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SexyBetty · 22 May 2006 at 13:41

It seems youre both happy to call it a day, so in answer to your question, yes. I think you should let go of love

Mellownatts · 22 May 2006 at 13:47

It's hard to let go sometimes, but it seems that you are ok with the split so yes i would so it may be time to let go.

Wryel · 22 May 2006 at 13:47

I'd warn you against sacrificing too much of your life for someone that you're not too sure about, (that's how it sounds to me) - if it goes wrong you could end up without a girlfriend and a whole load of regrets.

Leahfd · 22 May 2006 at 13:48

No i dont think you should change in order to get her back...

So i would say let go

booyaka · 22 May 2006 at 13:54

SexyBetty said:
It seems youre both happy to call it a day, so in answer to your question, yes. I think you should let go of love

agreed with this.

P.S is it me or is the general discussion forum turning into a "relationship advice/help column" recently ??

Sepheh · 22 May 2006 at 13:55

Let it go, it wont be easy, i am in a similar position to you right now. You will have moments of clarity followed by moments where you just want to be with them. You will eventually get to the point where you miss them less each day theyre gone!

SexyBetty · 22 May 2006 at 13:55

smoove said:
We both know we're in love, but its taxing as hell latley.

It shouldnt be that way. If you really have to work at it, youre not getting any enjoyment from the relationship.

Like I said, if you're both happy with the decision, time to call it a day, trust the OCUK collective... its for the best

Kell_ee001 · 22 May 2006 at 13:57

Only you know if what you both have is worth saving tbh

Relationships take work and compromise. Sometimes you do need to change to accomodate the other person but it depends what needs to be changed and again, it's up to you to decide if it's worth it.

From what you've said though it seems you've already given up so maybe it's not worth it in this case

Sic · 22 May 2006 at 13:58

booyaka said:
P.S is it me or is the general discussion forum turning into a "relationship advice/help column" recently ??

what do you mean "recently"? it's always been that way.

to the OP, congrats on being so considerate about it and not giving your (ex?) girlfriend a hard time over the decision. i know a lot of people wouldn't afford them that pleasure, regardless of the situation. if you can let her go, then it sounds like it'd be best for the both of you.

good luck in your business venture

Kell_ee001 · 22 May 2006 at 14:02

smoove said:
True true, do you think some time apart could help us at all?

Probably - although it sounds that's what you already have if you split up yesterday

SexyBetty · 22 May 2006 at 14:03

smoove said:
True true, do you think some time apart could help us at all?

If you want to make a clean break, best not to think about if you want to get back with her.

The majority of people in here can offer relationship advice in some shape or form, because chances are they have experienced it first hand. If people in here are saying its best to finish it, they know its for the best

FISHGUTS · 22 May 2006 at 14:07

I'd say you will probably regret it.
You say you still love her but I get the impression that for short term gain it's just something you can't be bothered putting the effort in to sort out. If you need to sort yourself out anyway . . . . . or are you happy smoking and drinking too much ?
Lose the girl then you REALLY won't have to bother then and will probably smoke and drink even more.

Wryel · 22 May 2006 at 14:13

SexyBetty said:
The majority of people in here can offer relationship advice in some shape or form, because chances are they have experienced it first hand. If people in here are saying its best to finish it, they know its for the best

Yup.

kitten_caboodle · 22 May 2006 at 15:16

If you even have to ask, she's probably not the right one for you and it sounds like you're not committed enough to make it work, you're just a little scared of letting go completely. It's a safety net scenario.

kitten_caboodle · 22 May 2006 at 15:44

smoove said:
I can either tell my self that it wasnt ment to be and I should let go, concentrate harder on things, sort my head out and do what I want, when I want. Or, cut back on things and let myself go with the flow and change to hold more love, to show more love for her.Neithers got the guarantee it could work, I could go solo to only find that I regret letting go, being selfish and that I need her love, or choose the second and find it didnt change a thing, since it was never ment to be and we breakup later down the line, leaving me worse off.

Choices choices

to be honest, if you're not sure what to do, do nothing. Time will help you sort your head out whether it be a few weeks or longer. Also be true for her.