Crashed

[TW]Fox · 21 Jan 2011 at 12:33

The reason for the GF thing is probablly that she was uncomfortable with his speed and asked him to slow down. He ignored her wishes and ignored a request to stop doing something that was making her nerovus. He then demonstrated she was right to be concerned when he crashed, with her in the car, as a result of excessive speed.

On the surface it would seem a harsh reason to end a relationship but from the other side of a coin here is somebody who put his girlfriend in danger and ignored her requests to slow down.

shifty_uk · 21 Jan 2011 at 12:52

Dup said:
Sounds reasonable although pics would help. The question is, is it worth putting that money into a 2002 Clio for you? Will a new headlight a touch up suffice? You might be able to get second hand parts in the right colour to bolt straight on for much less too, worth looking at.

Uploading pictures now.

[TW]Fox;18280349 said:
On the surface it would seem a harsh reason to end a relationship but from the other side of a coin here is somebody who put his girlfriend in danger and ignored her requests to slow down.

Hit the nail on the head. It wasn't excessive speed, I was doing 40-45 on a limitless backroad which I'd usually do 60-70 which is where she was telling me to slow down. Unfortunately when we turned into the icey side road/hill her discomfort was already there so my slowing down was irrelevant at that point.

matt_fsr · 21 Jan 2011 at 12:54

Shame to hear about the g/f thing, I can see where Fox is coming from. Women dont like it when they aren't listened to, and are proved right...

Are you at all handy with a screwdriver and spanner set?

Anywhere nearby you could get some scrap parts for the car, and fit them yourself? Might even be worth a long drive to a scrappie with a Clio in (does it need to be same colour?) for the saving?

Vita · 21 Jan 2011 at 12:56

How fast were you going? Good tyres? I think there wasn't much you could have done if you was travelling at speed. Ramming it into reverse at a slow speed maybe could have helped. But handbrake down hill, never.

shifty_uk · 21 Jan 2011 at 13:00

£340 worth of damage?

LizardKing · 21 Jan 2011 at 13:04

New bumper, new lights and a bit of painting. £340 is a bargain!

I take it they will be repairing the bumper?

InvaderGIR · 21 Jan 2011 at 13:05

New headlamp + cable ties, be reet!

alx · 21 Jan 2011 at 13:10

InvaderGIR said:
New headlamp + cable ties, be reet!

Duct tape

matt_fsr · 21 Jan 2011 at 13:10

It's just a flesh wound!

shifty_uk · 21 Jan 2011 at 13:13

matt_fsr said:
It's just a flesh wound!

A £340 flesh wound. An unexpected repair I don't have the £££ for

I must add, when I got it home there steam was coming out the front of the grills.

matt_fsr · 21 Jan 2011 at 13:16

shifty_uk said:
I must add, when I got it home there steam was coming out the front of the grills.

This could be bad news. Radiator may have some damage/a leak.

Checked the coolant level?

And seriously, can you operate a spanner? You could fix most of that damage yourself, and get a mechanic to align your headlight and you'd be fine.

(Says a man with a Mondeo front bumper in his loft. Its too cold right now... )

Concrete · 21 Jan 2011 at 13:19

She's thnking about leaving you over that little bump? Seriously, if nothing is bent underneath, then as said, get a light from a scrappy and cable tie the bumper.

merlin · 21 Jan 2011 at 13:21

shifty_uk said:
I must add, when I got it home there steam was coming out the front of the grills.

She needs to see a Doctor about that.

ubersonic · 21 Jan 2011 at 13:32

shifty_uk said:
Any ideas how much this will set the wallet back?

After you factor in the saving from her leaving you (no valentines/bday/xmas gifts, etc) you should actually make a profit from this

Housey · 21 Jan 2011 at 13:41

merlin said:
She needs to see a Doctor about that.

Funny ****

shifty_uk · 21 Jan 2011 at 13:45

Concrete said:
She's thnking about leaving you over that little bump? .

You'll understand when you've caused an accident that could've potentially put someone you've spent years with a love dearly at severe risk.

ganesh · 21 Jan 2011 at 13:51

Doesn't look like much damage really, don't worry about it. I'd get down the scrappy and have a crack at doing it myself, and if she dumps you for this then #### her. If I slowed down half the time my girlfriend asked me to then I doubt I'd ever get above 60.

Clarkey · 21 Jan 2011 at 13:53

That's hardly even a crash, why would you even think about spending £340 on fixing that when its an 8/9 year old Clio?

I can understand your gf being ***** off with you though. I'd be pretty seriously annoyed if the driver of a car ignored my request for safer driving and subsequently crashed the car, that's some pretty darn irresponsible driving.

ganesh · 21 Jan 2011 at 13:54

shifty_uk said:
You'll understand when you've caused an accident that could've potentially put someone you've spent years with a love dearly at severe risk.

Stop being a drama queen, it looks like a minor bump. Perhaps if you'd driven into a wall at 50mph or something major.

pcoltrane · 21 Jan 2011 at 14:03

shifty_uk said:
You'll understand when you've caused an accident that could've potentially put someone you've spent years with a love dearly at severe risk.

Lets not over-react! Ok, you were a plonker for going too quickly on the ice and crashing ... but considering the damage etc, there was no "severe risk" to you or your passenger, just to your car.

Unless of course - if the country roads that you were doing 40-50 on were also potentially icy, then maybe you were putting both of you at risk. - it only takes one corner with black ice to have a huge crash at that speed.

Time for an apology no doubt, but if she leaves you over this either it was doomed to fail anyway, or you've been a plonker throughout the relationship and this was the last straw. If it was doomed, then it's for the best - if you're a perpetual plonker, time to sort it out