Depression

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Well I felt I needed to bleed my emotions somewhere, to do them on a internet forum may not be the best idea but it's all I have at this moment in time.

For a few months now I have been battling depression, and im so scared because I do not know whats causing it. I think it's a mixture of things, which I will be explaining later.

I really did not feel up to work this morning, so I called in sick and booked myself an appointment with my GP who I went to see at 10.50. Basically broke down infront of him and we had a chat about the situation I'm currently in.

I've made a hell of a lot of mistakes the past few years, including dropping out of 6th form, then dropping out of college. Then I recieved a loan for my car and im currently working for ASDA, which I hate.

Hate because you are basically treated like crap by customers and management. Also the store is banned from night deliveries and we are given an hour every morning to fill a whole department, which is impossible. So the rest of the day we are left chasing our tails and putting in a lot of work, to then be told we are again down on sales plan and down on last year (which as some of you may know, was probably the worst for Walmart/Asda for along time).

Speaking to the Doc sure did help, as I would love to get back into education but unfortunatly it's too late being as most places enrole and start by september. When I was at college, and working at ASDA I was still getting quite abit of money so I could easily afford to pay off my loan - Yet saving up (something I find hard to do) for this years insurance is another matter.

A few years ago, I met a gorgeous girl who I never realised liked me although I was mad about her. I never told her how I felt and she ended up seeing someone else who she broke up with in October/November after a year of seeing him and straight away she came to me. Which was great knowing. During that year, I was so jealous that I cut contact - Which was a stupid thing to do, I know that now.

She picked me straight up, I felt great when ever I was around her and I had the pleasure of being friends with her mates too. Christmas day came and I went around to her house (this girl, is also the sister of a friend of mine) to see her brother and her. Unfortunately she does not think her parents would understand if they knew we were kind of seeing each other. So im like/was a big secret and I could not go around if her brother was no there.

When I was around, I was sat next to her brother on his PC with her knelt at the end of his desk looking at the monitor. I couldn't keep my eyes of her, she looked great like always - she has these lovely big blue eyes.

I went home and decided to tell her how I felt, but she said another relationship is not what she was after, but she wanted to see me more. It really hurt in some respects, but she did feel something for me. Basically she became so attatched to her previous lover that it hurt when they split up and he wanted all or nothing. Told her friendship wasn't even on the cards.

I have basically since then been there for her always, sometimes she shows me some compassion and then other times she can be so cold and I now know it's to protect herself. She told me a week back that she has started to get attached and she doesn't need that.

Well I ruined things last night. Ever since I was a child, I have had a over active sub concsiousness. She was on msn to me last night and everything was going great, then she just flipped and said I have to go, can't talk. I offered to phone but she said no, I can't speak. She did how ever tell me she had found something out that she did not like.

I remembered that on Thursdays her brother went to badminton and her Ex also went, and something just clicked that her brother had come back with news that her ex had started seeing someone else.

She came back on MSN about an hour later and appologised, and asked if I were mad. I was not, I was just worried. I told her I thought I knew what had happened to which she offered to tell me, if I told her what I thought was wrong.

Turns out I was right, and when I found out I broke down in tears. Surely if she was bothered about him finding someone else, then she still has feelings for him? So I told her that I knew she still loved him although she was adiment she did not but she admited it hurt everytime she thought about him.

She told me from the beginning what she wanted, and that was abit of fun - which we sure did have. She also told me and made me promise that I would tell her if she was hurting me or messing me around.

She hasn't hurt me, I've hurt myself by thinking I could make her love me and by chasing her when she made it clear from the start.

Another thing about this girl is she basically hates herself due to her last relationship and she also thinks shes fat and ugly. Which she is neither. I know what your thinking, every woman feels that way, but I've never met anyone with such low self confidence as she has. Although to me, she is the most stunning girl I've ever laid eyes on.

So, she now thinks less of herself as she thinks she has hurt me and messed me around. That was the last thing I wanted, to make her feel worse and sad. I would give anything to make her happy, including trading all my feelings for her.

I need to kill these emotions I have for her, but I told her I will always be a friend. Currently we are friends with something extra and I do not want to loose that. But being friends as we are now, is that fueling my love for her?

I've royaly messed up anyways, and hurt her although I promised I wouldn't.

I was feeling worse than I am now months back before I had any contact with her, she has helped me so much yet she thinks she is causing me more pain.

Anyways, feel free to pick my post apart for spelling and grammar errors. Im sure its full of them as I wrote it in a rush. It probably does not even make sense.

I would do anything to stop feeling like this, I want to be back to the way I was..... it doesn't seem as if I am able to get back though. Hopefully the Anti-depressants he prescribed will kick in sooner than later.
 
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Firstly thank you both for the replys, and Sic, I would gladly have you on MSN.

Always wondered about adding you being as you live quite close (Evesham if im correct?) and you have a lot of similar interests such as web design.

I have thought about enrolling, I was thinking about putting more hours into work although I hate it to get more money and to start saving money for when I obviously go back to part time work. I was an idiot and took a loan with a 19% APR and its going to take another 4 years to pay off. Although the bank manager said I could go in after 6 months if I had kept up payments (which I have) and possibly get the APR dropped.

But surely he means taking out another loan with a lower APR, to pay that loan off? Couldn't lower the one after I signed? I ain't sure.

I need to get out more, I have been out more lately but before hand I was not due to all my peers going to university.

Whens the next OcUK meet? Would be great to meet some of the charachters on here.

Goals, thats what I need and I need to achieve them. In the past I have been lazy and I have learnt the hardway that it was wrong to be. Roll on September.
 
Ha ha! I knew I could count on you lot!

Firstly, a lot of you speak sense and reading the replies to myself opens my eyes. At the moment I am on a positive peak and im loving it. The problem is, the bad times come randomly and out of the blue.

Yewen, Thanks for the text - I've only just read it though as it was in my car door handle bit (I always put it there as I hear it vibrate so I can pull over, yet its so inconspicuous that I leave it there. However, im working most this weekend but as you know the weekdays I have free - so we can do something then for sure. Cheers mate, it helped when I was lapping the heatsink with you.

I have been out most the day, and it was great to go an see my Nan.

I also saw her today, and it was quite scary due to the problems the night before. But she just walked right up to me and gave me a massive hug. I have registered now that it can't be what I want it to be (for at least in this moment in time) and that I can not force her.

Anyways, Sic and Mohinder - your invitation to Liverpool sounds like an amazing idea and I would love to join you. I'll be paying petrol money though. Point me in the direction of the plans and etc?

As for the Anti-Depressants, I realise they do not work straight away, but I hope they kick in soon.

Just been back from the pub, but only stayed for 30 minuites with a friend. Im not keen on drinking at this moment in time. Yeah its great during the night but the morning after is hard when you feel like crap due to a skinfull, especially when I feel the way I do at the moment.

Well, heres to life!
 
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