Does everyone front happiness...

[Nitefly]

Well I'm fairly smart (degree, PhD, post-doc) but I'm happy as can be so I think your misery = high IQ hypothesis is worthless

You can't be that smart if you decided to do a PhD

 

[Dinomania]

Well I have an overwhelming urge to plough virginal soil.

I'm kidding.

Maybe.

I've lost nearly a stone in a month, lost my appetite recently, this feeling doesn't seem to be abating. This one is weird as I've always had an appetite and love food - I enjoy cooking it, I enjoy eating it, damn I enjoy passing it.

I might get that low I'll come full circle?

So it's affecting you physically as well.

I suggest you talk to someone about depression - it doesn't need to mean drugs, I don't consider counselling anywhere near as taboo as some people in this thread have made out.

Also, CBT is indeed worth having a look at, I know a couple of friends who've worked their way through problems using it.

 

[soundb0y]

Does everyone front happiness or is it just me?

I cogitate every second of the day often getting overwhelmed by my thoughts, I have lucid dreams and regular emotional position changes. My sleep can be great, or it can be awful, often I wake up for no apparent reason or wake up with my heart punching through my chest, again for reasons unknown to me.

I keep it all canned up, if you met me you wouldn't know it, I'm confident and slightly arrogant, very dry, but never appear unhappy - yet I so am. I’m more sensitive than I let on, I worry quite a lot, but I don’t show any of this apart from to girlfriends (if they get close enough).

I don't think it's depression, I don't really believe in that, but I have felt like this since my mid-teens of which I am late twenties now.

I ponder the meaning of it 'all' far too much I think, appreciate my insignificance far too much; it's realistic if a little destructive. I often listen to music to drown out my thoughts, surely that’s not good?

I wasn't born a cynic; I used to be the happiest young boy on the planet, I was delivered with a smile on my face.

Just brain emptying here.

Are you me??

 

[Bleek]

Are you me??

No, you wouldn't find me living in Bristol.

 

[soundb0y]

No, you wouldn't find me living in Bristol.

Haha yeah ok fair play, I would have thought the same 3 years ago but after living here for a while I do quite like living here.


pic related??

 

[Bleek]

The first sentence applies, and there it ends.

 

[RossG]

A lot of this thread explains my issues too. But here's a question, do any of you very occasionally, have a day or even a few hours in a day where your head isn't compeltely clouded by deep thoughts, and you actually feel happy? This happens to me once every six weeks or so, but these random days of happiness only started about 6 months ago. It just made me realise how crap I feel most of the time :/. It's almost like a high when it happens though, no worrying, no clouded mind, no bull**** questions flying around my head. For those few hours, life becomes dead clear. It soon fades though.

 

[BustaH]

I've never understood how people can just accept things and/or the way they feel and 'get on with it' leaving so many stones unturned and questions unanswered. I think that's the problem for me, it drives me to destraction; I don't want it to be my destruction!

If you constantly analyze your analysis you will never feel comfortable in your own skin.
feelings are not always facts, human beings emotions are very often irrational and trying to understand or work all that out will drive you bonkers.

People are rainbow chasers, very often when we find the end of the rainbow we are still not satisfied so go on seeking something else which is why I said accept the way you feel, if its uncomfortable move on.

 

[semi-pro waster]

I like the quote but as you say it's a viewpoint and not necessarily fact.

Anyway, at what point did I suggest that having a low IQ made you an idiot? I didn't directly link either situation, I'm not calling people ungifted morons for being less intelligent than myself, you make it sound like I'm proclaiming to be a deity or something. I'm not even close.

I have however been formally tested and I know my own strengths, I've nothing to overinflate, my ego is in check.

You may not have flat out stated it (although your sentence that I originally quoted comes fairly close) but there was at least an implication that if you were less intelligent you'd be happy (or at least happier) which sounds conceited, if that wasn't your intention then I apologise but text is a distinctly imperfect medium so it isn't always easy to correct interpret meanings.

 

[Bleek]

No problem.

You're right though, text can easily be misconstrued because it's so two dimensional; having a conversation without emotion doesn't work.

 

[silvercut]

No problem.

You're right though, text can easily be misconstrued because it's so two dimensional; having a conversation without emotion doesn't work.

Unless you are Shakespeare, that guy was pretty good at conveying emotion just through words

 

[fastwunz]

basically, watch the first few episodes of The Darling Buds of May and you will know what happiness is.

Working in a flee / immigrant / pollution / boss infested city is perhaps the worst way to spend your life. Working outdoors, for yourself, in the countryside is in my opinion the greatest way of living. England is the most beautiful country in the world and people forget that they should be out there appreciating it.

I completely sympathise with Bleek, your regular environment can completely shoot you down, however, getting away, getting into the countryside can completely change you. Try it, watch the sunrise accross an empty field at 5am in the autumn, walk in the woods after snow, get wasted with a mate overlooking a crisp winter lake with a camp fire (frying bacon and sausages is compulsary). But above all, just DO the things you dream about doing. Most cost too much money, but some, no matter how small can be done. See above for details.

 

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[Johnnytoxic]

Bleek you sound just like me.

I'm often looking up at the stars thinking WTF is all this about.

 

[Jynmagic]

Does everyone front happiness or is it just me?

I cogitate every second of the day often getting overwhelmed by my thoughts, I have lucid dreams and regular emotional position changes. My sleep can be great, or it can be awful, often I wake up for no apparent reason or wake up with my heart punching through my chest, again for reasons unknown to me.

I keep it all canned up, if you met me you wouldn't know it, I'm confident and slightly arrogant, very dry, but never appear unhappy - yet I so am. I’m more sensitive than I let on, I worry quite a lot, but I don’t show any of this apart from to girlfriends (if they get close enough).

I don't think it's depression, I don't really believe in that, but I have felt like this since my mid-teens of which I am late twenties now.

I ponder the meaning of it 'all' far too much I think, appreciate my insignificance far too much; it's realistic if a little destructive. I often listen to music to drown out my thoughts, surely that’s not good?

I wasn't born a cynic; I used to be the happiest young boy on the planet, I was delivered with a smile on my face.

Just brain emptying here.

You're depressed.

 

[Mr. Anderson]

Take time out to sit in a public populated place, and just watch people, watch them do what they do, often raises a smile on my face and puts me in a better mood knowing that being average is not actually a bad thing.

 

[NickK]

You need to find what really is important to you and then what makes you happy. If you've been working then sometimes people don't know the answers or have not had the time to sit and think about it.

Also it seems like you need to push yourself in terms adventure, change and experiences.

At the end it boils down to this:
1. you are going to die at some point and you don't know when.
2. if everything that you truly value is safe and happy then nothing else matters.
3. fill your hours with things you like doing - it's your life.

Sometime you get stuck in a rut..

After 12 years of the same company, I left and it took 2 months to unwind and somewhere around the 3rd month I spent a week contemplating the above. What is it all about? Why are we here? etc looking for someway to evaluate my existence. So came to the conclusion that (2) was my parents and sister's family. Then I started thinking what I enjoy as a income job, what recharges my batteries, what I want going forward. My choices for (3).
Forgot to say - that made me a happier individual

 

[suarve]

Take time out to sit in a public populated place, and just watch people, watch them do what they do, often raises a smile on my face and puts me in a better mood knowing that being average is not actually a bad thing.

Hehe. I do that quite a lot. Weirdly I find it very therapeutic

Must say, this is a very deep thread for GD.