Poll: Can girls and guys be 'just good' friends?

[R.O.S.S.I]

Just broke up with my girl, she just says she wants to be friends, but she knows how badly I still love her and want to get back with her.

I'd ideally like to get back with her lol, but she doesnt really seem to be budging. I personally think its because she's moving back to Uni this week and wants some freedom etc to do what/who she wants!

Just have to see what happens, I'm hoping she'll get bored at Uni after the initial buzz of freshers etc and want me back. But its damn hard being 'just friends' when she knows how much I love her.

 

[Freefaller]

I'm not going to lie and say I don't find them very attractive or if I didn't know them and met randomly in a club that I wouldn't.....

Therefore you should tick the 2nd option. Attraction is attraction, even if fleeting or one sided.

 

[Von Smallhausen]

Just broke up with my girl, she just says she wants to be friends, but she knows how badly I still love her and want to get back with her.

I'd ideally like to get back with her lol, but she doesnt really seem to be budging. I personally think its because she's moving back to Uni this week and wants some freedom etc to do what/who she wants!

Just have to see what happens, I'm hoping she'll get bored at Uni after the initial buzz of freshers etc and want me back. But its damn hard being 'just friends' when she knows how much I love her.

That's bad crack mate but it happens. Don't out your own life on hold.

Best of luck to you.

 

[Lysander]

I went for option two. I have always found it very difficult to look at girls I know well as anything but sex objects with personalities.

 

[krooton]

Nope.

If you have a hot friend, and you don't want to **** her, then you are clearly gay!

Sure....

 

[R.O.S.S.I]

That's bad crack mate but it happens. Don't out your own life on hold.

Best of luck to you.

Cheers buddy. I know I shouldnt put myself on hold for her, but if she ever wanted to get back with me I would do without a doubt, and she knows this (should I be showing her that I'm over her and moving on or will that just spur her to go out and get someone else?). But I can't be too optimistic, just got to see how these next 2 months are going to be really.

 

[mac1st3]

I went for option two. I have always found it very difficult to look at girls I know well as anything but sex objects with personalities.

personalities?....You've lost me

I've always found I'm better friends with the girls I'm not attracted to, but it always end upt with them being attracted to me, mainly because most of the time they're not used to guys being friendly to them as they're not the attractive type so a number of them latched onto me thinking I was interestde....oops :/

 

[McGray]

I couldn't have ugly friends.

 

[Lysander]

I've always found I'm better friends with the girls I'm not attracted to, but it always end upt with them being attracted to me, mainly because most of the time they're not used to guys being friendly to them as they're not the attractive type so a number of them latched onto me thinking I was interestde....oops :/

This is exactly what happened to me at university. I was friendly with a lot of fat/not particularly attractive girls and they either tried to drag me to their apartment for sex or I was told by mutual friends that they fancied me. Needless to say I never went for it.

I couldn't have ugly friends.

Me neither.

 

[Albo]

Course you can - A girl who you get on with that's ugly!

 

[fail at the internets]

Just broke up with my girl, she just says she wants to be friends, but she knows how badly I still love her and want to get back with her.

I'd ideally like to get back with her lol, but she doesnt really seem to be budging. I personally think its because she's moving back to Uni this week and wants some freedom etc to do what/who she wants!

Just have to see what happens, I'm hoping she'll get bored at Uni after the initial buzz of freshers etc and want me back. But its damn hard being 'just friends' when she knows how much I love her.

Same sort of situation happened with me, but i cut all contact it's much easier than talking to her and always at the back of my mind feeling sad.

 

[stinamoo]

*deleted*

 

[waso_dude]

Only the fat ones i can be friends with (Y)

 

[PiKe]

I keep it in my pants.

 

[Von Smallhausen]

Cheers buddy. I know I shouldnt put myself on hold for her, but if she ever wanted to get back with me I would do without a doubt, and she knows this (should I be showing her that I'm over her and moving on or will that just spur her to go out and get someone else?). But I can't be too optimistic, just got to see how these next 2 months are going to be really.

At the end of the day it comes down to free will. It if it meant to be then it will happen and the next two months will be difficult for you without a doubt.

I was in a similar position some years back and it just is not a nice feeling to want someone when they no longer feel the same.

Good friends and family will get you through.

 

[mac1st3]

Good friends and family will get you through.

and killing terrorists/aliens, that worked a treat too for me

 

[R.O.S.S.I]

Same sort of situation happened with me, but i cut all contact it's much easier than talking to her and always at the back of my mind feeling sad.

I did contemplate just cutting off from her, but I don't want to lose her completely. It's weird because I went from not knowing her at all, to being straight with her, like we met randomly on a night out. I knew her sister who is a friend of mine thats all really. So I've never been 'just friends' with her.

Its horrible. We rarely speak anymore, like normally we'd be texting and on the phone all the time if I wasn't with her, but now its nothing really. I speak to her on Facebook chat occasionally, and i've seen her about 3 times in the past 2 weeks.
I've text her sometimes and she's just not text me back when she would ALWAYS text me back, so I've decided to just not bother texting her now unless she texts me. A few people have said she'll realise whats she's missing eventually, i'm not convinced really.

Trying my hardest to be 'normal' with her but it's hard.

At the end of the day it comes down to free will. It if it meant to be then it will happen and the next two months will be difficult for you without a doubt.

I was in a similar position some years back and it just is not a nice feeling to want someone when they no longer feel the same.

Good friends and family will get you through.

I don't even think she doesn't love me anymore, I know (well I think she does) still care about me loads and she even said another night when we were at a friends that we might end up back together in a couple months. Just think we both need some space and time apart.

And I wouldn't mind the friends thing but pretty much all of them have bailed off to Uni this year lol so i'm pretty much as alone as can be at the moment (bar a handful of friends still nearby)

 

[fail at the internets]

It's weird because I went from not knowing her at all, to being straight with her, like we met randomly on a night out. I knew her sister who is a friend of mine thats all really. So I've never been 'just friends' with her.

Trying my hardest to be 'normal' with her but it's hard.

Exactly the same sort of situation happened with me, i realised going to 'just friends' wouldn't be possible so just dropped her completely. Not sure if it was the best of decisions but i'm sticking to it.

Hope it all goes well for you pal.

 

[Nitefly]

Cheers buddy. I know I shouldnt put myself on hold for her, but if she ever wanted to get back with me I would do without a doubt, and she knows this (should I be showing her that I'm over her and moving on or will that just spur her to go out and get someone else?). But I can't be too optimistic, just got to see how these next 2 months are going to be really.

On the plus side, long distance (for some at least) is utterly rubbish and it may have been sensible for her to have nipped things in the bud by ending it sooner rather than after a long decline. I recently broke up with my girlfriend because I just couldn't handle the distance - a great shame but it was a decision made to minimise hurt for both sides.

It isn't what you might want to hear, but she was probably acting for your interests too. Now go out and enjoy yourself - life is too short to wallow in sadness

 

[krooton]

I don't even think she doesn't love me anymore, I know (well I think she does) still care about me loads and she even said another night when we were at a friends that we might end up back together in a couple months. Just think we both need some space and time apart.

Sorry to hear that dude, but I'm afraid I've never, ever heard of the above happening. Best to just move on as soon as possible, time is the best healer.