Have you ever wanted to un-learn something?

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I'm not talking about school stuff really, although this may apply to you, but stuff you wish you'd never found out.

Some things that I wish I'd never learnt are the facts in the James Bulger case which I studied when it was in the news, but which now haunts me and the fact that my brother was cheating on his wife.
 
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I've seen a few gruesome video clips in the past I wish i hadn't seen.

not quite the same but, i also sometimes make a point of not listening or trying to learn some things here in work. only stuff that I know i don't immediately need to know or I'll never need to know because if you tried to learn everything you'd forget some of the things that are important! :p
 
I thought the details of how James Bulger was killed were made very public, bricked to death? Not nice :(

Although I suppose there might be more nitty gritty details?

And ummmm no I can't think of anything
 
PaulStat said:
pretty sick, but I can't say I wish to "un-learn" it
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No, I know what you mean. Even the most vile and sickening information still provides me with insight into the world and the actions that humans are capable of. I've seen some pretty horrid stuff but it's all a learning process and I don't wish to 'unlearn' any of it.
 
yes i have wanted to unlearn things, things which now cause me great amounts of stress :(

i can think of 2 things in fact, one which shouldnt trouble me and does, and one which causes me day to day anxiety
 
trojan698 said:
What are they?
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ones to do with my missus past, thats the one that shouldnt trouble me as like i say, its all in the past (prior to meeting me, lets just say rape comes into it)

the other one is just simply anxiety causing stuff, which i prefer to try and keep in the back of my mind though it crops up now and then

EDIT: lol ^ ******e, i think another one would be... how do i say this without giving away too much on a family forum, women... 1cup..you know what im talking about
 
mrbios said:
yes i have wanted to unlearn things, things which now cause me great amounts of stress :(

i can think of 2 things in fact, one which shouldnt trouble me and does, and one which causes me day to day anxiety
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Im in a similar position.
 
mrbios said:
ones to do with my missus past, thats the one that shouldnt trouble me as like i say, its all in the past (prior to meeting me, lets just say rape comes into it)
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I learned someone about one of my girlfriend's pasts which I didn't like. I dumped her because of it.
 
Lysander said:
I learned someone about one of my girlfriend's pasts which I didn't like. I dumped her because of it.
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:eek: must have been fairly extreme?

i know she doesnt mind me talking about it hence why im happy enough to say it, but she was raped by a school friend years ago which caused her to have panic attacks and self harming issues until she met me (sounds a bit arrogant i know but ive spent a lot of time helping her get past it all, something which her past BFs never did)

shes been fine for over a year now though but for some reason it pops up in my mind and i cant get the image of someone else doing that too her out of my head :(
 
mrbios said:
:eek: must have been fairly extreme?
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It was pretty slutty. As soon as I was told I walked out.

mrbios said:
i know she doesnt mind me talking about it hence why im happy enough to say it, but she was raped by a school friend years ago which caused her to have panic attacks and self harming issues until she met me (sounds a bit arrogant i know but ive spent a lot of time helping her get past it all, something which her past BFs never did)

shes been fine for over a year now though but for some reason it pops up in my mind and i cant get the image of someone else doing that too her out of my head :(
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I know what you mean... even though it's not her 'fault' it plagues you. The thing is, everyone has a past. The older your gf is, the more of a past she's likely to have. She can't do anything to change it, so it's up to you to accept it or not. If you don't want to accept it, leave her. If you do, make a decision to accept it and put it out of your mind.
 
I wish I could forget someone I used to work with...haven't seen her in a year but can't seem to stop thinking about her, which is quite annoying (esp as I'm married).
On a more positive note, I'd like to un-learn some of my favourite films (Shawshank, American Beauty etc) so I could watch them for the first time again.
 
Lysander said:
I know what you mean... even though it's not her 'fault' it plagues you. The thing is, everyone has a past. The older your gf is, the more of a past she's likely to have. She can't do anything to change it, so it's up to you to accept it or not. If you don't want to accept it, leave her. If you do, make a decision to accept it and put it out of your mind.
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Tbh i think i have accepted it, its just a case of it still irritating me, i know its not her fault so i just let it go only for it to crop back up again sometime later, i think its more anger at the person that did it than anything (and a slight bit of anger at her for not telling the police about it at the time)
 
I know but you cant really wish to unlearn it surely as it's unfortunately a big part of who she is. If you didn't know about it, you might not understand her. My girlfriend had a similar thing happen which shaped her past, and inevitably herself. It's all part of getting to know someone I guess.

Part of the reason women don't go to the police after they're raped is shame, they blame themselves for it and turn any blame inwards, you can't blame her for it. Also, the first thing they want to do is shower, which in terms of gathering evidence is obviously the worst.
 
trojan698 said:
I know but you cant really wish to unlearn it surely as it's unfortunately a big part of who she is. If you didn't know about it, you might not understand her. My girlfriend had a similar thing happen which shaped her past, and inevitably herself. It's all part of getting to know someone I guess.

Part of the reason women don't go to the police after they're raped is shame, they blame themselves for it and turn any blame inwards, you can't blame her for it. Also, the first thing they want to do is shower, which in terms of gathering evidence is obviously the worst.
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yea i guess your right, basicly i have the feeling i wish i could "un-learn" it but in reality its better to know it as i understand her better because of knowing it

Guess its a case of just getting on with life and looking forwards rather than backwards
 
Ignorance is definitely bliss sometimes. Particularly with things like airborne bacteria and the number of dust mites eating your skin as you sleep.
 
I've not had anything as serious as the previous things in this thread. So here are the more trivial things. Video games and TV. The Phoenix Wright games, for example. I've played them all, and completed them, and loved them. But if I go back and look at them again, I remember the case, and remember what to do and where to go, which ruins it. I with I could un-learn/forget the plot, so I could enjoy going through it for the first time again.
Reminds me of an episode of Red Dwarf, where Holly deletes the memories of Agatha Christie's books, so he can read them again, but after deleting them, he doesn't read them because he's forgotten they exist.
 
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