Better to have loved and lost than to never have loved?

I'm getting a little tired of this irritating notion that I've missed the boat on this. I'm so young yet I feel so old, it's horrible.

Ah well. Three years ago, the lonliness I felt from being single would often eat me up. These days, I don't feel lonely, but I am very bored with life and I envy those who are seeing it with different eyes. Yet, almost in the same instant that I entertain these thoughts, I stop caring again because that's how I've learnt to cope. Life is about passion; it's no fun without it.

It's quite simple really. It's not about having someone to hold your hand, it's about feeling alive.

Who wants to live a life devoid of passion? Not me.
 
I've never been in love, I've been in one happy relationship, my only serious one and that ended pretty badly with me cutting myself off from everyone I knew at the time, something I have yet to remedy and that was over 3 years ago now and to be honest have probably been making worse over the last year.

Being alone sucks and being lonely sucks, however I kind of have a double edged sword effect going in that I don't know what love is like and therefore am not entirely sure what I'm missing but also knowing I'm missing something that most people describe as worthy of the pain of losing it is a truly horrible feeling.

However, being in love requires human interaction and I'm not so hot with that any more.

But life goes on and regardless, being alone will always be easier. I may be unhappy but I'm not depressed, I get on with my life and enjoy certain things just as much as everyone, things could be worse and Love is not at the top of my life's list of things that need changing.
 
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Holly: It's better to have loved and to have lost than to listen to an album by Olivia Newton-John.

Cat: Why's that?

Holly: Anything's better than listening to an album by Olivia Newton-John!

^ Red Dwarf :)

And I've been with the ball and chain for 5 years now :) so yeah its good!
 
Im currently going through the meat-grinder (wife of 5yrs walked out on me) so Im well placed to answer your question.

My answer is yes. Better to have loved and lost. As painful as a breakup is I feel the pain of regret when you DONT do something can be greater. So dont pass up the opportunity when you do meet someone amazing and get a chance to share your life with them.

Another thing: a breakup CAN destroy you but only if you LET IT. My wife told me she wants out in Sept 2009. For 5 weeks after that I thought this was it - no point in goin on anymore. Im gonna be alone, its finished. But then the survival-mode kicked in with my brain screaming "You gonna let this woman wreck your life?! Oh hell no!"

It hasnt been easy and still isnt but you just get on with it. You either sink or swim after a breakup. The world doesnt give a toss, things just keep truckin along. Are you gonna mope in the corner or get up of the floor and carry right on! I know I am. She crushed me, but Im comin back.

The point is you just cant go through life avoiding things that have the potential to hurt you - relationships being one of the big ones. You cant say "I dont wanna go thru that" - you have to have experiences and like the others have said you learn from them. If you do avoid these things you might well be missing out on some great things - perhaps even passing up the gal of your dreams!

Now having said that theres always a flipside - some people out there genuinely NEVER want a releationship. There are some extremely happy singles out there who just cant be bothered with and have no desire to go thru the relationship/dating thing.
 
Robbie G said:
You're a girl, you don't understand. Men think about sex with many people other that their 'beloved' hundreds of times a week (day in some cases), make no mistake.
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Not all men, you're stereotyping thar.

in answer to OP - yes despite the many drawbacks.
 
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