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Dummys are fine no hassle what you want to do is move them to being sleep only by 6 months.
As for the OP don't worry the thing with kids is to remember it is all a phase. If it aint working and you are at the end of your tether it's just a phase and it will end and if something is going well it will break as that is just a phase. Sometimes though you have to be cruel to be kind - like not going to overboard with the fussing and making sure they are sleeping in their own cot asap etc.
(and by now you should have figured out what their bedtime bear/blanket etc is they like to go to sleep with - go and buy a spare this weekend maybe two whilst you can still get them - trust me this is one of the best tips you will ever have!)
As for the OP don't worry the thing with kids is to remember it is all a phase. If it aint working and you are at the end of your tether it's just a phase and it will end and if something is going well it will break as that is just a phase. Sometimes though you have to be cruel to be kind - like not going to overboard with the fussing and making sure they are sleeping in their own cot asap etc.
(and by now you should have figured out what their bedtime bear/blanket etc is they like to go to sleep with - go and buy a spare this weekend maybe two whilst you can still get them - trust me this is one of the best tips you will ever have!)
One other word of advice - imo get rid of the dummy as soon as possible, my first son (all grown up now) never used a dummy, never had any problems at bedtimes over the years from what I remember. My other two (2/3), my missus never weened them off soon enough and we had endless trantrums over dummies. Just a thought...
Enjoy being a dad - watch time fly by!
My sister suggested a good idea for getting them off dummys: when it comes to christmas time, tell them they have to give up there dummy else he won't come and give him any presents, he has to take them away and exchange them for big boy toys, i think i'll try that when it comes down to it.... a long way to go yet, only been a dad for 3 days
EDIT: he comes home tomorrow YAY
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Yes. It's completely normal. He'll get used to it, it's still a new experience for him, you have to remember he really doesn't understand what's going on. Nine days ago he was inside his Mum, nice and warm. Now he is in the World, and every so often you take what little clothing he is wearing off him to change his nappy! How would you feel?
Make sure you have a well padded changing mat, perhaps put a towel over it and lay him on that for extra softness. Make sure you undress him so that his top half remains covered, if he's in a romper then unbutton it between the legs and fold it up under his back. Don't mess around, get the nappy changed as quickly as possible, making sure he clean around his bits and pieces! It will help if you talk to him, keep your voice confident and speak to him in a jokey way if that makes sense. That way, even if you aren't 100% confident, he won't pick up on it.
Finally, practise makes perfect! Stick with it, don't get discouraged and you'll get there in the end - Good Luck!
My sister suggested a good idea for getting them off dummys: when it comes to christmas time, tell them they have to give up there dummy else he won't come and give him any presents, he has to take them away and exchange them for big boy toys, i think i'll try that when it comes down to it.... a long way to go yet, only been a dad for 3 days
EDIT: he comes home tomorrow YAY
Yea that's a really good idea
Have done that twice before and amazingly enough they didn't even ask once for them after giving them away.I'll second what was mentioned above though. Don't start driving to make him fall asleep unless you want to be doing that every day.
They like it because of the movement and the subtle noise from the engine reminds them of being in the womb. So if you are having trouble with him going to sleep maybe you can get some CD's for babies for him to listen to when he goes to bed. Or just tune a radio to static like said
Oh yea and I forgot to say in my other post - Congratulations!
The main thing to remember (if I read your post right) is that he is only 9 days old, hence he has absolutely no understanding of his surroundings all he wants is to be comforted and cuddled (protected).
The guy on the first page that suggested changing him on your knee is spot on, you dont need to use a changing table.
Just keep him close for as long as you can, don't make the mistake (like many others) of trying to force your baby to grow up too fast.
The guy on the first page that suggested changing him on your knee is spot on, you dont need to use a changing table.
Just keep him close for as long as you can, don't make the mistake (like many others) of trying to force your baby to grow up too fast.
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Make sure you are using non-fragranced baby wipes if you are using wipes. Those fragranced things burn like mad if you have sensitive skin. Our daughter would scream blue murder if we used them. Even I cant use them at my age lol. Non fragranced ones and she was fine. At a few days old I assume you are using cotton wool and water anyway.
Otherwise if you stay calm it will help baby to. Some babys just dont like it being done.
Otherwise if you stay calm it will help baby to. Some babys just dont like it being done.
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My sister suggested a good idea for getting them off dummys: when it comes to christmas time, tell them they have to give up there dummy else he won't come and give him any presents, he has to take them away and exchange them for big boy toys, i think i'll try that when it comes down to it.... a long way to go yet, only been a dad for 3 days
EDIT: he comes home tomorrow YAY
Tried similar unfortunately it didn't work with mine. The only thing I did was just take them away and suffer the consequences in the end lol.
As already mentioned don't do the driving thing, a friend of mine did that with his girl and they were up doing it at all hours. Lucky I avoided this with mine.
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My friend dipped all her eldests dummy in Vinegar then told her when you hit 2 they taste horrid = NO MORE DUMMIES!
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Just do it. After a while you can do it in 5 seconds. Problem comes later on when they can wriggle, Foot in Poo not good.
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This is good advice: 4 year old daughter yacked up over her "teddy" last night. This is the same teddy she has had since birth. Whilst that gets cleaned we pull out reserve teddy and off to bed happy
The joys of parenthood.
Pretty much echo what everyone else has said so far. He'll get used to it.
On a related topic, how disgusting is the first nappy.
not as bad as a nappy with the squits in!
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Only 9 days in at the time of writing. Well I reckon you are sleep deprivated which makes the screaming even more amplified. Like when kids scream at 3am - always far to loud.
Tips, a joint tip. if you can change the fella whilst holding your breath then you can get it done quickly and not have to small the poo. I don't think I have inhaled through my nose in the babies room for years!
I once blew a rasberry at my son, he was older than 9 days, when changing a nappy, he loved it but it took 6 motnhs for his to stop blowing saliva all over the house.
Tips, a joint tip. if you can change the fella whilst holding your breath then you can get it done quickly and not have to small the poo. I don't think I have inhaled through my nose in the babies room for years!
I once blew a rasberry at my son, he was older than 9 days, when changing a nappy, he loved it but it took 6 motnhs for his to stop blowing saliva all over the house.
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Wait until he can walk, he will get up and walk away.
Hahahahaha, I love it when you do that for the first time and they do it all the time and make a right mess. Lol.
You'll just have to put up with it. Distractions are the best idea really. Make like something else in the room is far more interesting than his changing of his nappy. Anything like something on the TV EG 'look at that green car on the telly!' and point at it. Or get your better half to do something interesting and distracting whilst you change.
I had this problem with my nephew, sometimes they just scream, they'll get over it eventually.
I had this problem with my nephew, sometimes they just scream, they'll get over it eventually.
My son is just 2 months old now and seems to enjoy having his nappy changed. He's got a comfy change mat and I've put one of those high contrast black and white mobiles above it. He's mesmerised by it and has been so since a few days old. I also recommend the books with dots and shapes in black and white, or even print out some stuff.
I also continually talk to the wee fella throughout changing him (bores him into a temporary coma).
I also continually talk to the wee fella throughout changing him (bores him into a temporary coma).