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After the whole jealousy thing and stuff me and my girlfriend and split up. I've tried telling her I would do anything for her and that I want to change but she wont let me. She keeps saying I shouldnt have to change etc.

Just off the phone (after she done it over msn and wouldn't answer my phone calls etc) and when I asked her does she still want me she never answered and when I asked her does she still love me she never answered.

I don't know what to do. she said she'll text me later. she hung up after me pleading for 5 mins. Wouldnt let me come round or anything.

Im a NO SWEARING and I want to change, she jsut wont give me the chance.

We've been going for a year and a half now, well not anymore.

I've nothing to do. I'm lonely and feel like I should top my self tbh. Also feel I've no one to goto as she was my only proper friend who I could talk to.
 
me and my gf (first gf) broke up about 6 months ago, we had been going out a year and a half. we speak now and again, i saw a picture of us the other day, my heart sank into my stomach :(

Don't be too clingy at the moment mate, just give her a few days to calm down the more you nag at her the more she will get annoyed. Its hard but just try calm down yourself, dont don't top yourself !
 
kvfb97 said:
After the whole jealousy thing and stuff me and my girlfriend and split up. I've tried telling her I would do anything for her and that I want to change but she wont let me. She keeps saying I shouldnt have to change etc.

Just off the phone (after she done it over msn and wouldn't answer my phone calls etc) and when I asked her does she still want me she never answered and when I asked her does she still love me she never answered.

I don't know what to do. she said she'll text me later. she hung up after me pleading for 5 mins. Wouldnt let me come round or anything.

Im a **** and I want to change, she jsut wont give me the chance.

We've been going for a year and a half now, well not anymore.

I've nothing to do. I'm lonely and feel like I should top my self tbh. Also feel I've no one to goto as she was my only proper friend who I could talk to.
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Being clingy and desperate now is the last thing that will work, get some space, some perspective and show her that you are changing. Maybe in a month or two she will reconsider. If not you can get some closure.

Please see the bigger picture, not worth topping yourself over a girl.
 
My boyfriend of a year and a half broke up with me on Monday, these things happen. It really isn't the end of the world. I know it feels like it but really it isn't. Give it time and it stops hurting, it won't happen over night but eventually it will happen. I'm still hurting a lot i miss him and i feel sad but at the same time i've had a lot of space to think which has been good.
Again i'm like you in the fact i thought he was my only proper friend and i neglected a lot of my friends to spend time with him. Now a lot of my friends have come back and i'm having a ball, hardly had a minute to myself with all the people texting me and wanting to hang out. I also am just about to go back to uni, so have joined some clubs and societies to make more friends and again to take my mind off things.
You are being silly saying you should top yourself, no one is worth that. Go out with you your workmates, have fun you are 18 and have the rest of your life in front of you!
 
I know this horrible, emptiness feeling you talk of. It's awful and there is no cure. I've been where you are, but i lost far more.

Sounds like you want her back, as did i with my ex and she didn't want to know. UNTIL she found out i was seeing someone else, then she was all over me, and begging to get into my bed. It got messy, i was sleeping with both and it felt weird. Try it, don't stay in moping about, feeling sorry for yourself waiting for her to text you.

Get out there and show her you are strong and going to change. Go into town, buy yourself a tip top shirt and pull some woman. Chat to woman and practice on mingers to start with.

it will get better, it just takes time but longing and hoping for her return will not bring her back. Don't contact her and if you see her out, get talking to some bombshell.
 
Just go out tonight and get with as many ***** as you can. It will take your mind off it for a bit. :p
 
Una said:
Just go out tonight and get with as many ***** as you can. It will take your mind off it for a bit. :p
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I got a house full of women that will sort you out dude!! A weekened here you'll never want to leave!

Plus im the only bloke so come save me!

Anyway get out, meet someone new! I found a lot women recently that like guy thats are into the jealousy thing. I am one, not a fan of sharing my misis at all
 
Mate no women is worth the hassle, don't plea for her to take you back. Just pretend you aint too bothered, she'll end up missing you more and regret it but if your in her face then she won't just give her some space.

Let her text you first and take things from there, and if it don't work then it ain't meant to be.

I know its a lot easier for anyone to say these things and actually do it, but meh women aint worth the hassle mate.
 
Go over to her house and stand outside with a gettoblaster singing Whitney Houston's 'I will always love you' until the police turn up - that'll show her you're serious
 
Blackstar said:
My boyfriend of a year and a half broke up with me on Monday, these things happen. It really isn't the end of the world. I know it feels like it but really it isn't. Give it time and it stops hurting, it won't happen over night but eventually it will happen. I'm still hurting a lot i miss him and i feel sad but at the same time i've had a lot of space to think which has been good.
Again i'm like you in the fact i thought he was my only proper friend and i neglected a lot of my friends to spend time with him. Now a lot of my friends have come back and i'm having a ball, hardly had a minute to myself with all the people texting me and wanting to hang out. I also am just about to go back to uni, so have joined some clubs and societies to make more friends and again to take my mind off things.
You are being silly saying you should top yourself, no one is worth that. Go out with you your workmates, have fun you are 18 and have the rest of your life in front of you!
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Just saw your myspace, he must be an idiot! Ever fancy a date give me a shout lol :p
 
Moses99p said:
went really alpha and slept with her mum.
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If you have gut feelings that make you feel jealous, chances are you're either paranoid or she's lying to you :p

I got out of a 2 year relationship about 3 months ago. We were living in each others' pockets and it was just too much.

You'll feel crap for a few weeks, hit a point where you'll want to text her incessantly and beg her to take you back etc etc (making yourself look like a weak, desperate pr1ck in the process), go through a bitter phase of hating her, then you'll eventually settle down and realise that you're better off with your new found freedom. It'll probably take a month or two.

My advice:

1) Delete her phone numbers from your phone and cut off all contact
2) Do not answer phone to any withheld number/number you don't know
3) Surround yourself with friends
4) Get drunk with aforementioned friends
5) Go do something you couldn't do while you were with her (tandem skydive, weekend in Prague with mates etc), therefore realising that you've been missing this freedom.
6) Ex gets jealous/curious and starts sending you random texts/starts calling you wondering "how you are" - IGNORE!
7) Move on and enjoy life.


EDIT: Not sure about you, but to me, rebound is a no-no. Don't do it to yourself.
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