Bit of a quandry

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Just wondering what peoples opinions are on this, as I feel I may have been a bit of a git earlier.

I have had the same friends for the last 5/6 years but recently everythings changed and not for the better. About 6 months ago 2 of my mates moved in together, and since then have turned into total druggies.

I didn't realise how bad it was until I went out with them a couple of weeks ago. I turned up and there were 6 of my old school mates there all arguing over who got the pills because there wasn't enough. We went out to a bar/club and almost got beaten up by a gang when a couple of my mates who had taken something (I have no idea what) decided they were a lot bigger than they were and tried to start a fight with them.

A few hours later and they all became really paranoid and thought everyone was talking about them and everyone was out to get everyone else. This resulted in people storming off at 3am to find their own way home.

Then there was a party at the weekend where they were all on various drugs. At 12am a blazing row errupted between about 3 of them over whose responsibility it was to bring more drugs and I thought there was going to be a punch up. Then later they were all at each others throats because they thought we were all out to get them again, which again resulted in people storming off into the night.

So today I got a text from one of them saying 'split up with my girlfriend, fancy meeting up later and hitting the clubs?'. Now I spoke to another mate and the reason they split up was mostly a result of him becoming completely paranoid every time he took stuff (now practically every day) and dumping her whilst making a load of rubbish accusations. So as a result I decided to ignore the message and get back to the xbox.

I don't feel particularly comfortable going out with a load of people who are tanked up on god knows what, trying to start fights with gangs of people when it is practically guaranteed to result in everyone storming off half way through the evening when they become paranoid that literally everyone is talking about them behind their backs.

Should I have gone out to see this 'mate' tonight, I felt a bit bad about it. I also don't understand why most of my old school friends have suddenly decided they need to be on drugs for most of the day.
 
Hellsmk2 said:
They nearly start fights on pills? Help them find a better dealer as they're obviously on some low quality stuff. Seriously!
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Yeah but its not just pills, its anything. They had been doing other stuff before I turned up and then they took the pills. They will just take whatever they can get their hands on.
 
In any other circumstance, i.e. minus the drugs background, it would probably have been nice to go see your friend if he needed cheering up or what not. However given what you've said, I don't blame you at all for being reluctant to go out with your mates who are as they are. One of these days you might wind up in a whole heap of trouble yourself, through no fault of your own.
 
I'd slowly gather some distance from them; maybe stating that your not really into the drug lifestyle.
 
Your friends sound like idiots to be honest, I've had plenty of *cough* friends who took everything under the sun, however they did it for a good time, in fact, that was the whole point of it.

How old are you? The reason I ask is that sometimes friends do drift apart as they get older and take their own path in life. Leave them to it, in a year or two, maybe five or six, your paths may cross again, who knows?

Switch your Xbox on and don't worry about them.

Hellsmk2 said:
They nearly start fights on pills? Help them find a better dealer as they're obviously on some low quality stuff. Seriously!
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Silly as that may sound to you, they are either on the wrong stuff or they are just doin' it wrong:)
 
You done the right thing imo dude. Your should start to distance yourself from them and look at getting some new friends, or else one day your doing to get into some trouble because of them.
 
I ****ing hate drugs, turned one of my best friends into a suicidal mannic-depressive. I tried to help but all he was interested in was trying to get me to try some. I had to drop him in the end.

Drop your 'friends' like a brick and get ones that are of the same mind set as you, you'll be much happier and stress free. Take it from someone who knows

Taking drugs = EPIC FAIL

EDIT - Also willing to believe that most late night attacks posted here and on the BBC are from drugged up junkys when the storm off into the night
 
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A2Z said:
have you actually tried to be a friend?

ie. advise them to fix up?
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As much as this is the first thing that came to mind, and morally the most sensible thing to suggest I doubt very much that two will listen to one even if deep down they know it makes perfect sense.

Have you got other close friends who feel the same as you? Might have more of an impact if you go in numbers. I had a friend who was rather into his Columbian marching powder for a while, after he realised it wasn't one person who was worried he sorted himself out and to my knowledge has been off ever since.
 
Been in this situation before and had to drift apart from my best mate. I had just started university at the time and got into Martial Arts so ended up pursuing that and got away from the drug scene. He ended up with a dead end job 2 kids to a girl he didn't love and in debt.

He got out of drugs and we are mates again some 10 years on.... but things are still not the same as they were, we used to have identical lives as kids growing up together, now we live very different ones.
 
It happens ive seen it too, a mate who was the funniest and most easy going bloke ever discovered dope at 18 then from there he took all sorts. Now I see him from time to time but can't call him a real friend anymore, he has 4 kids and works. Right after work he hits the drink and the smoke he stopped taking other stuff years back but the ammount of drinking and smoking of herbs he dose makes up for and go's past the other stuff he used to take. Its sad to see but a lot of people will see perfectly good and honest friends they have known since they were young fall by the wayside on drugs. The only consolation you can take is that most if not all do finally see sense and stop the drug use. On the other hand you may see one friend maybe end up like the one i describe above an alcoholic with a herbal problem or worse on some stuff you can't get off or kills them.
 
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