Hi All
I'm going to keep this as simple as possible.
Basically my father has an adjoining neighbour, who to put it bluntly is an ignorant and arrogant ****.
The man is late 30s and the type who thinks he's better than everyone (moved from Richmond to subs of Herts). He's hypocritical, rude and fallen out with surrounding neighbours. Comes across as quiet and shy, but its all a front for his arrogance.
Over the years hes been very calculative, getting building work done when my parents are away.
Calling in and speaking to my sister to ask if they can access the garden to take up a fence panel to get machinery in etc etc...things that my father would not agree to and they know it. Basically for the fact he has only ever been hypocritical in his actions to my father.
So much so, my dads near to retirement age and he complacently hates him and cant relax. My father also a placid man, the kind that gets angry but needs to calm down and think about his wording before expressing his view, but gets nervous so doesn't bother. Probably not great in hindsight. Makes me want to go round and sort it out for him.
Anyway back to the advice I need. At the weekend my parents came over and he heard the neighbour with a builder asking him what he could do about my Dads fence as it annoys him blah blah blah. Basically my Dad owns the fence to the left of his house, but the neighbour is constantly abusing it with different ornaments, pushing it, adding things to my Dads trellis and generally doing as he pleases.
I know it sounds petty, but for a man that should be enjoying the prospect of retirement surely its not great and I want to sort this out or at least help him.
Anyway the builder when over to the trellis and started pushing through the roses that the neighbour is obviously growing next to the fence through the trellis etc and into my Dads garden.
What are the rules/law to say if anything grows over my Dads side of the fence or is installed attached to his, what can he possible say/do? He started snippy off the roses etc and I said he needs to stop.
He also said some of the tree next door overhangs into his garden and drops **** into his pond etc.
My Mum said she was going to speak to his wife but they both think my Dad is rude. He isn't he just tries to stand up for himself against these sn*bby types who think they can bully people.
I said don't bother, wait until they've paid out money and assess then what it is, while i will look into the legalities.
Other stories from the past are, My dad washes his car and leathers it off at weekends with the football playing on the car radio...they were having a party and making lots of noise, asked him to turn his radio down....hypocrites!
They nailed a bird box to the other side of my dads fence and broke some of the top of the fence.
Dug up the surrounding area and damaged a small picket fence my Dad had in between the house driveways.
Generally make a lot of noise some days after 11pm and then have the audacity to tell my Dad to turn his music down.
I know it seems tit for tat and ive told him to ignore it but when you live next to a bloke that looks past you and is always so ignorant, it will inevitably grate on you.
Personally i feel like going round and having a manly chat with him, but he is the kind of wimp that was born with a silver spoon in his mouth so would probably not answer the door or think hes better.
Anyway any advice would be appreciated.
I'm going to keep this as simple as possible.
Basically my father has an adjoining neighbour, who to put it bluntly is an ignorant and arrogant ****.
The man is late 30s and the type who thinks he's better than everyone (moved from Richmond to subs of Herts). He's hypocritical, rude and fallen out with surrounding neighbours. Comes across as quiet and shy, but its all a front for his arrogance.
Over the years hes been very calculative, getting building work done when my parents are away.
Calling in and speaking to my sister to ask if they can access the garden to take up a fence panel to get machinery in etc etc...things that my father would not agree to and they know it. Basically for the fact he has only ever been hypocritical in his actions to my father.
So much so, my dads near to retirement age and he complacently hates him and cant relax. My father also a placid man, the kind that gets angry but needs to calm down and think about his wording before expressing his view, but gets nervous so doesn't bother. Probably not great in hindsight. Makes me want to go round and sort it out for him.
Anyway back to the advice I need. At the weekend my parents came over and he heard the neighbour with a builder asking him what he could do about my Dads fence as it annoys him blah blah blah. Basically my Dad owns the fence to the left of his house, but the neighbour is constantly abusing it with different ornaments, pushing it, adding things to my Dads trellis and generally doing as he pleases.
I know it sounds petty, but for a man that should be enjoying the prospect of retirement surely its not great and I want to sort this out or at least help him.
Anyway the builder when over to the trellis and started pushing through the roses that the neighbour is obviously growing next to the fence through the trellis etc and into my Dads garden.
What are the rules/law to say if anything grows over my Dads side of the fence or is installed attached to his, what can he possible say/do? He started snippy off the roses etc and I said he needs to stop.
He also said some of the tree next door overhangs into his garden and drops **** into his pond etc.
My Mum said she was going to speak to his wife but they both think my Dad is rude. He isn't he just tries to stand up for himself against these sn*bby types who think they can bully people.
I said don't bother, wait until they've paid out money and assess then what it is, while i will look into the legalities.
Other stories from the past are, My dad washes his car and leathers it off at weekends with the football playing on the car radio...they were having a party and making lots of noise, asked him to turn his radio down....hypocrites!
They nailed a bird box to the other side of my dads fence and broke some of the top of the fence.
Dug up the surrounding area and damaged a small picket fence my Dad had in between the house driveways.
Generally make a lot of noise some days after 11pm and then have the audacity to tell my Dad to turn his music down.
I know it seems tit for tat and ive told him to ignore it but when you live next to a bloke that looks past you and is always so ignorant, it will inevitably grate on you.
Personally i feel like going round and having a manly chat with him, but he is the kind of wimp that was born with a silver spoon in his mouth so would probably not answer the door or think hes better.
Anyway any advice would be appreciated.
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