I agree that i need to chill about it, i've just yet to find a solution for doing so. Have suffered with my nerves since my teens, it's not a nice thing, not for me and definately not for the kids. However, they are generally happy and content.
Fear 'stops child development'
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I agree that i need to chill about it, i've just yet to find a solution for doing so. Have suffered with my nerves since my teens, it's not a nice thing, not for me and definately not for the kids. However, they are generally happy and content.
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Good that you recognise it, mate! Hopefully you can come up with something that is good for everyone.
I can't stand these people who overprotect their kids.
"he's got a cold lets take him to the doctors"
you just want to whack the womans head in the door of her X5 her husband paid for and slam it repeatedly.
Smacking, my dad beat the living daylights out of me when I was a lad, never did me any harm. Supernanny can go eat a steaming bag of ****, you get a smack you know not to do it again.
Like if I threw something at my parents and I got a smack, I knew that was wrong, knew not to do it again. But if they had a good old shout and sat me on the naughty step i'd probably forget about it within a couple of days and get back to it.
Even in my later days, my dad kicked me out for a few days for bringing a girl back at 1 in the morning absolutely trashed when I was 16. I mean, thats fair play aint it, sod the law if I disrespect his house I aint entitled to a roof over my head regardless.
"he's got a cold lets take him to the doctors"
you just want to whack the womans head in the door of her X5 her husband paid for and slam it repeatedly.
Smacking, my dad beat the living daylights out of me when I was a lad, never did me any harm. Supernanny can go eat a steaming bag of ****, you get a smack you know not to do it again.
Like if I threw something at my parents and I got a smack, I knew that was wrong, knew not to do it again. But if they had a good old shout and sat me on the naughty step i'd probably forget about it within a couple of days and get back to it.
Even in my later days, my dad kicked me out for a few days for bringing a girl back at 1 in the morning absolutely trashed when I was 16. I mean, thats fair play aint it, sod the law if I disrespect his house I aint entitled to a roof over my head regardless.
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I was smacked as a child (18 atm) and never saw it that way. From my eyes it was not violence to solve a problem, but deserved punishment for my wrongdoings - and it worked. I didn't hate my parents for it, never feared them and the smacking was controlled, calm and not done out of rage. What's your definition of smacking?
I am grateful that my parents smacked me as a child as it has given me a sense of discipline. I myself am against violence as a means of solving problems (if I hadn't been smacked it could be the opposite, who knows?). Controlled punishment is not an act of violence but one of discipline. I fail to see how anyone can criticise it, so long as it's not outward child abuse.
My eldest child was a complete bugger! he was always up to mischief, he would dissapear on his bike for ages, not to be naughty he would just loose all track of time, we had the police out looking for him twice once when he was 3 and again when he was 8 I did not smack him for either event. It was my parenting that was wrong. It improved very quicklysmacking is never right I was phyisically abused as a child, my children will never know that fear.
regurlarly had the police out looking for me etc...
Like I sais, being a "complete bugger" and being an anti-social ****head are 2 different situations... granted, i wasn't a chav/ned/townie (had some respect), but attempting to torch the school, regurarly hitting teachers, daily fights, the list is very very long.
Yes, I throughly deserved those smacks. But only because there was no other deterrent... even a night in the cells (arranged by my dad and the police), didn't stop me. in THAT kind of case (you see a lot of that regularly on certain estates these days, back then it was a rarity), then if it stops, or at least calms the behavior, then IMHO, it IS a valid form of chastisement/deterrent.
In all honesty, nothing would have stopped me, but it did dissuade some of the more outlandish things I contemplated. The thought of a crack round the backside off my dad stopped more than a few really really silly things from happening.
I just grew out of it, so to speak.