" you smothered her with phonecalls, e-mails, requests, etc. which did nothing but confirm to her that she has you wrapped around her finger. She left you and she knows that she still has you, and the only one hurting over this is YOU!

But... What would happen if she didn't hear from you anymore? What would happen if you don't call her? if you don't chase after her anymore? What will happen if she learned through common friends that you don't talk about her anymore and that you are doing just great without her and moving on with your life?

If she cares, she will realize that she is losing you and only then will she try to fix things. What you decide to do with her is up to you. You have asserted control over the situation.
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I tried it after being with my Mrs for 2 and a half years. We'd just grown apart, no arguing. But it was awful. We got back together and it didn't work out.
 
My cousin was 18 when I was 26.



Whenever I saw her I could not believe how annoying she was, so blinded by real stu*id stuff, getting upset over stu*id things, making a big deal out of nothing and generally driving everybody crazy

It really opened my eyes as to how much you grow up from 18 - 25.

Shes 20 now and still as annoying as hell.
 
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