Chap from up the street...how would you treat him?

Mixed bag of opinions then. Yes he has been a bit of nuisance at times. When he knocks at the door I've sometimes ignored it but he comes back soon after, my dog goes nuts when the door goes. As mentioned he's come round for daft reasons like asking what time it is. I know 1 neighbour now pretends she's out when he knocks at hers.

I do feel sorry for him, addiction is an illness. I will remain polite when I see him out and about but will keep my distance and limit it to a simple 'Hi'. Fwiw he is good mates with the other local alcoholic in this street who is really out there but that's another story, I have nothing to do with him other than say hello, going to treat them both the same.

Don't want people like these to be in my life in any way shape or form. And yes if they had their way this would happen, I've been invited to socialise with them etc. Not my type of people.
 
Feek said:
Have you offered to do him a cyber security check?
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Tykey said:
Mixed bag of opinions then. Yes he has been a bit of nuisance at times. When he knocks at the door I've sometimes ignored it but he comes back soon after, my dog goes nuts when the door goes. As mentioned he's come round for daft reasons like asking what time it is. I know 1 neighbour now pretends she's out when he knocks at hers.

I do feel sorry for him, addiction is an illness. I will remain polite when I see him out and about but will keep my distance and limit it to a simple 'Hi'. Fwiw he is good mates with the other local alcoholic in this street who is really out there but that's another story, I have nothing to do with him other than say hello, going to treat them both the same.

Don't want people like these to be in my life in any way shape or form. And yes if they had their way this would happen, I've been invited to socialise with them etc. Not my type of people.
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that's the kind of balance I would go with, don't tell him to f off but also don't end up sitting in misery listening to nonsense
 
swillsy said:
This is England - you don't talk to neighbours. You are just supposed to nod at them and say Hi and walk inside.

Or if you are gardening/washing the car they will ask you to do theres after. You then laugh. These are the rules
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This has served me well for the 30 years i have lived in my street.

Thinking about it, i am probably that weirdo. :eek::D
 
If you don't want him in your life then it's probably best to stop asking to borrow things from him.
 
Diddums said:
No such thing as a lost cause.
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Massively disagree.

I don’t generally deal with people who refuse to help themselves after putting in effort into them and them not taking the help the first time.

Cocaine addiction, sure, I’ll take you to your GP, help you with rehab, keep you occupied, in return, stop doing coke. Keep doing coke? Nahhh. Have fun. Come to me when you want to do better. Ain’t nothing to it but to do it.
 
hurfdurf said:
Massively disagree.

I don’t generally deal with people who refuse to help themselves after putting in effort into them and them not taking the help the first time.

Cocaine addiction, sure, I’ll take you to your GP, help you with rehab, keep you occupied, in return, stop doing coke. Keep doing coke? Nahhh. Have fun. Come to me when you want to do better. Ain’t nothing to it but to do it.
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Depends who it is I guess. A neighbour? Yes, I'll agree. Family member or friend? I'll never give up.
 
swillsy said:
This is England - you don't talk to neighbours. You are just supposed to nod at them and say Hi and walk inside.

Or if you are gardening/washing the car they will ask you to do theres after. You then laugh. These are the rules
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Hahaha, this is so true and happens at least 5 times a year with my neighbours.
 
Diddums said:
Depends who it is I guess. A neighbour? Yes, I'll agree. Family member or friend? I'll never give up.
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Never thought I’d say this but I do agree with hurfdurf here. I have a friend and his brother is a heroin addict, constantly in and out of prison, he’s lucky if he lasts a few weeks before going back in after being released. The family have tried to help him so much, but the first thing he does as soon as he gets the chance is robs them blind, sells as much as he can and then gives it all to the dealers. He really is a lost cause.

Some people don’t want help and will take advantage of those closest to them every time.
 
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