Can i have a parents view on this?

[Naffa]

hello,
my 23 year old step brother is still living at home. hes just completed a degree in Graphic Design (somehow) and is now saving up to go traveling. hes currently employed in Tool Station full time starting at 7:30 and finishing at 5:00. he works every week and some saturdays. but heres my problem, hes paying no rent what so ever, he doesnt pay for any of his own food.. not even toothpaste i was just wondering what other people thought about this?
im 15 and later on this year when i finish school and become 16, im going to get a job and pay my mum rent every month or just some money to put into the house.. she doesnt expect me to but i want to. he doesnt do anything around the house at all, all he does is moan about everything and complain

if you were in the same situation, would you think he should be paying rent? and if so how much?

thanks for your input
naffa

 

[Naffa]

I think you are overlooking the crux of the matter.

Are your parents bothered? Its their house, their rules, if they don't mind then what business is it of yours?

If you want to pay rent then good on you, it sounds like you are conciencious and caring individual with high moral standards which is rare these days. But don't dictate whether you brother is in the wrong because he does not conform to your ideals.

MB

my mum and stepdad are very bothered.. they tell me about it all the time. thats why i started to notice about the way he acts.. but what im thinking is that if theyre so bothered then why dont they ask him to pay rent but i think that will be on the cards pretty soon. hes leaving in may so a few months isnt going to hurt his cash pile too much.

 

[Naffa]

ok, so most of you think that a 23 year old living at home paying no rent, not buying any of his own food, not contributing to the house in any way is ok? his gf is also living here pretty much all the time as well and shes the same. if the familly business wasn't doing so badly atm then it may not be such an issue but its just the fact hes earning so much money and 'saving' it. he goes up to exeter nearly every month to go to a big party and regularly hosts them here. if he has money to spend on stuff like this when hes always keeping up the idea that hes adamently saving to go traveling then whats £100 a month guna hurt? i just think that my parents would really apriciate some kind of input to the house from him.

 

[Naffa]

If your brother has just finished a degree he's probably got about 15K in debt. Ever consider your parents might be helping him out a tiny bit?

hes employed full time. he blatently has money to throw away so wouldnt it be nice for him to give something back? or wouldnt it..