I don’t particularly disagree but Disney hotels are pretty good when it comes to location. Being able to walk to the parks is a nice bonus.
The hotels I usually frequent, Port Orleans (French Quarter when son was younger, Riverside when older), Beach Club and Yacht Club aren’t particularly disneyfied and no, you don’t need to be a childlike adult to stay there. Yes, you’ll see pictures of the mouse here and there but you’ll find that in almost every Orlando hotel.
Tickets when bought at booking are classed as park hoppers, go where you like, when you like. Kids want to spend the day splashing in water? Take them to a water park, Typhoon Lagoon is a family favourite.
As for booking restaurants, I understand it’s not to everyone’s liking but it’s the only way to ensure you get your favourites. Le Cellier, Teppan Edo, Yachtsman, California Grill, Boma and O’Hana are all excellent.
I tend to go in early May due to lower park numbers, least chance of rain in summer months and not too hot.