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Pretty much sums up how I feel right now.

Came home from work today to be told by my mum that our Housing Association contacted her today and it was bad news. She was informed that the audio recording they recieved when we had sound equipment installed (recorded over a 10 day period mid January) was not enough to warrant legal action against our neighbours who have made our lives hell for nearly 9 months.

I am so angry and frustrated as we have done everything by the book and we feel so let down. My mum was telling me although our TLO was polite and has been most helpful, she has made it clear that it is not classed as a serious enough disturbance or is not frequent or intense enough to take it to the next stage, being ASB award (or something to that effect), severe warning or court, which could potentially lead to eviction.

We have filled in 10 ASB diaries as instructed by the TLO and these are very detailed and highlight many disturbances such as doors slamming, drawers banging, overly loud talking, appliances running (think washer), shouting, knocking sounds on the walls etc all during unsocial hours.

My mum even went to mediation with the mother of the family who are being a nuisance and we honestly believed things would improve. Basically she got very distressed and broke down on several occassions crying when the very same TLO said they would act and take matters further (sound recording devices, court etc) if the situation was not resolved and didn't improve.

That was back in August 2011. Since then things have gradually got worse and noise has become more frequent but according to our TLO, it isn't enough to take action.

So, where do we stand now? My mum has a meeting with them on Tues 6th March to further discuss the matter with the area MOD or something as my mum says (and rightly so) that we have done all these diaries and not retaliated in anyway, shape or form only to be told now at such a critical stage (and by that I mean that we could snap at any minute and all hell will break loose), that they cannot take it further.

I won't go on too much as I'm sure you understand I'm gutted and I can't think methodically to give all the details and trust me when I say this, 8 months of this **** is a lot to put down on here.

I hope I can sleep tonight as it's Friday and one of her sons (the main perpertrator) goes into town, gets drunk and comes back at about 12:30 - 12:45am banging doors etc.

Apparently this is not enough. I have lost all faith in our Association and I'm beginning to wonder if I/we are going to have to take matters into our own hands.

I swear I could knock 7 bells out of him and I know this isn't the answer. Our hands our tied.

Thanks for reading.
 
Seriously I wish I could but here's the thing and this is just pathetic. They or she (TLO) knows how I feel as I spoke to her in person (when I went to pick up some more stupid diaries to fill in) and I was advised not to confront our neighbours or him.

Now, I mentioned to her that I am at my wits end and have been running on reserve for months. I am the most placid person I know but I do fear what I could potentially do or be capable of if I "lost" it.

Now, the TLO explained to my mum today (by the way she is on tenancy so I cannot have any corresspondance with TLO even though I picked up diaries and was brief chat) that if we retaliate then the onus will be on us and they will take action against us!
 
Scum.

Had some people rent near us last year but luckily we managed to get them evicted.
Private rent, they ended up squatting and the owners paid a pretty penny to get them out and they trashed the house. Was worse 6 months though as there was upwards or 30 teenage scumbags round there day and night as mother was never there. There was loads of breakings and vandalism and its all stopped now they have gone.
 
That sucks man, but I checked up on noise complaints and they won't do anything about "normal" living sounds like people talking, children crying/running around. I have some neighbours above me who make a very loud noise when they shag (well specifically the woman who moans VERY loudly). Last night she was making such a noise near their window with the window open that you could hear her in the street (they are on the 2nd floor). I opened our window and shouted "SHUT THE **** UP!".

Also, quite disturbingly, I think I heard him trying to do anal with her last night. I heard her crying and tell him not to do something since it hurt, and I thought he was beating her or something, so I was getting ready to call the cops, but then I minute later I heard her moaning loudly and I thought how the **** can she go from crying in pain to having sex in 1 minute? Then I realised he must have been trying to smash her back door in and she wasn't happy about it.

Sorry for the disturbing sidetrack...
 
I'm so glad i have no issue with noise. I can sleep through literally anything, i remember when we had a loft conversion done, i slept through it every morning, cranes putting massive metal beams through the roof just above my bedroom and i slept like a baby
 
They may as well be made of paper. Ok yeah I get the whole 12.30 bang of door joke but seriously thats one incident of many and if I was to write down every single incident in them diaries and including what we put down whilst recording equipment was in, I think this would be a very long thread.
 
I never know which way to side on these things.

Once I was over at a friends house and we were lying on the sofa with music coming from laptop speakers fairly quietly when the police knocked on the door to ask where the party was (sarcastically of course as they'd shown up to no noise at all). The downstairs neighbours made complaints every time they heard the faintest noises such having the TV on at a normal volume or walking around at night to go to the toilet.
 
Get in touch with you local Victim Support. They will be able to help you deal with the housing association. It is free of charge.
 
I never know which way to side on these things.

Once I was over at a friends house and we were lying on the sofa with music coming from laptop speakers fairly quietly when the police knocked on the door to ask where the party was (sarcastically of course as they'd shown up to no noise at all). The downstairs neighbours made complaints every time they heard the faintest noises such having the TV on at a normal volume or walking around at night to go to the toilet.

So you're the op's next door neighbour :D
 
It's not like we "wait" for noise like if we hear the toliet flush or something and go "ah got ya" and then proceed to write it down. But, when your trying to sleep and your up for work the next day (none of them scum work btw) it gets tedious when they go about their activities at night.
 
Different people have different tolerances to sound and anyone picking on the op as being a bit of a wuss ( it will happen ) is out of order. By right the law states that noise behond a certain DB after 11pm is breaking the law and it seems to be as if the housing don't want to take action because it takes too much effort. The only advice I can give is talk to a solicitor, do you have any sound clips you can post here that we can make judgment on?. Perhaps we can see from the housing point of view

I had noisy neighbours, shouting...screaming and laughing from 2am beyond 3am EVERY night, it was killing me so I kicked up a fuss and threatened them with the council and spoke to landlord
 
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