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I had similar 2 years ago. The whole department was whispering around me except for me. Because I wear hearing aids, I presumed they were backstabbing me as there was no way I would have heard what they said. I was going to grass them up but I waited it out in the end, and within weeks, 2 of the whisperers had the chop :-)
 
It happens in every work place. Worrying about it isn't doing you any favours. I know its easy to say but you must leave work worries at work otherwise it WILL make your life miserable - I've been there. And if you enjoy the job just ride it out things will change.
 
smoove said:
Well it does directly effect me, being told that people have been slating me a lot in work, then having to work with them and mentioning nothing that I know. It just seems this is the entire practice of the team, now I'm at the point of snapping in work and causing a lot of trouble and dropping a lot of people in trouble and spilling the beans, since I've just kept my gob shut for a very long time, or going to HR and being the no1 enemy on the team.

I just dont want to be in this situation anymore.
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Confront your manager. I'm nit saying go postal and murder everyone and don't confront the group either simply take the boss to one side and ask him what the issue is. Be firm and put your point forward and don't take any bull. If you feel unsure of yourself ask his boss to be present as well.

Not to be nasty but man up and don't take their ****. I'm not trying to be a smart ass here but I get the feeling you aren't too confident and not really comfortable in confrontational situations. I was like this when I was younger and whilst it is difficult you need to force yourself past your anxiety into these difficult situations and you will come out the other side a better man.

Good luck.
 
i know its a tough situation. I have recently been put to work in the same office as my fiance without either of us being asked before hand. (re-deployed from 1 section to another). there is a click within my new office, 1 that in the past has caused many a tearful night from the mrs as she used 2 take a lot of **** from them.

I'll say to you know like I say to the better half all the time and the attitude i take to work.

You only have to work with these people. Your not there to be friends. You have your own social circles for that. I go into work, i am polite and curtiously to all, but I always maintain that they are colleagues not friends, I am there to do my job.
 
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