You'll want some copper slip to prevent it seizing in, and a gap tool.
I don't know about about that, I've never used grease on plugs and never experienced seized ones either. In fact some would argue it shouldn't be used because it acts as a heat insulator and makes your plugs 'hotter' and contributes to det. I wouldn't know much about that though or how true it is.
I've never needed to gap plugs either, they come pre-set when you buy the right ones.