Divorce Proceedings - Financial Settlements

Well it depends how amicable you are able to be with each other. But if she pushed yes she could make you disclose finances just like she would have to. If you cqn agree to have a deed of separation done by her solicitors get it done but DONT sign it, take this to your own solicitor who can check and agree the right deal.

Courts though from my (expansive) knowledge of court systems it is an incredibly sexist place, if you have a penis prepare to have it amputated and blended up in a strawberry milkshake before your very eyes. So much I could say from my experiences of it but its getting passed my bedtime now
 
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da_mic_1530 said:
Now she's verbally told me of what is is she wants, and I can accept what she wants with a view to avoiding the expense of court.
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seems reasonable

I don't currently intend on getting a solicitor, I'm just going to pay 50% of her solicitors fees with a view to an amicable divorce....
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why does she need her own solicitor and why are you even thinking about paying for 50% of the fees????

The question - Her solicitor wants me to financially "disclose" my information, (12 months bank statements, 3 months payslips etc) is this standard practice at this point? I was hoping I would receive a proposal through the post (as per our verbal discussion) which I could be sign and be done with it. This suggests she may want more, however if it's just the "done thing" I can rest easier.[/B]
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Makes no sense - if you've reached an agreement then what do they need to see bank statements for?
I'd immediately question the need for any of that - put forward that you're happy with the agreement you've already reached and simply want to sign off on that otherwise, if they're trying to do anything other than that, you should really get your own solicitor. And don't pay for half of her solicitor - they're there to represent her interests not yours, save the money for your own solicitor if needed.
 
Of I ever get divorced them I certainly won't ever get married again. In hindsight I should have insisted that marriage gives us nothing extra and simply shafts the man when splitting up.
 
The only winners from divorce are solicitors.

I'd offer her a bit more than she's asked for, on the condition that she's willing to drop the solicitor and go through someone like http://www.divorce-online.co.uk/ - my boss did his relatively amicable divorce through them and highly recommends them.

Solicitors will try and stir things up simply to increase their fees. I know a couple who separated after a long marriage, he gave her £150k to start on her own. After 4 years they decided to get divorced. She goes to a solicitor who stirs things up and tells her she's entitled to twice that. He offered her another £50k which was basically the rest of his cash. She refused, 2 years wrangling and it goes to court. Court awarded her a settlement of £205k, so £5k more than he was willing to pay her, and she'd had to wait 2 years for it. However her legal bill was £15k and his was nearly £20k.

The absence of children and the short length of the marriage should mean you shouldn't get too badly screwed over.
 
if you have no kids and she hasn't given up work because of marriage it's 50% of assets and that's it, no maintenance

issues are pension and the possibility of any assets before marriage but no ongoing support
 
Hilariously poor advice from matdom right there. Doing the first steps yourself, while the other half has a solicitor, is one of the more direct routes to the ridiculously slow and expensive court.

A barrister speaks in court on the sufficiently high level occasions where solicitors are not allowed to. A barrister is not going to meet with you to discuss divorce proceedings, however desperate for work he may be, as that is not even close to what a barrister's job is.

Barristers are not uber solicitors. Or solicitors who worked hard and got promoted. It's a different profession, with different training.
 
I would like to point out that I know sweet fa about divorce and thta I have just got in from the pub. Unless you have billions then would it not be a straight split of assests? Considering you have no kids which should make things simple.
 
I'm so thankful that the easiest divorce I have ever heard of was my own!

No lawyer on either side, 50/50 split on everything, and bye!

oh and this! Great advice!

 
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Don't know much about divorce etc but i've got a quick question.

Say you've been married to someone for 6 months and you don't own anywhere together (just renting) and have been living together for about 6 months too. The woman doesn't have a job and has a child from another marriage and the man works full time.

What would the split be? Who would get what? There are no "assets" really as they don't own a house or have any savings of any kind, is the woman entitled to any of the mans salary? The only money coming in is the mans wage.
 
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