Girl(s) issue

Stop over thinking
Forget about a women already in a relationship
Don't turn your head like a coward if a girl looks at you, smile back
Get to the gym and stick to it, eventually it may build some confidence

Would be a start.
 
Hi mate, when I was single I used to simply stare/catch eyes, if it lasted more than a few seconds just smile and hope she smiles back.

Then, if you fancy, go over and talk to her :)

ags
 
GeneralD said:
I get the overall impression she isnt impressed as I really seem to strugle (that and her BF is like a top manager in there which I would probably strugle to compete with).
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There's your problem she has a boyfriend...dude you flirt with someone or in your case try to flirt with some who has a boyfriend it will not end well and to be honest its wrong to do that to her.
 
Im recently single after an 8 year relationship and for a few months i was just the same.. then i got talking online to a female friend from a few years back and she gave me the best advice for chatting up women!

Basicly act like you are mr confident himself... your whole body language has to speak of confidence, even if you have none you can learn to make it look like you have!.

Imagine now you would walk down the street if you KNEW you were rich, attractive, well endowed and knew how to please all women in bed! yes thats right you would stride forward in confidence and not slink and mooch about.

I tried this and changed my outlook to more of

" if i see a woman i like im going to make conversation and just outright ask if shes seeing anyone and if not ask for a number, the worst she can say is no... and im no worse off, ill likely not see her again!" and it works.

Women seem to just sense if you dont actually really care if they find you attractive or not, its not for them to decide... YOU are making the choice not them... it sort of catches them off guard and its unexpected. Of course dont be a hard man and act like a tit or a clown... just be yourself and be confident and NOT needy.

Ive had over 10 dates in the past month, got loads of numbers and actually had THEM phoning me after a few days, clearly wondering why i asked for their number and yet havent called! i think women have bigger egos than men!

I met a nice girl at the m&s checkout and asked her for her number, she just grinned and said "sure you seem nice... but my boyfriend might not like it!.." and scribbled it down for me! i never called her and she txtd me after a few days asking if i wanted to meet up for a drink! i declined and told her to give me a call when she was single hahaha :p *edit: forgot to say i gave her my business card as well*

I really cannot describe how it feels after so many years of dating to finally "get it" and understand how to be! My friend said to try and act like a cool james bond type person, not arrogant or cocky just confident and not afraid of being embarrased or ridiculed..
 
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Dont be frightened. They eat the same as you, they sleep the same, stink out the bog the same, have up and down days etc.

They just have slightly different interests and priorities. Just start by complimenting her and asking what she likes to do out of work.
 
Agreed with previous posts. Think less about it, just make good eye contact and see where that leads you. Keep your head high and just go with it. There's nothing wrong with rejection in this situation as you're throwing away any chance anyway. You're not gonna make a tit of yourself, just keep it simple. There's no right or wrong thing to say, people are different. Casual comments about work or the weekend fun, great ice breakers :)
 
AtreuS said:
I met a nice girl at the m&s checkout and asked her for her number, she just grinned and said "sure you seem nice... but my boyfriend might not like it!.." and scribbled it down for me! i never called her and she txtd me after a few days asking if i wanted to meet up for a drink! i declined and told her to give me a call when she was single hahaha :p
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oh right, so unless she miraculously guessed your number, you gave her your number aswell then. you must have done, if you never called her ... right?
 
Just talk to women. No intention of pulling them (especially if you know they have a bloke, even more so if they work on same building as you and the bird), just get used to talking to women
 
GeneralD said:
I get the overall impression she isnt impressed as I really seem to strugle (that and her BF is like a top manager in there which I would probably strugle to compete with).
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I think its just a confidence/low self esteem thing... especially if you're considering a call centre manager hard to compete with - hardly A-list hollwood star is he....

Probably forget this one in particular as she works with you, she's dating a manager and you're likely to screw things up if you do attempt to approach her. The main thing to do is simply approach more women - don't worry about rejection etc.. its bound to happen a lot to start with - the more you get used to approaching random women and starting up a conversation with them the more confident/natural it will all become. You'll likely come across as awkward to begin with which is why you'll need to keep on trying - soon enough it will just feel like a natural thing to do.
 
As for going to shagaluf, since when do people talk before getting it on over there?!
 
some good tips so far.

You might be thinking you cant fake being confident. Ok then can you fake not giving a damn? Try that, i usually oscillate between the two. Also i would get into activities where you are talking to multiple women about different things. Then you wont be thinking they are some idol or put them on pedestals. They are people with their own insecurities and fears too.

Never just court 1 woman. Its not really courting you are just getting to know them as friends ;) Just be friendly with everyone really!

Also if she looks back or checks you out then shes interested (usually) regardless of what she actually says. Thats your signal to move in and tell any joke...any joke in the world..and she will laugh at it.
 
cm1179 said:
oh right, so unless she miraculously guessed your number, you gave her your number aswell then. you must have done, if you never called her ... right?
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hahaha good point forgot that bit! too busy typing and eating

I left her a work business card, has my mobile on it :p works much better than actually saying here is my mobile, you just give em your work card, in my case its fixing pcs etc, and say something like just in case you need a pc sorting.

As a side note i have noticed small but subtle changes in how my old mate is with me... we never got physical at any time as she just wasnt "into" me... well she seems to be changing hahaha
 
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Just go out a lot more, if you only go out once a week or less, you're cutting down your opportunities of meeting new people.

If you want a confidence boost, take a look at GQ - get a haircut and buy some new clothes. :p
 
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