Getting married in july!

Immortal said:
we dont know where to start :eek:
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First make sure you love each other and want to spend the rest of your lives together.

After that it gets easier.

Get your friends and relatives to help out if at all possible. We did things on a serious budget... My dad did the ceremony, my mum made the cake, my mother in law made the dresses, my sister in laws boyfriend made the food... etc.

Don't be drawn into the commercial insanity of it all and you should manage fine.
 
LordSplodge said:
Actually it was just good lukc that it fell on May the 4th. We wanted the closest date to May the 1st or the Pagan festival of Beltane to apease the old gods.

The whole Victorian steam railway wedding was the coolest thing ever...<corny>best day of my life</corny>
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The wedding itself sounds fun.
 
Me and the missus get married on Sept 2nd.

We've worked fairly hard on a budget trying to make sure we've got everything covered. It's going to be a fairly large event (I have a large family). I think our budget (including the honeymoon) is currently around 9k and there's still quite a few things to sort out.

We're working on the basis that you only get married once, so you might as well do it properly.

We are not exactly flushed with cash, so this is why we've got as many things either estimated or already quoted on a spreadsheet, so we know what requires paying when. May come across as being terribly practical, but it will hopefully make for a good fun event which runs smoothly as possible.

If you want any specific things answered, let me know!
 
Since I have been divorced twice I feel I should say something negative. I am trying not to.....must resist....making...negative...post.

Anyway lad, good luck buddy and here is my advice.

Look at her mother, because your wife will end up looking like that. If you think you can live with that then go for it.

Things to get/organise;
Pick a best man and pick the bridesmaids.
Wedding Dress.
Formal wear for you and best man (maybe ushers too).
Wedding invitations.
If you require flowers - order them early.
Order the cake early too.
Honeymoon location/wedding night hotel.
Transportation for you and the missus to and from wedding.
Photographer
Wedding breakfast meal thing.
Stag night
Hen night.

But mainly remember: you only lose your life when you get married, you lose everything else when you divorce.

Good luck mate.
 
lol.
She has her wedding dress:)
Im hiring a suit,the best man etc are hiring their own suits,so thats good.
Have preliminary booked the church.
Was going to have the reception at the in laws pad,but father in law has said thats not good enough and is looking into a local pub with huge grounds and a couple of other places!

Invites and stationary are free as my old foster mum does them as a sideline and is also a trained chef,so all stationary is free,and so is the wedding cake:)


Just been reading up on speeches etc etc!Not looking forward to that!

Am phoning a couple of local flower shops shortly to get prices!

Will probably have a buffet type thing at the reception, which in theory should save on costs!

And yes I do love her;)

lol@prenups:p
 
Immortal said:
lol.
She has her wedding dress:)
Im hiring a suit,the best man etc are hiring their own suits,so thats good.
Have preliminary booked the church.
Was going to have the reception at the in laws pad,but father in law has said thats not good enough and is looking into a local pub with huge grounds and a couple of other places!

Invites and stationary are free as my old foster mum does them as a sideline and is also a trained chef,so all stationary is free,and so is the wedding cake:)


Just been reading up on speeches etc etc!Not looking forward to that!

Am phoning a couple of local flower shops shortly to get prices!

Will probably have a buffet type thing at the reception, which in theory should save on costs!

And yes I do love her;)

lol@prenups:p
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Sounds like you are fairly on top of things.

With ours, because the wedding is going to be in Jersey and my Fiancee's family are in England, we needed to advise people of the date, but it's a bit far away to send proper invites. What we've done is manage to find somewhere that has printed up fridge magnets for us with "Save the date" details. Should be going out in tomorrows post! We are also having a musical "theme" (I'm a musician), so the tables are going to have musicians names on rather than numbers, confetti in the shape of musical notes, that sort of thing.

Saving costs by only having flowers on top table and having balloons on the normal tables, wedding dress was bought from a friends shop who gave "family" discount (No, I've not seen it). Biggest expenses are the day reception, evening reception (not sorted that one yet) and the honeymoon.
 
Immortal said:
lol.
She has her wedding dress:)
Im hiring a suit,the best man etc are hiring their own suits,so thats good.
Have preliminary booked the church.
Was going to have the reception at the in laws pad,but father in law has said thats not good enough and is looking into a local pub with huge grounds and a couple of other places!

Invites and stationary are free as my old foster mum does them as a sideline and is also a trained chef,so all stationary is free,and so is the wedding cake:)


Just been reading up on speeches etc etc!Not looking forward to that!

Am phoning a couple of local flower shops shortly to get prices!

Will probably have a buffet type thing at the reception, which in theory should save on costs!

And yes I do love her;)

lol@prenups:p
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Sounds like you've got your head on the right way round. Good lad.
 
Immortal said:
Help!
Its a serious budget affair,as were not very well off!
But still arrrghhhhhhhh! :eek:
We've to start planning but where to start,what to do :eek:
Have the vicar lady person coming to our pad on thursday to discuss thing! :eek:
Help and advice desperately need here! :p
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We got married on a budget by normal standards but we didn't skimp on anything that we wanted.

How much is your budget.
How traditional do you want to be.

Church is around £500.
More if you want flowers and choirs and so on.

We chose horse and carriage - cheaper and far more romatic than a Merc or something.

The receptions can get stupidly expensive and horribly formal. I personally did not want formal seating arrangements, speeches, set menus or the naff end of evening "disco".

We spoke to a local pub with a very large beer garden that backs onto the canal who did decent home cooked food. We basically had the entire beergarden for our reception and some outbuildings and a marquee (about £1500).
The food for over 100 people was about £2000 because there wasn't formal waiter service, it was basically a garden party and you helped yourself to some decent grub and sat where you wanted. Cake cutting etc in the marquee.

For food we had honey glazed ham, roast beef, salmon, eggs in mayo and lots of sweet stuff. Eat what you want where you want with who you want. It made for a nice relaxed day and evening.

The formal stuff costs a fortune. For a photographer we picked a chap who specialised in reportage, I wanted photos that reflected the day rahter than the standard formal stuff. All in we had about 400 pictures, the photographer stayed all day and all night got hammered and the photos were superb. He cost about £500.

I am not a fan of fruitcake so my Aunt made us a wonderful chocolate 3 tier cake, yummy.

My advice is decide how you want to do it rather than how it is traditionally done.
 
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