Just looking for advice about a strange situation I find myself in and not sure what to do. Split from my girlfriend of 4 years last summer and we’ve had very little contact since, just the odd birthday card between us, nothing else. I’m trying to get over her and move on with my life when out of the blue last week I receive an invite friend request from her to an online dating website. It’s been about 8 months since we saw and spoke to each other.
The invite had a message attached saying to check out her latest videos. This is out of character for her to contact like this and it turned out she had a profile on the website which correctly stated her name, email address, location/postcode and birthday. It even has a recent picture of her which was again strange for her to do. Even more strange to contact like this as when we parted we both agreed that was that and go our separate ways.
The message had an option to accept or reject the invite so I clicked on the reject that took me to registration page. On this page my email address was already inserted where I guess this was stored in a database from the invite request. However, the email address was an old one that is out of date now where my ex had been using the new one as of when we split. I didn’t register with the site in order either to reject or accept and checked with their privacy policy. It turns out that they record invite request, specifically the friend email address for their referral scheme. It said that if the friend wanted the details removed, then they were to contact technical support. I did asking for my details to be removed that they said they did but turns out they haven’t and the link is still active.
It gets a bit stranger in that the profile for my ex was created on the day I received the email and then deleted later that day. I checked in so much that the profile had the label recently joined under it and no longer appears on a search.
The thing I don’t understand is who would do this and why. Was it my ex? Was it someone we know? Why go to all this trouble now? Trying to think if I’ve offended anyone we mutually know but there isn’t anyone who is in contact with the both of us or would know her personal details.
Was speaking to a friend of mine about this specifically how could anyone get the personal details such as name, email address, birthday, postcode. Did think facebook but he said only if they were a friend. I can’t think of anyone on her side who would do this and I’m not on facebook.
In this conversation my friend said I should contact the ex and let her know that her details maybe being used for malicious purposes. It is this I’d like some suggestions on. Should I forward the email to her and warn her just in case? Would doing this look like a lame attempt to get in contact? Or is it a lame attempt for her to get me to contact her? As it’s a one off so far, I’m inclined to forget about it but given the correct details for the ex were on the profile I wonder if it’s wise just to forget about it.
The invite had a message attached saying to check out her latest videos. This is out of character for her to contact like this and it turned out she had a profile on the website which correctly stated her name, email address, location/postcode and birthday. It even has a recent picture of her which was again strange for her to do. Even more strange to contact like this as when we parted we both agreed that was that and go our separate ways.
The message had an option to accept or reject the invite so I clicked on the reject that took me to registration page. On this page my email address was already inserted where I guess this was stored in a database from the invite request. However, the email address was an old one that is out of date now where my ex had been using the new one as of when we split. I didn’t register with the site in order either to reject or accept and checked with their privacy policy. It turns out that they record invite request, specifically the friend email address for their referral scheme. It said that if the friend wanted the details removed, then they were to contact technical support. I did asking for my details to be removed that they said they did but turns out they haven’t and the link is still active.
It gets a bit stranger in that the profile for my ex was created on the day I received the email and then deleted later that day. I checked in so much that the profile had the label recently joined under it and no longer appears on a search.
The thing I don’t understand is who would do this and why. Was it my ex? Was it someone we know? Why go to all this trouble now? Trying to think if I’ve offended anyone we mutually know but there isn’t anyone who is in contact with the both of us or would know her personal details.
Was speaking to a friend of mine about this specifically how could anyone get the personal details such as name, email address, birthday, postcode. Did think facebook but he said only if they were a friend. I can’t think of anyone on her side who would do this and I’m not on facebook.
In this conversation my friend said I should contact the ex and let her know that her details maybe being used for malicious purposes. It is this I’d like some suggestions on. Should I forward the email to her and warn her just in case? Would doing this look like a lame attempt to get in contact? Or is it a lame attempt for her to get me to contact her? As it’s a one off so far, I’m inclined to forget about it but given the correct details for the ex were on the profile I wonder if it’s wise just to forget about it.
. Only kidding on the last point..... well i think 
may we see the video?