I bought the Pro originally but ended up sending it back and getting the mini instead.
Coming from an 8 I found the size of the pro a bit too large and uncomfortable for me, not sure if it was the physical dimensions or the weight, but it was giving me pains in my hand to use so thought this isn't good.
I've always liked smaller phones but wanted to try the pro for the better camera features, but in all honesty I've not missed them dropping down to a mini.
Never used the telephoto lens on the pro for the couple of weeks I had it, only thing that might be nice would be lidar for night mode portraits and improved low light focusing, but in grand scheme of things they aren't things that get used often.
Night mode on standard mode photos is plenty good enough.