Girlfriend cheated on me.

Were you two actually dating? having re-red the OP it sounds like you were more of a stalker / think boyfriend. i mean if that behaviour was going on with your GF for more than 1 day you would be proper suss. Sounds like it was going on for a while, i.e. not getting allowed round hers or her answering phone/returning texts.

You sure this other guy isn't her long term boyfriend and you were the 3rd party all along?
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It was a full blown sexually active relationship but we do not live together. It was not some school yard crush. Perhaps my OP wasn't as succinct as it could have been, but I was emotional at the time.

Also many have said there is always two sides but the fact is she never even gave her side and just cheated. What hurt the most was the lies and deceit. We all know you can't change the way someone feels but I think people at least deserve some respect.

Anyway, I'm well rid and all my friends, family, and brothers on OCUK have been very supportive.
 
Dark Sun said:
It was a full blown sexually active relationship but we do not live together. It was not some school yard crush. Perhaps my OP wasn't as succinct as it could have been, but I was emotional at the time.

Also many have said there is always two sides but the fact is she never even gave her side and just cheated. What hurt the most was the lies and deceit. We all know you can't change the way someone feels but I think people at least deserve some respect.

Anyway, I'm well rid and all my friends, family, and brothers on OCUK have been very supportive.
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To be fair, that does suck big time.
 
It sounds like she broke up with you before she cheated!

didnt let you round any more, didnt see you much anymore, changed the locks, changed her number, moved, had facial reconstruction surgery to hide her appearance.. i just dont think you got the hint so she had to tell you she'd been riding someone else.

it obvisouly wasnt working out, you will find someone else. chin up
 
[TW]Fox;19241703 said:
My point is that there are two sides to every story and rarely is one person 100% devoid of blame.

More importantly, as casual observers on an internet forum, we can never know which one is the one devoid of blame, we only have a one sided story from the party who beleive they have been wronged.

So it's rather pointless to all start slagging off this girl. It may well be the case that the OP was infact a perfect gentlement, a model boyfriend, and this girl was a horrible, nasty, manipulative **** who has seriously wronged him. But it might also not be the case.
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So what? The fact we only have one side of the story doesn't make the thread pointless, because this isn't a trial and we aren't a jury. This is a forum, op is a member, and he's getting some crap of his chest. Pretty much only wants support, maybe some sympathy, maybe some advice. You saying you can't trust his word without the other side of the story, and can't return a verdict is what's pointless. He's not after judgement.
 
Get ****ed.

You'll find somebody deserving of you.

Every second you spend thinking of what a bitch she is/was is a second wasted. Life goes fast, it's hard to make the good things last.
 
It's over done and dusted. I forgave and tried to forget once and after 3 years of "forgetting" not quite working out and at my weakest point (I realised I was very depressed and decided to go get help) she unfolded a few lies (rape of all things) and cheated again just to put the icing on the cake.

Within 2 hours I was out with all my stuff. Yes, 12 months later I'm still living with my parents at almost 26 (we have/had a mortgage together) but when colleagues comment off the cuff and out of character "It's nice to see you smiling Dan" you know you're on the right track.

Gutless partners are the worst. Willing to do the crime but not the time. No, I doubt I was perfect, I was depressed and I doubt that was easy to live with but instead of communicating I was just left to my own misery of knwoing what was going on and trying to break the barrier of moving on. Personally I like to solve problems and fix things hence why I stayed with her after the first time, but it's pointless... you only fall harder the second... thrid.... who knows time.

Go do what makes you happy, take your mind off it and follow your heart. I'm sure looking back you'll see you own mistakes. It's not what happens, it's how we deal with things that defines us :)
 
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