Ever did something you regretted ?

Deleted User 234324 · 3 Dec 2009 at 14:37

About 3 weeks ago I split with my long term girlfriend on the grounds that I wasnt happy in the relationship.

Well now i really regret it, as I do miss her an aweful lot, all the things that annoyed me before just seem so meaningless and pathetic I don't know why I felt like I did towards the end.

I haven't spoken to her yet about this as I have no idea if I should or not.

Do think I should talk to her or would it be better for her not me, to just back away. She was devestated when we split and I obviously don't want to cause anymore pain for her as I care about her more than she realised and I let on.

Deleted User 234324 · 3 Dec 2009 at 14:41

We had a break up about a year ago for the same reason, guess im just insecure as it always seems to manifest when she mentioned "moving in etc". Having never actually lived with anyone besides myself!

Deleted User 234324 · 3 Dec 2009 at 14:48

Tummy said:
So you messed up and now want to have her back?

Make your mind up.

Wish it were that easy.

Do I care about her. YES
Do I want to be with her. YES
Do I love her. YEAH but I never told her.

Deleted User 234324 · 3 Dec 2009 at 14:55

kgi said:
I suggest asking around strangers at some more forums about what you should do with the most important person in your life. Yes, sounds like a plan.

Sometimes it helps to get an outside opinion on something.

Deleted User 234324 · 3 Dec 2009 at 15:06

Yeah its happened before, and each time its when she asked about moving in, just feel im going to loose my own space if you know what I mean.

But I realise now that loosing her would be far worse than loosing a few hours to myself. To me it seems like its a case of man up and just move in, if she will take me back that is.

Deleted User 234324 · 3 Dec 2009 at 15:12

Oxide™ said:
how do you go out with a long term girlfriend and never tell them you love them? or am I being weird

Love was never really something that got passed around in my family unfortunately, We all know we love each other just never said it. Its a habbit I want to break!

Deleted User 234324 · 3 Dec 2009 at 15:22

amigafan2003 said:
Jesus - it's all getting a bit fruity in here.

What's wrong with the good old manly way of bottling your feelings up and soldiering on?

Pretty much how I am, same with doctors, if im not dead i dont go!

Deleted User 234324 · 18 Dec 2009 at 14:55

Well the past week has been quiet eventful.

I spoke to her not long after i originally posted this thread and while i did say how i felt about her, she didn't want to try again because she had met someone else (days before i plucked up the courage to talk).

Anyway fast forward a few weeks and speak to her again online this time and we make it quiet clear that yes she is hurt but she had been thinking about me even when with her new fella. Making dinner for her new bloke and wishing i was there to have some etc.

Anyway we had a huge chat earlier in the week and have decided to give it a shot again but this time on her terms and part of that is for me to face my fear of commitment and intimacy, So I quiet literally called up relate at 9am on the dot and got an appointment booked in, because i truely do love her to bits and until she realises how much i mean it, this will be tough, but so worth it in the long run.

We get on so well it seems a total waste to just let things go like before because no matter how much i tried to deny how i felt, i WANT her to be the one because she is friggin awesome!