Divorce advice!!

drunken fool · 1 May 2006 at 22:49

Well, looks like me and the missus will soon be me and the ex-missus as she's finally decided to leave me for good. The question is what happens with the house and everthing inside?

Having never looked into this before or been in this position before i'm looking for a little advice. My opinion is i will give her a cheque for the difference in purchase to sale price for the house plus a little extra for the furnishings that are shared. Is that reasonable (bearing in mind i pay in 75% of the earnings in the house)?

She's decided to leave me and leave the house so as far as i am concerned the ball should be in my court on what i offer. I just don't want to sell the house and then have to buy it back.

Thanks in advance all........

drunken fool · 1 May 2006 at 22:52

Vanilla said:
Solicitor.

Now and every step of the way. If not doing the talking for you at least for advice on everything.

thing is we are still talking and trying to do this amicably. Is it still best for a solicitor?

drunken fool · 1 May 2006 at 22:55

cheers guys, will try and sort a solicitor in the morning. Although, maybe afternoon based on how many beers i have had since 'the announcement'

drunken fool · 1 May 2006 at 23:02

Mr Spew said:
If you're still talking, obviously that's a good thing, and you may be able to request whatever you paid into the house, you keep.

As said above, i earn a lot more than she does and therefore paid more in. If it were to come to the decision of one of us has to have the house then it's only me that can afford it on my own.

If hoping i can give her a cheque for half the difference on the house minus what i've paid for her car

drunken fool · 1 May 2006 at 23:53

UOcUK Poopscoop said:
Also if it goes through the courts you may get to learn a new definition of what "fair" means.

I assume there are no kids involved, if so reconsile yourself to the fact it could have been a lot worse.

no kids, but one 3 year old springer spaniel which may as well be my baby

drunken fool · 2 May 2006 at 00:08

Ghost in the Shell said:
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cheers for the advice mate, even though we may be in different situations they are still similar.

We have already tried relate and other counselling organisations but she never seemed to be able to handle them.

I have always had a problem with talking to others about my situations. I guess thats part of being an only child but i seem to have solved that with alcohol (be that a good or bad thing).

I have already accepted i am likely to get shafted and (in some strange way) am starting to think that she may have only ever been in it for the money and 'power people' that i work with.

Well, i suppose that life goes on......

drunken fool · 2 May 2006 at 00:09

drunken fool said:
cheers for the advice mate, even though we may be in different situations they are still similar.

We have already tried relate and other counselling organisations but she never seemed to be able to handle them.

I have always had a problem with talking to others about my situations. I guess thats part of being an only child but i seem to have solved that with alcohol (be that a good or bad thing).

I have already accepted i am likely to get shafted and (in some strange way) am starting to think that she may have only ever been in it for the money and 'power people' that i work with.

Well, i suppose that life goes on......

edit : email me your msn if you fancy talking about it. email in trust

drunken fool · 2 May 2006 at 00:28

Ghost in the Shell said:
in response -

she could use relate sessions for a 1-1 for a while until she feels the mediator has an understanding of her side which may well help to work together

im also an only child and i know what you mean but do find someone to work things through with, and preferably not a bottle they dont offer any long term solutions.. enjoy the freedom it provides you by all means but dont rely on it or see it as the answer. disasociate the two or you are likely to have an even bigger problem on your hands

even if its true that she used you, your only torturing yourself with feelings like that. be the better man and wish her well with her choices, it will help you in the long run and if it has any affect on her it will only be that she can relect on the good man that you are...

i dont have MSN on my mac at the mo and have to go to bed shortly but brownswoodbasement at gmail.com and maybe some other time we can chew the fat of life.

easy now

i must admit this is probably the best response i have read to a relationship thread on here!

I always resort to a bottle of something, it's the way i have been for a long time. Just recently i have turned to my closest uncle for support and he has been there for me but as he lives in france it's always difficult to be there 'at the time of need'

I will wish her well with whatever she choses to do as long as it isn't to try and shaft me