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How much do you weigh now then? If you're overweight which is possible since you've been in a relaxed relationship for 4 years where you may have let yourself go, it might be worth being miserable a bit longer to get down to a suitable weight.
After that, pick up your testicles and realise you'll be fine if you just keep yourself busy.
After that, pick up your testicles and realise you'll be fine if you just keep yourself busy.
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It was her choice, still talking (due to having the house etc) - Shes moved on and with another bloke. Says she still loves me but cant be with me
Sounds like she dumped you for him.
"I love you but can't be with you, it's not you it's me...etc etc" Kop out.
Grow some balls, realise that it happens to ALL of us at times and move on. Sell the house, split the cash and don't look back. The next girl will make you feel the same way you felt for this one.
To be honest mate ive benn throught it as well, except my wife left 3 times in all. The last time was back in December. At the time i wasnt working and i hated being in the house alone after she and my 4 kids left.
All i could do was pick myself up and get myself back into work. And even tho i now work most of time i still hate sleeping alone in my house.
I do enjoy the quiet at times but id much rather have my family here
It does get easier mate it just takes time.
We have recently got back together but we have decided not to live together again because im the first to admit that i can be a real funny bugger to live with
All i could do was pick myself up and get myself back into work. And even tho i now work most of time i still hate sleeping alone in my house.
I do enjoy the quiet at times but id much rather have my family here
It does get easier mate it just takes time.
We have recently got back together but we have decided not to live together again because im the first to admit that i can be a real funny bugger to live with
andddd it'll give you confidence boost for when you go out to find a replacement.
Or better yet, an upgrade
SlugForAButt was rather blunt and somewhat harsh but there's still truth in his words.
It's hellish, especially hearing 'time will heal all' ladida... It doesn't help the pain in the first few months. Just try and keep active, even if it's gyming, gaming or whatever floats your boat.
After experiences, I've tried to accept and come to expect the unexpected. You know there will probably come a time when they don't want or need you anymore but there's nothing to prepare you for the eventual hurt that will undoubtedly occur.
It's hellish, especially hearing 'time will heal all' ladida... It doesn't help the pain in the first few months. Just try and keep active, even if it's gyming, gaming or whatever floats your boat.
After experiences, I've tried to accept and come to expect the unexpected. You know there will probably come a time when they don't want or need you anymore but there's nothing to prepare you for the eventual hurt that will undoubtedly occur.
Sorry to hear about your tough time you have been going through. Just split the house asap so you can both move on, 1 year down the line everything will have sorted itself out. Untill then have fun with the lads round town ! Barracuda for the win ^^
Just don't be 'friends' with her, get your house business done and then sever ties.
Friends rarely works and it will just take you longer to get over it.
lol just realised I'm saying almost exactly the same as 4play.
Also agree with getting out and about with your mates, and if you stopped seeing your mates as much because of being with her (it happens) get those bridges rebuilt and swept pronto.
My personal relationship record so far was 11 years marriage, it ended and it was as tough as doc martin boots (more so because I agreed to the friend thing for a couple of months before realising I was being taken for a fool) but it does get better, but it won't if you mope around the house.
(2 years into my second and final marriage now! with a woman 10 years younger haha! Life ~can~ be kind!!)
Friends rarely works and it will just take you longer to get over it.
lol just realised I'm saying almost exactly the same as 4play.
Also agree with getting out and about with your mates, and if you stopped seeing your mates as much because of being with her (it happens) get those bridges rebuilt and swept pronto.
My personal relationship record so far was 11 years marriage, it ended and it was as tough as doc martin boots (more so because I agreed to the friend thing for a couple of months before realising I was being taken for a fool) but it does get better, but it won't if you mope around the house.
(2 years into my second and final marriage now! with a woman 10 years younger haha! Life ~can~ be kind!!)
Just man up and get on with things!
That's what I'm trying to do, and failing miserably. Broke up with my misses around a month ago now, but it was a mutual decision. And because of that, I think it's taken a lot longer for all the upset to come out, rather than being sudden.
Finding it quite difficult, just need to keep thinking in the back of my mind it's for the best, as I'll be moving to a new country soon, but I still can't help but think about us, what we had, all that stuff. I'm getting close to trying to sever all contact, but it's a hard decision to make.
Good luck with everything though dude, you'll get over it eventually, and be the stronger person for it.
That's what I'm trying to do, and failing miserably
. Broke up with my misses around a month ago now, but it was a mutual decision. And because of that, I think it's taken a lot longer for all the upset to come out, rather than being sudden.Finding it quite difficult, just need to keep thinking in the back of my mind it's for the best, as I'll be moving to a new country soon, but I still can't help but think about us, what we had, all that stuff. I'm getting close to trying to sever all contact, but it's a hard decision to make.
Good luck with everything though dude, you'll get over it eventually, and be the stronger person for it.
I've been in this house alone for 15 years on the 22nd of October but then I was conditioned to live alone at an early age.
Personally I wouldn't have it any other way & have my house exactly how i want it & do exactly what i want to do when i want to do it, No guilt, No drama & no ******** moaning.
Women come & go but once they realise nowts changing they soon get off again.
My advice would be start sorting out the house the way You want it, Get your sounds sorted & start Living again.
Personally I wouldn't have it any other way & have my house exactly how i want it & do exactly what i want to do when i want to do it, No guilt, No drama & no ******** moaning.
Women come & go but once they realise nowts changing they soon get off again.
My advice would be start sorting out the house the way You want it, Get your sounds sorted & start Living again.
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Forget her. There'll be other girls and if you broke up then it was for a reason. Don't look back, remember the good times but don't think you won't have any again.