Girl(s) issue

dowie said:
I think its just a confidence/low self esteem thing... especially if you're considering a call centre manager hard to compete with - hardly A-list hollwood star is he....
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I'm not sure exactly what he does, hes on a different floor to us at any rate I dont think they are Contact centre staff. Picking her up in his flash 6 series outside the office doors tends to be a bit of a b******.

I'm not sure why I even mentioned her anyway, it happened when I was at school aswell, I never do well with women I went to school/work with, for some reason. Probably a good thing anyway, as has been said, even if I did manage it, the likelyhood is making a hash of it and I wouldnt wanna deal with the fall out every day.........

Appreciate the comments lads,
 
GeneralD said:
I'm not sure exactly what he does, hes on a different floor to us at any rate I dont think they are Contact centre staff. Picking her up in his flash 6 series outside the office doors tends to be a bit of a b******.
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I wouldn't worry too much about status symbols etc... plenty of pale skinny hipster kids with no money around the east end of London who seem to have no trouble at all picking up rather attractive hipster girls... Simply being in a band (albeit a very very bad one) or being 'creative' will work for some women.

Most important part is confidence, can't be stressed enough really.
 
Top tip : don't put your penis in someone else's girlfriend. Particularly not someone who can fire you.

Also, assuming you're not some window-licking manchild, women do actually like you to talk with them. Relax and take it easy.
 
[FnG]magnolia;18415158 said:
Top tip : don't put your penis in someone else's girlfriend.
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more to the point, why on earth would you want to get involved on a serious level with someone who cheats on their partner? if she cheats on him, she'd sure as hell cheat on you if you ever got with her and there would never be any trust and is pretty much screwed from the word go.
 
I split up from my long term girlfriend about a year ago, it was only for a week or so but its surprising how things changed.

First off you're thinking about the ex and generally, as you know, just feel a tit talking to the ladies.

I went out with mates the weekend after we split and everything just felt better, I felt more confident in myself and was looking forward to a good laugh. Being with my mates I relaxed and was just having a good time, I got 2 numbers that night.

Nothing ever happened as I got back with my girlfriend but it shows that if you just relax, you come across better and women can see you for you, rather than the bloke thats trying to pull.

So just relax, have a laugh with your mates and see what happens. Maybe stick to buying your own drinks, means you wont get too drunk and its more time at the bar to meet that lady who's eye you've caught a few times.

Good luck
 
Spade to the head never ceses to win..

Seriously thou.. man up, If you fancy a girl go make the first move.. Worst repsonse? She could tell you to do one in a bad way... if she does get over it, always another.

Seriously dont overthink things and dont be a gay.

Good luck have fun!
 
Baby steps, baby steps.

Put relationships on the shelf completly, including the compliments, cheeky looks etc. I think first of all, you should just try and talk to girls as human beings. Okay, you cant talk to girls about football and overclocking, but find common ground and just learn to enjoy chatting to them. If you take the romantic interest out of the equation, you'll find that talking to them is just like talking to anyone else.

Once you've nailed that, you can try popping in the occasional compliment :)
 
try build some confidence, as previously said join a gym etc. Its like woman can sniff it. Also i feel i always get attention when i am not actively seeking it, so show that you are not interested. Don't go around pestering them and touching their arses.
 
Absomalutely said:
Baby steps, baby steps.

Put relationships on the shelf completly, including the compliments, cheeky looks etc. I think first of all, you should just try and talk to girls as human beings. Okay, you cant talk to girls about football and overclocking, but find common ground and just learn to enjoy chatting to them. If you take the romantic interest out of the equation, you'll find that talking to them is just like talking to anyone else.

Once you've nailed that, you can try popping in the occasional compliment :)
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This.

IMO, you are trying too hard, its not a race, got a whole life ahead of you to have relationships. You could do with stopping viewing women as "oppertunities" and seeking to "get in there", forget about the relationship side of things and just talk to them like normal people rather than potential targets.
 
I have two words for you "Speed Dating", I have had an identical issue but after a few nights in front of women for four minutes you have to start thinking and gave me great confidence to do the same in a Pub, club hell I even not talk to hot women on the Tube (two so far, no success yet but always got a "nice talking to you")

Gym is also a way forward as it helped a bit as well, but being stuck in front of a woman for an X amount of time who actually also wants to talk to you helped me a tone.

Hope this helps and happy practicing ;)
 
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"Girls are rubbish."

That's my way of looking at it - and I'm in and out of pasties like George Cloony. Just have a laugh in whatever situation you're in, I can't stress how important that one line is.

"Just have a laugh in whatever situation you're in"

Girls will come and go if you're fun to be around.
 
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