Breaking up with my girlfriend!

cheets64 · 10 Feb 2009 at 10:16

Wow from the pics and things you spoke about your girlfriend, I would have thought you would have spent your life together but she seems like a nutter and you can do better, I couldn't live with a woman that was abusive and violent when drunk. If someone loves you then why should they hurt and attack you when drunk/

Split up and you will be able to complete GTA 4

Things change I've changed · 10 Feb 2009 at 10:22

platypus said:
Is she hot?

On a more serious note, if you actually love her, don't let her go.

Because loving someone isn't always enough, I've learnt that over the years, you can love some people until your blue in the face but it doesn't always make you compatible with that person, sometimes your just heading in different directions.

chucky · 10 Feb 2009 at 10:28

Sounds similar to a situation i was in. Got kinda stuck in a rut, and while i loved her - it didnt feel right. More like friends are you put it.

Now we've both moved on, and i've met someone who i feel has that special something. (dunno what is it..but she has it!)

ScarySquirrel · 10 Feb 2009 at 10:31

cheets64 said:
Wow from the pics and things you spoke about your girlfriend, I would have thought you would have spent your life together but she seems like a nutter and you can do better, I couldn't live with a woman that was abusive and violent when drunk. If someone loves you then why should they hurt and attack you when drunk/

Split up and you will be able to complete GTA 4

Good point! I have completed the story but I suppose I could go for 100%

chucky said:
Sounds similar to a situation i was in. Got kinda stuck in a rut, and while i loved her - it didnt feel right. More like friends are you put it.

Now we've both moved on, and i've met someone who i feel has that special something. (dunno what is it..but she has it!)

That's good to hear. I know, as I have been there before, that you always feel you'll never meet someone as good, but then you do

Besides, I have realised I want to be single for some time now. In fact, I forgot to mention that when I got with her, I wasn't sure if I was ready. I had been single for 10 months and was really happy with life as I had been stuck in relationships since I was 15!!! I think that contributed to our downfall.

I do feel better after everyone's replies. I knew it already but it does help. Thanks

Jonnycoupe · 10 Feb 2009 at 10:36

I remember your projector vid on BF: Bad company when she was whinging at you 'cos you had to go out or something. The stuff you describe sounds similar to most women really. :mad:

ScarySquirrel · 10 Feb 2009 at 10:46

Jonnycoupe said:
I remember your projector vid on BF: Bad company when she was whinging at you 'cos you had to go out or something. The stuff you describe sounds similar to most women really.

LOL!!! She was moaning about it being too loud

Good memory!

Kreeeee · 10 Feb 2009 at 10:52

ScarySquirrel said:
I'll be honest I do lust after other girls and I feel guilty about that, but surely most men are like this?

Appreciating a fine ass when you see one and lusting after other girls are quite different imo.

ScarySquirrel · 10 Feb 2009 at 10:54

Kreeeee said:
Appreciating a fine ass when you see one and lusting after other girls are quite different imo.

Perhaps my wording was misconstrued. It is certainly just appreciation as I wouldn't cheat on any girlfriend now. Have done in the past with others and it isn't right.

antijoke · 10 Feb 2009 at 10:57

she sounds like my GF. She moans that all I want to do is play on the PS3 or the 360.

RSR · 10 Feb 2009 at 10:58

I know how you are feeling mate, i broke up with mine at the weekend.

I think you are doing the right thing, you need to do what makes "you" happy.

There are plenty more fish in the sea, i know its a chessy saying but it is true.

Andy

Dinomania · 10 Feb 2009 at 11:05

Sounds like you're doing the right thing.

A week or two of not living together, not being a couple - and you'll know for sure.

At 23 there's absolutely no way you should need to "work at" a relationship or "settle down" with someone if you don't really love and admire them. Save the marriage guidance for when you actually /are/ married with kids.

Enjoy being the master of your own time - have some fun, be yourself, get drunk regularly until you work out how much is too much

You're also a man and therefore have no ticking biological clock to worry about - so it's not like you need to couple-up for good any time soon!

Bes · 10 Feb 2009 at 11:05

Is it just me, or is everyone breaking up at the moment?

A lot of my friends are going thru breakups now... Is it related to the time of year or something?

G|mp · 10 Feb 2009 at 11:11

cheets64 said:
Split up and you will be able to complete GTA 4

That's why you haven't got a GF.

I feel for you SS, not a nice situation to be in but it seems to me its the realisation that you are going to be lumbered with the rent thats annoying you more than splitting up with the Mrs.

Women are strange, you can't live with 'em and you can't kill 'em

Dinomania · 10 Feb 2009 at 11:24

Bes said:
Is it just me, or is everyone breaking up at the moment?

A lot of my friends are going thru breakups now... Is it related to the time of year or something?

Christmas time is pretty stressful with families and money getting in the way, and then along comes Valentines which only stresses a rocky relationship even further - it's just one of those things! Means that people are single for the joys of spring and summer though, which feels about right to me!

Also, if you know lots of people breaking up, you start to question why, and then wonder if your own relationship is actually going so well... In groups of friends you often get a bit of a domino-effect..!

Joop · 10 Feb 2009 at 11:25

i find around this time they come into my life n about 3 weeks later they go again!! lol

Fubsy · 10 Feb 2009 at 11:27

Bes said:
Is it just me, or is everyone breaking up at the moment?

A lot of my friends are going thru breakups now... Is it related to the time of year or something?

Total opposite here, all my mates are starting relationships. I'm left alone. Great.

cheets64 · 10 Feb 2009 at 11:32

G|mp said:
That's why you haven't got a GF.

You dont have spurt utter BS

ScarySquirrel · 10 Feb 2009 at 11:34

sara said:
Sounds like you're doing the right thing.

A week or two of not living together, not being a couple - and you'll know for sure.

At 23 there's absolutely no way you should need to "work at" a relationship or "settle down" with someone if you don't really love and admire them. Save the marriage guidance for when you actually /are/ married with kids.

Enjoy being the master of your own time - have some fun, be yourself, get drunk regularly until you work out how much is too much

You're also a man and therefore have no ticking biological clock to worry about - so it's not like you need to couple-up for good any time soon!

Not sure if you remember but around 6 months ago I asked you for some advice about all of this and you were really helpful

I decided to see how things played out once we moved to this new flat. I think I knew deep down back then that it wouldn't work.

Hey ho!

Bennie-Mac · 10 Feb 2009 at 11:35

At least now you save around £30 on Valentines day!

Mr_White · 10 Feb 2009 at 11:41

To me it seems like you've never had the opportunity to be alone or experience "the single life", and that seems to be what you really want to do above everything else and seems to be one of the causes of your girlfriend nagging and picking fights with you, as you want to do your own thing.

You'll regret it if you don't do something about it whilst you're still young, and who knows, maybe you'll get together again a few years down the line when your situations are more compatible, as there is obviously a strong bond deep down, you're just not suited at the moment.