Bereavement

Erazor

Erazor

Erazor

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My brother who lives in my flat died today, the police officer told my boss and I have the day off tommorrow :( Do I still go monday,tuesday,wednesday. What about the funeral?

Anybody with any experience? :(
 
well if it were me i'd be off till the funeral was sorted then look at taking some leave afterwards
 
Sorry to hear that :(

I so believe it's down to the companiy discretion as to how much leave they give you, but standard practice for such a close family member appears to be at least a week.
 
Dude, your brother has just died. Forget about work in the meantime, I'm sure your employer will understand.

Do you have any other family to help with funeral arrangements? As the police are involved I assume it was an untimely death?

Sorry to hear about that.

Ar dheis Dé go raibh a anam. :(
 
From an official standpoint there's no statutory legal requirement for them to give you bereavement leave.
The standard procedure should the be evil enough to refuse bereavement is to go to a doctor and get signed off with stress (which under the circumstances will be no issue).

Personally, I'd take it off either way, there are more important things than work, and this is one of them.
 
Scuzi said:
Dude, your brother has just died. Forget about work in the meantime, I'm sure your employer will understand.

Do you have any other family to help with funeral arrangements? As the police are involved I assume it was an untimely death?

Sorry to hear about that.

Ar dheis Dé go raibh a anam. :(
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Yes, the police took me to the mortuary as a courtesy :(

He was kicked off his accountacy course, and jumped into a river without leaving a note an hour after they told him. The university will pay for this :mad: :mad:

What action can I take against them?
 
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No action... Assuming they had a valid reason to do it then they have done what would be expected, it's terrible that your brother saw this as his only alternative, it's a great pity.
My sympathy to you and your family
 
Erazor said:
Yes, the police took me to the mortuary as a courtesy :(

He was kicked off his accountacy course, and jumped into a river without leaving a note an hour after they told him. The university will pay for this :mad: :mad:

What action can I take against them?
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I'm very sorry to hear of your loss :( I cannot imagine how you must feel right now. As others have said, take as long as you need. Don't worry about work for the time being.

As for what action you can take against them, why do you want to take action against them? In my honest opinion, the university are not responsible for this. Not everyone makes it through a university course and I speak from experience after failing a module in my final year. Please don't pursue any legal action against them :(
 
Erazor said:
Yes, the police took me to the mortuary as a courtesy :(

He was kicked off his accountacy course, and jumped into a river without leaving a note an hour after they told him. The university will pay for this :mad: :mad:

What action can I take against them?
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Well it really depends on why they did it. I don't mean to sound harsh but unless they've done something really out of order then this isn't their fault.

Really sorry for your loss though. :(
I'd take as much time off work as you need.
 
Thanks for all your comments, every hour, the house is filling up with more and more people to well wish.. 30 at the last count :(
 
Sorry to hear that Erazor mate,

I had a close member of my family guy december last year, ended up breaking down for several weeks. Don't let it happen to you, talking to people helps a lot and I hella wish I had done it.

I'm on msn if you ever want a chat :)
 
Jaffa_Cake said:
Sorry to hear that Erazor mate,

I had a close member of my family guy december last year, ended up breaking down for several weeks. Don't let it happen to you, talking to people helps a lot and I hella wish I had done it.

I'm on msn if you ever want a chat :)
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Thanks for the offer, I don't shatter easily but I cannot hold my tears back. I really loved him. I am talking to all the well wishers to calm me down.

Such a tragic waster of life :(
 
I'm so sorry to hear that, it is indeed a waste of a life.

As has already been said, don't worry about work, give them a phone call and say you wont be in for a few weeks. Use AL if needed.

Remember to look after yourself in the next few weeks.

R.I.P
 
You should take as long off your work as you need. If your employer is any good they will stick by you. No point you being at work in body but not mind.

It is such a tradegy and I hope you and your family can come to terms with it. You will learn to deal with it given time. He will always be there in your memories and your heart, don't dwell on how or why he died it will eat you up, sometimes there are no answers.

He was a great guy, your brother, you loved him. Hold onto his memory.
 
Thanks again lads, we always used to watch movies, eat food, and play command and conquer together. I will keep these happy memories with me until the day I die :)
 
dam that sucks sorry to hear this , just remember the good old times not the last time you saw him
 
Sorry for your loss m8. Go back to work when you feel you can me personally would want anything up to a month off. Your doctor would give you cover if you explain whats happened. Sorry again. :(
 
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