Getting Married + Advice

Wizzkidy

Wizzkidy

Wizzkidy

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Well you heard right, next year i'm getting married. Although this is great recently I have been having a little bit of a problem (not with the other half but something I would rather stay clear of)

So it begins, Recently myself and the other half have taken it upon ourselfs to house the other halfs little sister in our flat

She has been having lots of problems recently i.e taking loads of Coke and pills and also tackling bulimia at the same time.

We would never of known if it wasn't for her mum telling us she had this problem, thing is her mum does very little to resolve the issues and just shouts at her which of course puts her on a downer and off out she goes to get mashed again.

Her eating has become very bad and because of everything piled up (including her mum not helping at the time) we decided to take her in with us to help her, stop her taking the crap and hopefully get her to see a counciller.


Sister is 19, my other half is 22 and i'm 25

over the last few days my other half has been going to bed at a decent hour (been sleepy) fair enough you go to bed i'm staying up because I dont wanna go to bed.

I have her lilttle sister trying to get into my boxers :eek: and I must say its flattering to say the least. (they are both fit!) But we are talking about my marrage here! lol

The thing is I don't want to make her sister feel like a piece of crap and I don't want to depress her anymore then she already is and I must say I'm flattered by the fact the little sister thinks im hot ;)

Give me some advice here people, what would you do? I have told the little sister that she just a fit as my other half (and you don't beleave how alike they both are!) but that my passion is for her older sister yet I feel she wants my body

Yes of course I wouldn't do anything (I do have principles) I'm just after what you lot think.

(sorry for thre long read)
 
Nail them both. Post pics.

Utterly useless post i know, but hopefully made you smile at the thought, and got the obvious response out of the way
 
Go to bed at the same time as your gf and just read. If you can't do anything to get rid of the problem, avoid it

.Kencs said:
If you love your GF and you are planning to get married, you shouldn't need to ask our advice mate.
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it's a difficult situation though. turning her sister down could result in all kinds of backlash because of her instability - she might say anything about the situation because she's hurt, and it could totally wreck everything when all the OP's trying to do is avoid the situation. You should be able to say something to your gf, but she might get all defensive and side with her sister - tough one; hence avoid. (can you tell I watch Hollyoaks?!)
 
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I don't think your helping by saying you think shes fit etc, just tell her your not interested.

I odn't think there's a perfect outcome. either you hurt her feelings to what degree no one knows or you keep leading her on.
 
Awesome (at least in theory)

Speak to your missus to be, best she finds out now then she come down one night and find her sister all over you. Even though its uninvited and you'd be pushing her off it aint gonna look good.

Also i would have thought there is a pretty good chance of a bit of sibling rivalry going on.

Also also, TTIUWP ;)
 
.Kencs said:
If you love your GF and you are planning to get married, you shouldn't need to ask our advice mate.
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I would never ever go there with the sister, I DO love her older sister! (been with her 7 years)

But I don't want to upset the little sister either and as someone stated above I don't want her to spiral out of control.


it is a tough one to say the least.
 
Then I retract my statement and go with everyone else, Avoid her, BUT, If you know your GF well enough, and you think she WOULD take your side, then tell her about her sister, But again it would be a tough one to decide about
 
Kick her out, she's obviously thankful of what her sister has done for her. :rolleyes:

Stick to your plans for marriage, and if you and the GF are happy, DO-NOT do anything to risk this. Be open with her and tell her whats happened and if little sister stabs you in the back with lies about you being together (it could happen) it wont be a shock to your GF.
 
Wizzkidy said:
She has been having lots of problems recently i.e taking loads of Coke and pills and also tackling bulimia at the same time.



Sister is 19, my other half is 22 and i'm 25

I have her lilttle sister trying to get into my boxers :eek: and I must say its flattering to say the least. (they are both fit!) But we are talking about my marrage here! lol



Yes of course I wouldn't do anything (I do have principles) I'm just after what you lot think.
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You need to move her out (or you and the gf need to sit down and talk to her at the very least). Seriously the way she is out of control and the fact that you think she is "fit" will lead to a moment of madness. Talk to her first and then your wife-to-be.

Oh and fancying somebody with bulimia who has a cocaine habit. Ewwwww, isn't she all skinny and scanky 'cos of the coke and eating disorder?
 
.Kencs said:
Then I retract my statement and go with everyone else, Avoid her, BUT, If you know your GF well enough, and you think she WOULD take your side, then tell her about her sister, But again it would be a tough one to decide about
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It's a little hard to avoid her when she lives in a 1 bedroom flat with myself but I understand what your saying.

The thing is though is she seems to gain a lot more confidence about herself around me and I feel I am pulling her out of a hole that she has been in for awhile now.

She also seems to listen to me a lot more then her mum/sister

example - I told her she could do with a new job (its the people she hangs around with at her part time work at the moment that got her into this mess) next day bang she is out getting new application forms. I praise her and she seems to take my advice!

This is something I cannot afford to lose concidering in a few years she will end up killing herself.
 
Tell your other half about her little sister. I know it sounds daft, but it's not fair on you to have her little sister all over you when you'd rather nothing came of it.
 
LordSplodge said:
Oh and fancying somebody with bulimia who has a cocaine habit. Ewwwww, isn't she all skinny and scanky 'cos of the coke and eating disorder?
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Bulimia does not work like anorexia its the binge eating that causes health issues. She is not "skinny" and "scanky" and coke will only start to have huge affects after years of use, I'm trying to get this sorted once and for all because she WILL die or generally be a bum all her life if I dont pull her out
 
Wizzkidy said:
Bulimia does not work like anorexia its the binge eating that causes health issues. She is not "skinny" and "scanky" and coke will only start to have huge affects after years of use, I'm trying to get this sorted once and for all because she WILL die or generally be a bum all her life if I dont pull her out
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Good on you for wanting to help your soon to be sister-in-law out. Just make sure it doesn't back fire and wreck your marriage.

You NEED to talk this through with both parties. She is only doing this to get attention and feel loved. Her life is spiraling out of control.
 
Just tell that you are not interested, that you love here sister,etc.. she sounds very messed up and is looking for some affection and thinks that you're being so nice to her that this is obviously what you want. It can be done without her feeling worse, just tell her that you understand and also tell your g/f what is happening.
 
get one of your mates who is single and a good bloke to go out as couples. Start the chemistry
 
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