Sorry for your loss Latex and after reading few replies on here it makes bowel cancer sound like it always kills and this is why I would like to add to the thread.
Around April 2011 I started to feel under the weather and at some point soon after I starting having bouts of vomiting and diarrhoea for 3-4 days each week. I would start to feel better for a few days and the cycle started again and then came the spasms to my right side of my abdomen and holy s*** did they hurt. Around this time the vomiting changed from just throwing up the contents of my stomach but also the content from my digestive system, so as you can guess it didn't taste or smell nice. This went on for approx 6 weeks with 2 visits to the GP who said I had a virus, so on the third visit I insisted on a private referral.
I had my first visit to the consultant who was completely different to my GP, he took his time talking to me about all the symptoms and gave me my first ever 'Finger Blast' to check the lower passage (Guys this really isn't as bad as people think and it didn't turn me gay like most men think).
Next he booked me straight in for an endoscopy and colonoscopy which I had a few days later and was then told to come back for the results the following week.
My meeting was on the following Tuesday but on the Friday (15th July 2011) before I had to go back for a check up with the nurse for general heart checks etc. and she let slip that it looks like cancer. Bang went my world in an instant and thought at that point my life is over at 35.
After a horrible weekend and my wife being rushed into hospital on the Monday for her gallbladder pains, I went for my consultation with my parents for support.
I was then told yes I do have Stage 3 Bowel Cancer and it is classed as the curable type, which was a slight relief. From here I was offered the standard route (Surgery then 12 bouts of Chemo) or I could opt into a trial program where half go the traditional route and half have 3 bouts of Chemo then a small break, operate and a final 9 bouts of Chemo after the recovery from surgery.
I decided to go for the trial because if anything I can do changes the results for future patients, then it must be a good thing. I was then refereed to the Royal Marsden at Sutton which is fantastic and scheduled my Chemo plan. Between this and my first Chemo I felt really ill and went to my specialist at Marsden to be checked, next thing I was in an ambulance and rushed to my local NHS hospital for a stent to be fitted in my bowel as I was then fully obstructed. After a nearly a week, I went home and waited for the dreaded Chemo date to come.
I did my three Chemo sessions, waited about 8 weeks (I think) and then had major surgery to remove a third of my bowel, this took about 2 hours longer than anticipated which made the wife and kids panic. Surgery was on the Friday night and I went back home on the Tuesday after some Physio and after they made sure I had my first crap with my new shorter bowel.
This was in November some point and in the January I carried on with my final nine Chemo sessions. The Chemo consisted of me going to hospital every two weeks for a whole day having my Chemo diet and then I was sent home with another pack of chemo and a small motorised unit that pumped it into me for the next 48hrs till a nurse came and removed it at my house.
I meant to say, back in the early part I had a Portacath fitted on the left side of my chest, I chose to have this because it is a port that goes under the skin and leaves a small bump but then all qualified doctors and nurses can connect directly and almost pain free to give med's, Chemo or take blood which saved me having a cannula every two weeks.
Since this has gone on, I have had many many consultations, ' Finger Blasts', colonoscopy's and full abdomen scans and now I am 3 ½ years clear. After five years I am classed as in remission but will continue having checks every year for the rest of my life.
From all of this I found that Chemo isn't nice at all but also I didn't find it to be as bad as they portray it in the movies. I had private and NHS treatment through this and I found both do make mistakes but also both were mostly fantastic with my care.
The statistics are scary for cancer but also the new techniques they are coming out with all the time gives me great hope for the future for myself, my family and the rest of you.
Anyone else that finds blood in the toilet (Forgot to mention that I did have dark blood showing which I now know indicates a problem higher up) must gets checked out.
Men really do need to get over the ego thing about getting checked out. Not one of the checks hurt me, yes uncomfortable but not painful and this includes having a stent inserted through my arse into my upper bowel while fully awake. At 35 I got some ribbing from mates about the check-ups but they also understood the seriousness and to be honest I didn't want people tip toeing around me, I still wanted a laugh.