Cheating Ex.. how would you react to this?

Chandler_90

Chandler_90

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Background:

My ex gf left me in September of 2014 after sleeping with and effectively starting a new relationship with a 20 year old "friend" who I also knew.

She left me with a mortgage, £12,000 worth of debt (which was all in my name but we shared the card for purchases such as holidays and furnishings for our house) and her phone contract payments (£80 a month for 6 months) which I didn't notice were still coming out of my bills account.. plus she refused to pay any solicitor fees to remove her from the mortgage as she had just found out she was pregnant.

All this after 7 years together.

So... fast forward to this coming Sunday..

I am attending the christening of the daughter of one of my best friends.. and my ex is going to be there with the young lad (now her fiancé) and their son.

I can hold my rage, I still hold a ton of resentment for how she left me financially, however upon thinking about things I am unsure of if I could shake his hand.

Would it be a total crime not to, to basically blank the offer if it should arise?

Please bare in mind I've not seen either of them for years and probably won't bump into them anytime after.

How would you react?
 
Interesting mix of thoughts on the subject.

Whilst inside I want to ignore them, and I'll do my best to basically avoid them if possible, I think I'm too polite a person to not be civil.

It's a hard situation, I know it was a long time ago but I just despise the thought that someone can treat another person like they did to me and just get away with it.

I've worked my ass off the past few years and I'm now debt free and just recently got the promotion to directorship at work.. so my life is pretty good bar the odd niggle..

I'd say I'm in a better place, lost a lot of weight too.. bought a new suit and got the gf some very nice clothes for this!

Ultimately, I think I'll be civil if cornered. Lol
 
I'll be civil as I'm that kind of person, I'm generally easy going and kind tbh.. some of the peeps I know from here will attain to that.

I was just curious on opinions, I'm not the kind to kick off and ruin things.

I'm not putting pics up as if the current gf gets wind I'll get shafted lol

I've got no feelings for my ex, honestly don't.
I've moved on now.. better place etc..
I just resent people who do things like this and get away without any repercussions.
 
StevieP said:
First thing is do is find out why the **** she was paying £80 a month for a mobile contract!

I'd want a platinum Galaxy S12 with 500GB of data per month for that kind of tarrif!
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She was working away from home constantly, presumably ringing him constantly too and using her minutes?

I never checked her bills, but I did find out she booked a holiday the following march whilst still with me and was ordering him take aways from Just Eat whilst "away with work".

I'll just be polite :)
 
fatiain said:
Arrive late, kick the doors of the church open whilst screaming at the top of your lungs. Grab new-fella in a reverse choke hold, drag him to the font and proceed to half drown him. Kick the ex in the fork and then sit down like nothing's happened.

Or alternatively, be polite and keep interaction to a minimum.
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This.
 
lltfdaniel said:
I wouldn't react because i would never be in that situation financially.

I'd stay single but then those who want a partner better be careful with things like this.
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Being in a relationship isn't easy, regardless there are always bills to pay and this which need doing.

Furnishing a house for example is very expensive, especially after just purchasing the house along with all the legal fees etc (I paid fees on 2 purchases then got outbid on both, back to back, before buying my current place) then you have any social events that need to be attended which also require cash.. car/travel expenses and holidays too.

Granted I had a large amount of debt, in my eyes at least, but I thought I had a decent amount of time to pay it off.. which it turned out I didn't!

Should have got a card in both names, live and learn!
 
Wtf is the religious stuff about?

The whole point of this thread was to gauge what people thought if the hand was offered and what they would do if put in the same situation.

Unsure how this thread turned into a psychometric evaluation of me.

I've moved on, not going to cause a scene and going to be civil.

I'm 35 for Christ sake.. I was just curious of the variety of opinions on the subject.
 
Hi peeps, apologies for the delay on the update.

Got out on bail just after 9am this morning, I smashed a chair over his back at the reception party..
 
;)

It went fine, her parents turned up too, which I wasn't expecting, so that was a shock.

Had a quick chat with them, then she said hi and had a 30 second convo with me and the new gf.. the guy bolted.

TBH it was a nice day, the service was nice and I got to see some people I've not seen for years.. so overal it went good.

I'm not a violent or vindictive person, nothing was ever going to happen really but I thought the subject matter would make for an interesting post and diverse opinions :)
 
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