Not read thread, but if I haven't forgotten all my GR...
just wondering if the past still exists...
Depends what you mean by "exist".
The main pitfall people fall into is around simultaneity. Einstein's relativity tells us that simultaneity is NOT universal. I might say two things happened at exactly the same moment, but some other observer (in a different frame of reference) might disagree and say one happened after the other.
So one observer's "past" event might well be the present or future for another. Wikipedia has some nice graphics on this
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Relativity_of_simultaneity
Therefore it makes no sense to talk about THE past (there isn't ONE), only the past as seen from your frame of reference (YOUR view of the past).
just wondering if the past still exists or is it instantly gone and only exists in memory...
Since time appears to be unidirectional, the OP is correct that "the past is gone". There's no way to reach or communicate with spacetime that's in your past.* As above, you have a version of events that you call the past, and so does every other observer, but they might be different.
...as the light has to travel from objects we see and our brains have to process this then we never see the present
You always live in your present, but the light you're receiving will have been emitted in the past, so yes I suppose this is true in that you never "see" the present.
* There are solutions to GR that permit time travel, but most people think they're "bugs" in the maths and will go away when we have better theories. See
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Closed_timelike_curve