Going out Solo

I do a fair bit alone. Cinema, gigs, solo holidays, I'll happily eat in a fast food place alone, but if it's a waited restaurant, I have eaten alone in them very occasionally in the psat, but I do feel a bit awkward to be honest.
 
It's nice I occasionally go to the cinema and my own and will definitely go to see Dune on my own in March. Likewise quite often I take the dog to the pub on my own for a few pints and a smoke. It's a great excuse to get away from the wife and kid
 
I have been going solo to may places on my own for years, restaurants, pubs, club, cinema, etc. Driven my reason to move away from the UK in 2019.

Here is where I travelled last year, for leisure not for work.

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If I had waited for my friends to arrange anything, I would be waiting a while! Reasons why I do many of my trips solo.
 
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McGray said:
Hear that!

Went skiing with some friends a couple of weeks ago and I spent the whole trip either frustrated or embarrassed.
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Oh hell yes....went out with a large group of friends for xmas and omg I was sooo frustrated...

1 person wanted a curry without curry powder....another wanted a vegan no fat soy milk bowl of rice.......another wnted duck fat roasted potatoes that were not roasted in duck fat....I joke of course but was head in hands the whole time..
Then when it arrives, a corner of a lettuce leaf is slightly less green than rest of it...whinge and send it back...a grain of rice is 1c less in temp than the rest of the bowl...whinge and send it back

It turns what is a 30 minute max job in to a 2 hour long dragged out moanfest, me I order whats on the menu, eat what I want, leave what I don't.
 
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I used to quite like going into pubs on my own when I was younger.

I lived in New Zealand for a while and occasionally had to go into Wellington for various things, there was a pub near(ish) the train station, the trains only went about 3 times a day each way.

I'd get there early in the morning, do whatever it was, go to the tax office or whatever, and I'd be done early, so to kill some time I'd go into some pub I'd find.

Something about being in a pub in a city 12000 miles from where you grew up, no one knows who you are was quite cool

I remember one time there, I met a bloke and we were talking about work, I did a manual job at the time, and that day had been using some epoxy that has stained my hands and by coincidence so had this guy. Anyway we got chatting after some beer turned out the guy had sone weed.

We walked around the corner had a little smoke.

Now for someone who had smoked a lot of the old magic tobacco recently, this stuff was particularly potent. We went back to the pub to buy by that time I was basically wrecked. Anyway, time came for the last train, probably like 6:30pm, so not late, very much as still daylight, completely stoned, I was walking around a busy Wellington train station, I was so bad, sone random lady came up to me and said "your so ******".

i managed to get the right train back up to Carterton, and home, had somewhat sobered up by the time I got back.
 
I go clubbing by myself, mainly to house/trance brands. I never feel out of place because we're all middle-aged ******** now and my friends don't like house or trance. I still end up meeting people who I've known in the 2000s and 2010s, and it's great bumping into randoms too.

A few people up-thread have mentioned restaurants. I only go to pub-style restaurants such as Hungry Horse if they're not taking bookings, plus Wetherpoons. I also enjoy a Caffe Nero. It would seem strange to me to solo somewhere that is bookings-only.
 
Interesting thread.
I've recently become single and living on my own. My small number of friends are busy with their lives and families, and as a result I've been bored with nothing to do lol
Sounds like I should be out enjoying my solo life!
 
Like a lot of replys work away so going out for a nice meal alone is no problem. Get used to it pretty quickly.

Been on a fair few holidays alone and again never had any issues / problems.
 
mushtafa said:
Interesting thread.
I've recently become single and living on my own. My small number of friends are busy with their lives and families, and as a result I've been bored with nothing to do lol
Sounds like I should be out enjoying my solo life!
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If you have no kids, time to get out and explore other countries.
 
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I've eaten in restaurants alone when travelling for business. I feel self-conscious usually, especially when I'm not actually eating but just sitting there in silence between courses or whatever because there isn't others to talk to.

As for going out, in my early 20s I used to go clubbing on my own a fair bit. Drink at home then head out around 11pm, I used to live walking distance from town which helped. Sometimes I'd bump into people I knew and if they asked who I was out with I'd usually just say they'd gone home. Too embarrassed really to just say "yeah my circle of friends is too small, I'm here alone because there's nobody to come with", I mean I'd go clubbing with friends too but they wouldn't go every week, also they generally seemed to favour the R'n'B room over trance which was more my type of music. I still harbour aspirations of going to Ibiza but I know I'd never convince others. I suppose worth noting there were no dating apps or similar back then, online dating was in its infancy and still had a massive stigma so clubs were still the main place to hookup.

Also used to sometimes go to the pub on my own to watch football when I didn't have Sky, I got to know the sort of pubs where I might meet fellow supporters and wearing the shirt made me more approachable to strike up conversations etc. I'm not really the type to just randomly go into the pub on my own and start chatting to people though.
 
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Ate alone in hotels and separate restaurants all over world during my years in telecoms.

If anyone found it odd, I never noticed. If I fancied talking to someone, sitting at the hotel bar for 5 minutes always found me someone to talk to, even if it was just a bored bartender.
 
I have holidayed solo too - I think travelling for work alone made it feel less unusual. I did 2 weeks in Thailand on my own in a rustic beachfront bungalow and it was great - there were days where I made friends, there were days where I didn't speak to a soul.

I've since done quite a lot of short trips around Europe, usually by train - same as above, sometimes I end up speaking to people and sometimes I am completely on my own the whole time. Both make for different experiences but I am fine with both.

Give me a couple of bottles of red and a long distance train on my own with a big stack of music and I'm a happy man tbh.
 
jeffk said:
As someone who has two young child, a long train journey on my own with a good book is my idea of heaven.
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I don’t have children, and whilst I don’t like trains, British trains to be exact, I love Japanese trains. The same thing can be said about air travel. I don’t mind long haul, even in economy for 12hrs. Secretly love how I am unreachable and can be in my own world for a short while.
 
mushtafa said:
Interesting thread.
I've recently become single and living on my own. My small number of friends are busy with their lives and families, and as a result I've been bored with nothing to do lol
Sounds like I should be out enjoying my solo life!
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Same here.

I've booked two cheap, short, solo holidays. First time doing something like this so it will be an experience.
 
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