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Klunt Bumskrint

Klunt Bumskrint

Klunt Bumskrint

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Anyone here an expert in Child Maintenance.

I've been trying to get maintenance for years from my waste of space ex wife, I'm trying to work out how she can legitimately say she earns less than £7 a week and how can they accept that? I know it's not true.

Surely how can you live, she has 2 vehicles, a nice little cottage.

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Any dads suffering bad ex's that don't contribute?
 
If its 2 cars and cottage are already paid for would not matter I guess as it is based on her income rather then anything else? Also is she living with someone else? Maybe she has stopped working? What does she do for a living?
 
How we work out child maintenance

In most cases, the gross annual income figure we use to work out child maintenance comes from information given to the government’s revenue and customs department, HM Revenue & Customs (HMRC), by the paying parent, their employer or a third party such as their accountant.

We always use the latest available information and make sure it is for a complete tax year. A tax year is any 12-month period for which the government works out an amount of income tax that must be paid. In the UK the tax year runs from 6 April in one year to 5 April in the next.

We will always tell the paying parent and the receiving parent which tax year has been used to get the gross annual income information.
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A receiving parent can also tell us if they have a reason to believe the paying parent’s income is different to the amount we’ve used to work out child maintenance.
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Is she self employed? Probably paying herself through dividends. Is she not willing to contribute outside of the system?
 
She sounds awesome. Best of luck though, I can never believe it when people don't pay for their children.
 
Cottage is a rental, cars are paid for because they're old now. She runs a business selling things she makes and resells on Facebook.

She doesn't contribute ANYTHING, not even school shoes etc.

I get how they work it out but I'm positive she's fudging figures
 
Klunt Bumskrint said:
Cottage is a rental, cars are paid for because they're old now. She runs a business selling things she makes and resells on Facebook.

She doesn't contribute ANYTHING, not even school shoes etc.

I get how they work it out but I'm positive she's fudging figures
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Then Contact the Child Maintenace Service.

A receiving parent can also tell us if they have a reason to believe the paying parent’s income is different to the amount we’ve used to work out child maintenance.
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Klunt Bumskrint said:
Cottage is a rental, cars are paid for because they're old now. She runs a business selling things she makes and resells on Facebook.

She doesn't contribute ANYTHING, not even school shoes etc.

I get how they work it out but I'm positive she's fudging figures
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I guess if she has a small business selling through Facebook etc then she can easily show she is not making much.
 
Hopefully it's not too personal a question, but do you need the money?

If not, I'd let it go, and not put too much of myself into thinking about it.

She'll regret it one day.
 
Dyson said:
Hopefully it's not too personal a question, but do you need the money?

If not, I'd let it go, and not put too much of myself into thinking about it.

She'll regret it one day.
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It's more the principle, I have to pay for everything, we have 4 children and its just not right. I don't underhand how it's acceptable.
 
Does she have contact with the children? and have you tried talking to her about it as involving the government generally makes people less likely to cooperate.
 
Joxeon said:
Does she have contact with the child and have you tried talking to her about it as involving the government generally makes people less likely to cooperate.
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You can't talk to her, she's been here once in 18 months. I sent her a long carefully worded email recently to try to make her see sense.
 
I doubt the CMS can do much then since she's probably not declaring an income. The IRS would likely be more interested but I doubt that will help you get any money from her and would likely further deteriorate relations.

It's a tough one tbh but I think the best way forward is to maybe take a step back and see if she can build a better relationship with the kids which may make her more likely to contribute but if she's not even interested in that then it's probably a lost cause.
 
Klunt Bumskrint said:
Anyone here an expert in Child Maintenance.

I've been trying to get maintenance for years from my waste of space ex wife, I'm trying to work out how she can legitimately say she earns less than £7 a week and how can they accept that? I know it's not true.

Surely how can you live, she has 2 vehicles, a nice little cottage.

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Any dads suffering bad ex's that don't contribute?
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Good luck, my niece's 'dad' payed bugger all for years and now pays the bare minimum as he says he's on the minimum wage despite splashing the cash and driving flash cars, works as a HGV driver self employed.

Can't get bugger all out of him, complete waste of oxygen that boy.
 
Klunt Bumskrint said:
You can't talk to her, she's been here once in 18 months. I sent her a long carefully worded email recently to try to make her see sense.
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You put your location as Daventry which is in England. So if you have been there for the past 18 months, then there have been numerous opportunities in between the pandemic lockdowns for her to have popped round to see her kids. So in 2020, that would have been Jan/Feb/Mar (until lockdown 1.0), then Jun/Jul/Aug/Sep while indoor mixing was still allowed before lockdown 2.0. A few days were allowed at Christmas time just before lockdown 3.0 started. Then in 2021, indoor mixing was allowed again last month. The fact that she's not used any of these opportunities to see her kids implies that she no longer wants the responsibility of raising kids. If she ever comes back begging for help, you can show her the door. I know there are always 2 sides of the story, but from where I read from your posts, you sound like the better parent out of the 2. The kids are now all yours.
 
Just keep all of this info handy so that you can show your children when they come of age - exactly how not to parent.

Perhaps telling her you're doing that may sway her for the better...
 
Sounds like something my brother went through with his ex, he offered to give her money towards the upbrinding right from the get go, she accepted and then gradually started to ask for more and more, considering he hasn't seen his girl since she was only a few weeks old (she's approaching 2 years old) he out right refused to increase it anymore, his ex got really nasty and I mean completely lost the plot crazy, he just stopped making payments completely, went direct to child support with proof he had been paying so they couldn't try fleece him, she now gets the minimum, substantially less than she was before, my brother still hasn't been allowed to see his daughter. She even tried to leave the country and move to Spain where her family are, but my brother refused to sign the passport application.

Women wanted equality, they got way more rights than they should in my opinion.
 
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