Breaking up and dividing things

theNude · 13 Apr 2011 at 23:45

Hey guys.

So i broke up with a girl a few months ago (the one that punched me if you remember that thread) and i left a load of stuff at hers like laptop, dlsr, loads of new dvds, brand new tent (200gbp), shoes etc

They are all my things, we didnt really buy and joint things together as i seemed to be buying most of it.

She told me that she was keeping the tent as she wanted it.I told her she can keep the tent etc and just give me 100 quid for those items.

I think that was really fair (at first she didnt want to pay but i think she understands she is getting a good deal and she is being unreasonable) but she didnt return all my dvds (about 20 are missing, plus some other small non expensive things) I really want my dvds as i hate it when i am missing a movie from my collection.

She is being ****y with me saying i am being petty and low for asking for them back

we were only together for 4 months and we didnt live together, i think i am well within my right to just ask for the things i have paid for back? Low would be asking for gifts back etc (i showered her with nice gifts).

she is now mad at me for asking for them, saying that she doesnt ever want to hear from me again etc

am i being fair? should i pursue these items? or am i being low?

I did really want to be friends with her still but she has made it impossible with her current behaviour.

PhillyDee · 13 Apr 2011 at 23:51

Pursue them. They bemlong to you, and anything else is theft.

shifty_uk · 13 Apr 2011 at 23:54

I'd pursue them. 4 months doesn't give her the right to any of your belongings, especially if you paid for them.

Cleeecooo · 13 Apr 2011 at 23:56

PhillyDee said:
Pursue them. They bemlong to you, and anything else is theft.

This

shifty_uk said:
I'd pursue them. 4 months doesn't give her the right to any of your belongings, especially if you paid for them.

And this

ScarySquirrel · 13 Apr 2011 at 23:57

Punch her in the face when you collect them.

pioneer2000 · 13 Apr 2011 at 23:57

Judge Judy law would say "you've have a bad relationship, you bought these things as gifts for her, so learn from the mistake, be happy you aren't with her anymore and move along"

dl8860 · 13 Apr 2011 at 23:58

This woman sounds like a right bint to be honest. I was actually surprised when you said its only been 4 months...

PhillyDee is right, this is more like theft than sour grapes over a break up!

Low and petty would be asking for things like a t-shirt you let your 3 month girlfriend keep back... Don't let her get away with it.

Fuzz · 13 Apr 2011 at 23:59

Easy..

What's yours is mine and what's mine is my own..

and now I've actually read your post....

4 months !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Get in there and take EVERYTHING that is yours, including the tent and grow some balls.
She is not entitled to any of it in any way or form.

Why is everyone on this forum such a sodding walk over. Makes me rage. :mad:

rapid64k · 13 Apr 2011 at 23:59

Are you NUTS? 4 months and she wants to cash in?
Stuff her mate get your gear back if she dont want to hear from you again...then all she has to do is give you your stuff back. Bad move on your part for leaving your gear behind in the first place.
Women are greedy and always want what never belonged to them in the first place.

Narj · 14 Apr 2011 at 00:00

Sounds like a lucky escape tbh. What a mental case.

She's entitled to nothing of yours - get it all back!

Jongo · 14 Apr 2011 at 00:00

shifty_uk said:
I'd pursue them. 4 months doesn't give her the right to any of your belongings, especially if you paid for them.

This. You wernt living together you didnt buy anything jointly, what gives her to right to your stuff :confused:

Although i must say you do seem to have left quite a lot of stuff at hers for not living together.

[FnG]magnolia · 14 Apr 2011 at 00:00

4 months is barely even a relationship. If you did not buy these things for her as a gift (either implied or stated) then go get them back. They are your property. If you bought them as a gift then leave them with her.

i-bert · 14 Apr 2011 at 00:02

She probably doesn't even have the stuff now.

I think thats why she is putting up that much of a fight for it.

Camarilla · 14 Apr 2011 at 00:02

Call police
Produce receipts
????
Profit (well not really, more like 'not lose money', but whatever)

Vonhelmet · 14 Apr 2011 at 00:05

4 months and you left all that stuff at her house?

Erm...

theNude · 14 Apr 2011 at 00:27

she lived miles away, I just bought dvds and left them there as i didnt see the point in taking them home. Tent was at hers as its massive and i couldnt be bothered to carry it home, laptop and camera, same just used them and left them at hers and they didnt fit on my bike so i didnt collect them.

A theme is that i am lazy and left loads of stuff there

she is now in a rage with my by the way and saying take it all including gifts i gave her, i dont want them back!! i am not 5 years old. i just want my freaking dvds i bought

Bri · 14 Apr 2011 at 00:29

Take it all back, silly cow.

.Lethal · 14 Apr 2011 at 00:34

theDude said:
she is now in a rage with my by the way and saying take it all including gifts i gave her, i dont want them back!! i am not 5 years old. i just want my freaking dvds i bought

If she has said that then take it ALL back, geez you sound as bad as her.

Rainmaker · 14 Apr 2011 at 01:03

As above really. Only four months of a relationship, the stuff's yours, bought for you, BY you, and was not a gift (implied or otherwise). So, man up and take it back. Turn up at her place with a holdall or similar, and tell her you're only too happy to oblige in never seeing the mentalist again, but first you're not leaving without all your stuff; if she wants to phone the police she can, as you brought the receipts to show that she stole your stuffs...

EDIT: Just seen the update. How juvenile/woman-like.

How old is she, out of interest?

theNude · 14 Apr 2011 at 01:08

25 and was normally the most straight thinking person i knew. I am normally the rubbish one