Do you read your partners text messages?

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Does anyone here read their partners texts, without them knowing, if so why? is it to make yourself feel more comfortable and end any belief that is something is happening? Do you just generally get curious? How would you feel if you caught your partner going through your phone?

Does this destory the trust factor in a relationship?
 
I never would unless she showed me her texts. You could end up reading something differently from how it was intended, or find out something you didnt want to know. I just wouldnt do it, its untrusting.
 
I used to when I was a jealous, untrusting boyfriend, then again I was only 16-17 at the time and my GF was a whore.

With my current girlfriend I trust her so don't. and to be honest I wouldn't now anyway as I have grown up a lot and learnt from mistakes of the past.

She might ask me to read a text of hers to her is she is in the bath and has heard her phone go off or something though.

Yes I feel if you need to read personal messages because you don't trust someone, then something is wrong.
 
No. She's not stupid enough to leave anything incriminating on there so there would be no point. I wouldn't look anyway, unless I was particularly suspicious about something in particular.
 
Yeah we both do it, but it's not like we make a habit of it. Just randomly really. There's no lack of trust either, it's just interesting to see what they bother mentioning to you/what's going on that you don't know about.

Delete any texts you get from any ex girlfriend's regularly, I learned this lesson the hard way :o
 
We share each other's phone, she can answer mine and vice versa and yeah we've looked through some of each other's messages when we're trying to organise things - she has no issues, I have no issues - I have her email passwords and so on, I think I've logged in once when I was trying to find an email she had sent to someone so I could get the reference number - haven't bothered to since as I can't be bothered. There are no hidden doors in our relationship.
 
Zefan said:
Yeah we both do it, but it's not like we make a habit of it. Just randomly really. There's no lack of trust either, it's just interesting to see what they bother mentioning to you/what's going on that you don't know about.

Delete any texts you get from any ex girlfriend's regularly, I learned this lesson the hard way :o
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Sounds like somet aint -quite right there-, you say theres trust, yet you learned the hard way on this topic once ? Do tell,lol

And me no, of course not.
 
have done in the past when i was going out with a whore. but then i had thoughts she was cheating. turned out she was arranging to meet her ex for a shag
 
Not unless she shows them... as said above, it's distrustful and you may end up reading something in a completely different way than it was intended.
 
Zefan said:
Yeah we both do it, but it's not like we make a habit of it. Just randomly really. There's no lack of trust either, it's just interesting to see what they bother mentioning to you/what's going on that you don't know about.

Delete any texts you get from any ex girlfriend's regularly, I learned this lesson the hard way :o
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Ditto actually.

Though she knows about my exs and knows that she has nothing to worry about them - though I seldom hear from them anyway.
 
Combat squirrel said:
Sounds like somet aint -quite right there-, you say theres trust, yet you learned the hard way on this topic once ? Do tell,lol

And me no, of course not.
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Everything's fine I can assure you, my ex texts me randomly though (normally asking if I want to go out to X club or Y pub). Of course I tell her that I'm not up for it or I simply don't reply, but the sheer fact that my ex is texting me is enough to rattle her cage. It's very understandable and to be honest I expect no different - especially for someone who's been cheated on before.
 
Zefan said:
Yeah we both do it, but it's not like we make a habit of it. Just randomly really. There's no lack of trust either, it's just interesting to see what they bother mentioning to you/what's going on that you don't know about.
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Same, I just think me and the missus are really nosey.
 
I did it once without her knowledge (an ex), but it confirmed my suspicions of there being another man.

I wouldn't do it again though, as I still felt bad for breaching her privacy (we had recently split up, but were still living together until I could find a new place, so she technically never cheated).
 
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