Dilema

Dan Dan · 27 Jan 2011 at 16:52

Many of you guys will have seen the adverts for the film "Dilema", well this is real.

Long story short:
One of my friends started going out with a married (seperated but to me married is married) girl who he has subsequently fallen in love with. They have been together for about a year now but I found out the other day that whilst he was out of the country she has been unfaithful to him.

He has moved into her house since returning from being away and they always argue and he has started staying at his house a couple of nights a week. I dont know whether to tell him, causing them to break up or let the relationship run its natural cause?

They are both friends and I dont want to be the reason they split up or upset any of them.

My question is really. Do I tell him?

Dan Dan · 27 Jan 2011 at 19:30

I have, after a little bit of deliberation decided I am going to tell him. What is the best way do you rekon?

Dan Dan · 27 Jan 2011 at 19:41

amigafan2003 said:
"I slept with your G/F whilst you were abroad. She's a right goer isn't she?"

I was out of the country at the time too

Dan Dan · 27 Jan 2011 at 19:42

Pestilence said:
Just tell him straight, tbh.

A HUGE rift was formed between me and some of my closest friends when an ex cheated on me. Of course, it was a case of "always the last to know", yet none of them would just come out and tell me.

I felt more betrayed by them than her, tbh.

Thanks for that! Gives me a little more confidence in telling him. Would you have preffered to have been pulled to one side or over a drink or what?

Dan Dan · 28 Jan 2011 at 13:52

Just as a quick update I have told him. I said that I heard that she did, I dont know whether it is true (it is true) ect but I thought I should let you know. He is thankful for me telling him but I dont know what is going to happen with the relationship.

For the record her best friends husband let it slip after a few beers and told me not to say anything. She even rung her best friend and said have you told anybody about rob (name is not real btw...)

Dan Dan · 28 Jan 2011 at 14:39

platinum87 said:
I'd recommend to leave it alone if the above is true.

If i was in her situation and you told on me, i would never speak to you again under any circumstances. So the way i see it, you pick his side, or ignore it and pretend it never happened.

But if you were the 1 being cheated on and your friend didnt tell you, you would be upset.

Dan Dan · 28 Jan 2011 at 14:42

Virdi said:
Before you tell him - are you 110% sure she was unfaithful??

As said above it was her best friends husband who let it slip. He was scared that I was going to tell him and even bought me a beer cos I said I wouldnt say anything.

When I told him though I said I dont know whether it is true but I have heard...

He just rang me saying I know she hasnt done anything its just people stirring ect.