Facebook Privacy

Nefarious · 16 Oct 2008 at 08:19

I foolishly added a family member to Facebook and they have ruined it for me. I am currently set to be invisible so that only I can add people and no one can 'see' me. They have tagged me in endless photos but...

Is there a way I can block them as a friend but pretend that I've deleted my account? Basically, I don't want to hurt their feelings but I want my life back.

Nefarious · 16 Oct 2008 at 17:56

ahhaha I did NOT say it ruined my life at any point, what I said is that she ruined facebook for me.

She asks questions about all my friends, she asks what I mean about status posts (including ones that I made months ago). She basically seems to find my life far more interesting than hers and she emails me, MSNs me and facebooks me with a constant barrage of questions relating to it. She is my sister and I love her but I would like her to have less information to question me on and to regain a bit of peace and privacy in my life.

So... any suggestions??

If I deny/block her - what messages will she actually receive about it?

Nefarious · 16 Oct 2008 at 19:21

mike5678 said:
She won't receive anything, you just won't be on her list next time she goes to look for you.

Thanks, I'll just delete her and say that I deleted the account.

Hellsmk2 said:
It's only facebook dude - be glad someone somewhere cares enough to take an interest in you.

Two things,

1. She's taking it beyond facebook and using it as a way of trying to 'invade' the rest of my life

2. There's interest and then there's obsession. The fact that she needs to go through all of my details rather than having a conversation is a little disturbing and no a little annoying. I'm her brother, not her social life.

Nefarious · 17 Oct 2008 at 11:51

mike5678 said:
He said his account is set to private. Like mine, I am on facebook, but no-one can find me on there because I'm hidden. I can find them and add them, but I am not visible to anyone else, unless they are on my friends list. I'm assuming this is the situation with the OP.

Indeed it is - congratulations on being the only person who has apparently read my posts, understood them AND has a basic understanding of Facebook

Kudos...

Nefarious · 20 Oct 2008 at 19:05

I agree that this sounds strange and crazy but that's sort of an accurate description for my sister. A case in point being that she went through the back log of my statuses and asked me questions about them, in one of her messages she actually used the expression 'explain yourself' when I'd written 'is a party boy with bad hobbits' - it made sense to a few people as it was an ongoing joke, I did not intend for me to have to waste my life explaining the minutiae of it to everyone else.

The long and the short of it is, Facebook is meant to be a bit of fun and not to be taken too seriously, she on the other hand seems to see it as an invaluable repository of information to question me over - status comments don't need to make sense and constantly explaining this to her is getting boring, as is this thread. I have deleted her rather than constantly hanging up on her (the fact that she calls me to ask me what I meant on a status comment from weeks ago should be a certain indication as to her peculiarity) she is my sister, I have to deal with her for the rest of my life and as such don't want Facebook to be the source of a feud. She's more than a bit crazy but I love her, I just would prefer not to deal with her quite so often....