Divorce Settlements
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It is his own fault for making a contract with a female that did not have any escape clauses. If a man wants to get married without a prenup then i have no sympathy.
But i do disagree that because of a marriage contract that means one of the parties wealth is some how owed to the other. But i think this is fuelled by lawyers and their commission. I think if they purchased property or other material goods while they were married then both parties could have a valid argument for ownership. But for a man to make 100 million in his job and just because a woman marries him, i realy don't see how she could have a valid argument to any of that money.
But i do disagree that because of a marriage contract that means one of the parties wealth is some how owed to the other. But i think this is fuelled by lawyers and their commission. I think if they purchased property or other material goods while they were married then both parties could have a valid argument for ownership. But for a man to make 100 million in his job and just because a woman marries him, i realy don't see how she could have a valid argument to any of that money.
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I am still waiting for the story of young man who married a successful woman, only to have a divorce, take the children and demand a monthly salary and the house that she paid for.
Well an acquaintance of mine just got divorced after 19 years of (rough) marriage.
She has effectively gone a bit insane but won't accept help and won't admit she has, as a result she's become an unpredictable, frankly horrible person that holds a grudge until the end of time and won't think twice about lying to get her own way.
Their divorce (instigated by her) lasted 9 months, cost each side around 15,000 in costs (though she was eligible for "support" as she doesn't and never has worked for more than 8k a year in her life, other party paid for everything).
They have a child aged 14 between them who very much wants to stay with his dad as his mum has been nothing but a force for grief through his childhood while his dad has been a parent to him.
The eventual settlement?
The child does what he wants (i.e. goes with the dad), they each take one car from a pair, the house gets sold and split down the middle (she hasn't paid a penny into it from the day it was bought, in fact it was the dad who bought it and spent 2 years of his life doing it up before she moved in, making it worth half a million) and the dad has to pay HER so much per month as she isn't able to support herself because she's never had to go and get a job. She also gets 33% of his pension (he's a police officer so has had a pensions since he was 50 which tops up his salary until he is 65) until he dies and if she re-marries and croaks it before her new husband the dad has to keep paying this to the husband.
So the dad is now left having to pay maintenance to her, his salary has gone down each month due to her getting 33% of his pension contribution and when the house sells (that he is currently living in with the kid and paying all of the mortgage/bills for) he will get half of it.
That's the state of the UK divorce system, this was considered a damned good outcome by all lawyers asked...
This same woman has since gone even ore insane and committed acts of criminal GBH/criminal damage to the property and car yet getting a restraining order would realistically cost well over 1.5k so he's just sitting it out and hoping she doesn't do something terrible with their son.
Whatever you do, if you're a man and get divorced in the UK, do ensure you lube well first.
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Yea such a typical story, in some ways he is lucky that the child is the age he is, because if he was young the crazy mom would have got the child on top of everything else.
We never hear about the reversal because successful woman will never (any examples ill be happy to hear) marry a man that has no job and is going to be a full time dad or even man that has a much lower paid job. But even if there was a case like that and it went to court the wife would still be better off because they would side with her because she is the one who has worked and done all the hard work etc.
We never hear about the reversal because successful woman will never (any examples ill be happy to hear) marry a man that has no job and is going to be a full time dad or even man that has a much lower paid job. But even if there was a case like that and it went to court the wife would still be better off because they would side with her because she is the one who has worked and done all the hard work etc.
I've always wondered what would happen if you 'gave' all your money to your parents or a sibling and had the house bought under their name. Then, after the divorce, have the money given back and continue living in what is technically your parents house.
Much the same as if you did it to get around inheritance tax. They'd catch you out.
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Inheritance tax is, imo probably the most disgusting or outrageous tax ever conceived.
I'm advised that a fair well thought out prenup does work but probably gets into shaky ground the moment you have kids.
I had to pay spousal maintenance for 2 years, weekly maintenance for my kid (fair enough) and give her the house completely (205k)
Divorce and maintenance is generally a mess in the uk, I know two dads who pay nothing for there children but nothing happens to them, one because he's a dodgy character, the other because he has since had three other children and separated again so child 1 becomes low priority.
I had to pay spousal maintenance for 2 years, weekly maintenance for my kid (fair enough) and give her the house completely (205k)
Divorce and maintenance is generally a mess in the uk, I know two dads who pay nothing for there children but nothing happens to them, one because he's a dodgy character, the other because he has since had three other children and separated again so child 1 becomes low priority.
But not by much.
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Just makes me think of that greedy bitch Heather Mills and her £24.3million divorce settlement.
According to my gf, who is a barrister, you can.
Perhaps she's trying to tell you something
This.
I swear its behaviour like this that contributes to the attitude people have in this country of 'but I'm owed it'.
Admittedly don't know the ins and outs of anything between these people mentioned in this thread but what has SHE done for that fortune?
I don't know how I could cope if that happened to me, I'd probably lose the plot!
Sell all the assets and do a runner with the money?
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LOL! If she hadn't been so greedy in the first place this wouldn't be happening. £27,500 a month, for what, exactly???!!!
Someone should have told him: Disregard women, acquire currency.
I don't know how I could cope if that happened to me, I'd probably lose the plot!
Sell all the assets and do a runner with the money?
If there were no kids involved I'd leg it to a different country.
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Guy hides his money to avoid paying the required divorce settlement. Woman is at fault.
Misogyny runs rife on OCUK.
Misogyny runs rife on OCUK.
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Women, always get what they want in the divorce. Mum took all my dads savings and the house he bought 10 years before he met her.
LOGIC from the courts...
LOGIC from the courts...