Do you want to fit in?

Mason- said:
I can't think of anything worse than living a mediocre life, spewing out mediocre children, getting old and dying. Being remembered by my children, their children and maybe their children's children. But after that? Do you know the name of your grandfather's grandfather? **** that. I'd rather my name was remembered for contributing something new and novel rather than the norm.

Narcissistic I know but I can't help the way I feel.
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Is that you Steve Jobs?
 
Vonhelmet said:
I remember when he needed acid to fit that rat in.

*shudder*
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Counter point: Chapter - Killing Child At Zoo.

<oh, redacted because it's not great and happy reading to be honest>

I feel empty, hardly here at all, but even the arrival of the police seems an insufficient reason to move and I stand with the crowd outside the penguin habitat, with dozens of others, taking a long time to slowly blend in and then back away, until finally I’m walking down Fifth Avenue, surprised by how little blood has stained my jacket, and I stop in a bookstore and buy a book and then at a Dove Bar stand on the corner of Fifty-sixth Street, where I buy a Dove Bar—a coconut one—and I imagine a hole, widening in the sun, and for some reason this breaks the tension I started feeling when I first noticed the snowy owl’s eyes and then when it recurred after the boy was dragged out of the penguin habitat and I walked away, my hands soaked with blood, uncaught.
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I turned 30 when I decided I would no longer try to fit in.
What I didn't have before but do now is a gf and friends I fit in with. Before I was trying to fit in to various social groups.

I still work in an environment where I don't fit in and it does cause issues. Days drag, I don't want to socialise with them, I'm considered weird. But when they say they did 'nothing' at the weekend I feel like the lucky one to be doing so many things I enjoy with my gf and friends.

Just other day my gf said she wished robot wars ended as she had a craving to watch it. I don't know anyone at work who likes what I like.

So overall, I like to fit in somewhere, but won't change to make it so
 
I wish I could fit into the jeans I wore when I was at uni. Unfortunately with greater financial freedom comes great responsibility, and I chose to discard that responsibility in favour of takeaways.

Every now and then I wish I was a bit more mainstream, but people generally like me (I think, I've not done and my polling) and I have a great friendship group that's evolved over the years. Would be nice to have a cult of personality thing going on though, always fancied leading my own cult.
 
I've never really thought about it. I live in a place with a pretty small expat community, where everyone knows everyone else (this is A Bad Thing), and have a bunch of local friends too. So yes, I guess? I'm not sure what else I'm meant to do to fit in other than exist and be nice to people.

Edit: I guess I do want people to like me, but there are some who don't/are generally not interested in me, which is fine, because it's usually mutual. I'm probably friends with quite a few people I wouldn't be in another situation, but making friends like that is how I ended up being convinced to come here in the first place.
 
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We have a small cupboard by the front door that I've always wished I'd fit in. I imagine the fun it would be scaring people that come into my apartment. I really miss spending days on LSD, talking to pigeons and trying to work out why glass is see through.
 
Nahhh. Why would I want to be a sheep? When I could just be me? I only socialise with those of same interests. I dress like some emo teen when I'm nearly 30 and unless you like dogs, animals, tattoos, gaming, hiking and geeky programs and films.. then Im not interested.
 
RoboCod said:
Oh look, umpteen posters, all claiming they don't want to/can't/won't fit in. Effectively making them all the same.

You bloody sheep! :p
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When I was at college I truly did not fit in. I was not accepted by the popular sporty types, even though I was sporty myself as I had some other interests and generally preferred to keep my own company. I wasn't a loud mouth jock basically.

But what happens then is that the social outcasts form their own bands, they become emo/goths and basically all dress the same and listen to the same music. I would irritate these people by telling them I admired their uniforms.

I didn't hang around with the nerds because I wasn't one. I would rather play football. As a teenager this was really hard for me as I didn't fit in anywhere, I guess I could have been a classic American school shooter. I had trouble with bullies all my school life as I had no peer groups at all to offer protection.

As an adult it has become amusing. I'm still very fit and occasionally in bars I run into old school bullies who are petrified to approach me. I actively antagonise them now because I know that they are and always were cowards.
 
Thekwango said:
I dislike people, in fact I'd go as far to say as I despise most people in general. I do want to be liked by those I love/care for or have an emotional attachement to though.
Most people, however, just make me angry. Bizarrely I can mask all that when I need to and when socialising through normal day to day activities can appear quite the joyous, pleasant soul. An example being my works do last night. Most people seemed genuinely disappointed when I said I was leaving. So I obviously don't come across as being obnoxious publicly. Which is strange, for had they all simultaneously been choking on their food I'd have sat back merrily and watched.
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strangley and maybe thats why we dissagree on quite a lot i am very similar.:pi dont like people much i dont care what people think and i just do what i want . maybe its cold or maybe i have a little axe man in me waiting to break free :D

i do think that todays age is starting to breed this feeling though with technical advances with socializing maybe...

as someone has said above about his age.age is often very important to how people will respond to this question being asked by the op.

many teens or younger people want to fit in be me sir please be me.when you older you know what you like , dont like so dont give a toss.or less a toss as you know where you probably sit in lifes ladder so enjoy what you like.
 
never fitted in or wanted to.,last haircut in the 90s ,charity shop clothes ,prefer my dog to humans ,surf lifestyle ,often called weird
 
Shock as internet forum members lacking in social skills scrabble to share how much they hate everyone and everything.
 
One of Charlie Brooker's Black Mirror episodes covers this subject very well (the one where everyone has a rating out of 5).
 
Fit in with whom, or where?

Fit in with society as a whole? Nah, there's too much utter **** that modern society deems "good" or worthwhile, which is absolute garbage in my opinion. There's so much crap around and you have to be discerning. People tend to like crap, I think is what I'm saying. I find many things to be crap and I wonder why so many people enjoy them.

There are places I enjoy fitting in, such as at work where there are a few like-minded individuals and we have a good laugh. Professionally I like to fit in, but also delight in not fitting in on occasion. Also sometimes I want to kill everyone I see, but that's not too often.

In general fitting in has the advantage of smoothing your path, whereas not fitting in may allow you to reflect your individuality more, but often creates friction and can isolate you from others.

I'd wouldn't imagine there are many people who genuinely don't want to be part of some group or other. Being alone all the time is no fun - I can assure you from personal experience. And to not be completely alone you have to fit in with at least one other person, right?
 
Hellsmk2 said:
I'm a middle aged man.... couldn't care less anymore. In my twenties, yes.
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This explain it well. I’m 37 with an uber demanding job. I got stuff going on, I don’t stop and consider if I’m liked by random idiots.

Those thoughts died years ago.
 
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