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Just (10 weeks ago...) got married in a CofE church. Been going nearly 2 years and even been convinced by the vicar to play bass in a band once a month! I'm a catholic myself but the wife wanted to get married at a specific place so CofE it is. No 'bible bashing' at all, generally very very pleasant service tbh.
KNiVES said:Civil ceremonies? Whatever the name, these non-religious marriages are incredibly soulless affairs.
I have been to a fair number of non religious weddings (and even one civil union) and while some can be souless, some can actually be quite touching.
They were certainly better than the methodist wedding I went to where the couple would have zero chance of staying together unless God was heavily involved, real fire and brimstone type preacher.
Duke said:
Do you believe in God? If not, then I don't believe you should get married under the eyes of him. The Vicar will be marrying you under the premise of you having faith in God, and if you do not, you shouldn't really insult their belief by just going a long with it.
Many things are still traditional but we no longer practically abide by them if our own personal stance has changed.
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No I don't believe in God. It is the same for others though - which is why they insist you go to the various bible bashing pre-wedding groups etc.iCraig said:I'm talking in a third person. The Vicar obviously believes they're getting married under the eyes of God, so if he doesn't believe in God himself, should he really be getting married under those assumed eyes?
Whether it it right or wrong I don't know, but like I said before, to me it would be traditional or "normal" to get married in a Church, rather than it being a religious link.
iCraig said:There's no escaping the religious link if you get married in a Church though.
You're also not technically Christian at all, seeing as you do not believe in God.
I got married in a Church despite not believing in an all-mighty 'one'.. My reason is because my wife IS a Christian and wanted to get married in a Church.
This can spark some odd debates, especially if I ask her if she thinks that I'm going to Hell
I wouldn't have a problem getting married in a church. After all to me it's just a pretty building with an interesting history. But I wouldn't want the actual ceremony to make mention of god, and I don't suppose the church's management would agree to that.
iCraig said:
Assuming he does exist, it's going to be pretty hard finding a place on earth that isn't 'under the eyes of him' no? (isn't pedantry fun?
) Going through with the whole white wedding thing while not actually believing in the backing religion isn't exactly disrespectful either (bringing out a sacrifical lamb mid-service to dedicate to the 'light-bearer' might not go down well however...). It's pretty ingrained in our culture and, unless you've got strong anti-religionist views, chances are that's the way you envisage your marriage day.
iCraig said:I'm talking in a third person. The Vicar obviously believes they're getting married under the eyes of God, so if he doesn't believe in God himself, should he really be getting married under those assumed eyes?
What the vicar thinks has no relevence. You have a legal right to get married in your local parish CofE church regardles of your faith or lack thereof.
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hargi said:
Perhaps I can tempt you to the dark side?
I recommend Wicca or Modern Paganism
Not advised if the fiancée is a devout Christian as this may cause some friction...