Finding a dead body

When I lived in Spain, at one of the properties I lived in, the next door neighbour hung himself on the tree in his garden.

Saw him early hours of the morning when I went outside.

His wife was howling, police + ambulance turned up etc etc


We spent the evening with the wife consoling her.



Woke up the next day and she was hanging from the same place. Unfortunately her neck hadn’t broken like her husband’s had, and so she’d died from oxygen starvation.




Horrible to witness and it stayed with me for a long time.
 
MrRockliffe said:
When I lived in Spain, at one of the properties I lived in, the next door neighbour hung himself on the tree in his garden.

Saw him early hours of the morning when I went outside.

His wife was howling, police + ambulance turned up etc etc


We spent the evening with the wife consoling her.



Woke up the next day and she was hanging from the same place. Unfortunately her neck hadn’t broken like her husband’s had, and so she’d died from oxygen starvation.




Horrible to witness and it stayed with me for a long time.
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Bleak!
 
Floaters for me. Couple of times a year. Fortunately none too badly decomposed. My earliest I actually didn't see, must have been about 19 and was out for a run. Turns out I'd run straight underneath a guy who hung himself in the woods near me and just hadn't seen him. Could never look at that tree in the same way again though.
 
dim_pwn said:
Few months ago, my Dad had a massive brain bleed and was put into palliative care as there was nothing they could do... they expected him to pass in a few days, he lasted 9 days before his heart gave out. Me and my family stayed with him the entire time in shifts to make sure someone was there at all times in case he had any kind of awareness (the care "cocktail" they give people doesn't knock them out, just relieves pain and has anti anxiety drugs so no way of knowing how aware they are).
Was very sobering when he took his last breath, especially how quickly he changed in the hour or two after (the doctor gave us some time to allow missing family to come in and say goodbye before he did the sign off).
You are right, it is very surreal and makes you question things, but it has also been quite weird to see (for me personally) how quicky my mind has made it feel like some old memory from years ago even though it was only in March. Funny thing death, I certainly couldn't be around it a lot like some of people posting above.... a lot of respect for people working in those industries.
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Reading this makes me think of my grandma, she passed earlier this year. She had a bad fall but was on the way to recovery however, the doctors took her off some meds which lead to a cascade of failing health and inevitably she couldn't come back from.

I had the opportunity to go see her one last time before she passed but.. i decided not to, i had so many nice and fond memories of my grandma and as silly as it sounds i didn't want my last memory of her to be someone who doesn't even recognise me and to be hooked up to a bunch of machines taking her last breath. Inevitably i had to say goodbye to her in an open casket at her funeral which was even harder as i had stored up so much emotion up until this point. It felt like someone opened the flood gates inside me and i just cried uncontrollably, feeling a little guilty at the same time.
 
My mother used to work long shifts is a type of care home for the elderly and it was quite normal to find a dead person, even in the day when several people were having a conversation in a room. One of them would just stop responding and they were gone.

But to walk into a house and find someone is a real shock, I hope it does not affect you too much.
 
I gave cpr to a contractor at work who had worked on and off there for years.
He was a sound guy so made it all the more real ad he had a heart attack.

Gave cpr until and while the ambulance crew arrived and drilled into his calf to administer drugs (adrenaline?)
He made it through as they defibbed him and he was back at work a few weeks later.
He bought me a pint:D
Regarding the dead, a few family members and all you remember is the last time you saw them, so don't do it if you don't have to.
 
m4rmite said:
I gave cpr to a contractor at work who had worked on and off there for years.
He was a sound guy so made it all the more real ad he had a heart attack.

Gave cpr until and while the ambulance crew arrived and drilled into his calf to administer drugs (adrenaline?)
He made it through as they defibbed him and he was back at work a few weeks later.
He bought me a pint:D
Regarding the dead, a few family members and all you remember is the last time you saw them, so don't do it if you don't have to.
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Nah, I have to respectfully disagree, the best thing you can do for a loved one is to be there with them at the end if you can, however hard it may be. And kids over say 10 need to see real death, to appreciate life, as computer games have sadly made them inured to it from I can see.
 
Wow what an hard experience to deal with. Make sure you don't try and macho it out and get some help if you need it. It's hard to deal with for some (myself included).

I have unfortunately been first on scene at a skydiving accident where sadly the person ended up dying within minutes of the ambulance turning up.
 
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